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BBW/SSBBW, large, or fat? Which do you prefer to be called? Message board

  • View author's info Posted on Jan 09, 2006 at 01:22 PM

    There are all sorts of terms to describe a woman who maybe different from other women. There may be all sorts of acronyms. I think they are mostly used by people who need to segregate themselves and, thereby, cut down the competition. There should be no need to segregate ourselves unless we wish to belong to a seperate group; and I sincerely approve of and use the term Beautiful woman until I would get to know the woman. After I've gotten to know more about her then I'd be willing to use that inital "B". Of course that added "B" (for big) might still refer to her size, personality, sincerity, the ammount of love she has, many many other things. Maybe the term BBW is not a descriptive term but, instead, a question...........
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 09, 2006 at 01:17 AM

    Cathii write:
    Kaffien you said you *ain't fat I'm big boned! lol*

    I have heard people say *i am not big i am just undertall*

    Yeah It's one of my fav quotes from south park. Yes I still watch it and could care less if you all hate it.

    A character in south park likes to say 'I'm not fat I'm big boned' (that can be taken the wrong way but we are talking about basic body structure here... not any other various parts of the human anatomy.) Anyhow dude is very very undertall shall we say hehehe.

    I can't use the undertall thing, I'm not sky high but I am 6 feet tall.
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 08, 2006 at 08:18 PM

    also to add.. i also have to say? UGH i HATE the word FAT period! it does go with ugly it does! so insulting to me anyway. you're fat!? sounds just bad? you're a bbw, sounds kinder or you're a plus size is rather cute lol i dunno hmmmm?
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 08, 2006 at 08:12 PM

    i'd have to say? i like either full figured or plus size. though lately it's like why fight it? let's be proud of who we are ehhhhh BBW!!!!!!! anyone else???
    hi from sarah in san diego first time postin' again since last june. hope we all had a nice holiday and great start to the new year
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 08, 2006 at 12:40 PM

    LOL!! Me and my mom always did say our problem was our height. Not our weight. We were just too short. Oughta be 8 feet tall and then we wouldn't be overweight. LOL!!
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 08, 2006 at 05:00 AM

    I LIKE "UNDERTALL"!! May I use that? :>)

    Hell, I call myself FAT, so if anyone says it, I'm not super sensitive about it....

    I spent my young life (before 30) TOO SKINNY and hated it! Now, even though I have a few pounds I'd like to lose, I love that I finally have a round, juicy, FAT behind I can be proud of!!
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 06, 2006 at 03:37 AM

    FatGirlLvr write:
    I like ur honesty and ur username FiestyFatChick!

    I thank you.
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 04, 2006 at 12:11 PM

    Agreed, but like i said kinda ... most people i could care less what they think or call me.

    once in a while someone catches you off guard though.

    Anywhooo I ain't fat im big boned! lol

    either way Im still smiling.

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  • View author's info Posted on Jan 04, 2006 at 10:14 AM

    I like ur honesty and ur username FiestyFatChick!
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 04, 2006 at 09:21 AM

    I dont like being labelled I would prefer to be called by my name we dont refer to men as hey lanky or short stuff
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 04, 2006 at 05:56 AM

    I like to be called a human being to tell the truth...
    Very often -at least here in Germany- I have the feeling people see me as some sort of mutant or a monster.

    I personally do not understand, why I have to tell others that I am "fat" or why they have to tell me because it is clearly noticeble.
    If people say to me "Geez, you're FAT", it hurts me but I manage to say "Oh, so nice of you to inform me. I wouldn't have realized it otherwise!" or at least something in that direction.
    Still it hurts because I am reduced to how I look.. and that takes me every chance I had...

    If I chat to someone I stay sort of cryptic I guess... I say: "I'm almost as wide as I'm tall." Or I just tell them my weight and height.. they can figure it out be theirselves..

    Somehow large people are just labled that: big, large, fat, whatever... like they don't have other looks besides the bodyshape.. no race, no hair color, no nothing..

    Thin or skinny people are labled in other ways, like: "blond", or by the way they dress or their name (f.ex. how do you expect a "Tiffany" to be like?).
    Stereotypes rule the world and that's what lables are, right?
    I think it makes others feel safer because they can think they "know" you.

    In my profile I say I'm a BBG (Big Beautiful Goth) and I have to admitt I do not realy feel comfy with it, because I never thought (and still don't think) of myself as beautiful.

    Oh, well.. my two cents.. (or maybe it's already a dollar..)

    Best Wishes,

  • View author's info Posted on Jan 04, 2006 at 02:49 AM

    I use the word "fat." I, too, believe in taking the word back.

    I refuse to use the term "obese" because in the dictionary, it's defined as a disease.

    I refuse to use the word "overweight" because it implies judgement.

    "Large", "big"...those types of words are fine, too. They're honest, descriptive, and apt.

    We think in our language and I believe that if you think the word "fat" is bad, then you think being "fat" is bad.

    I don't want to hide behind euphamisms.
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 04, 2006 at 12:39 AM

    for myself stocky, large, i still kinda take offense to huge, fat or obese ... I'm not quite obese but I'm definitely stocky and large and big or whatever, I'm 6'0 and weight at about 280 - 300 depending on what scale i use....

    As for women i like using pleasantly plump. or voluptuous ... one of my favorite words.

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  • View author's info Posted on Jan 02, 2006 at 02:07 PM

    Id rather be called a women!

    Cos thats what i am!

    Vonnie xx

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  • View author's info Posted on Jan 01, 2006 at 09:22 PM


    I approach it much like you do. Being upfront with it actually flushes out folks that aren't sincere. :-) Nice to know someone around the block feels the same way I do!

    Some get freaked out when I refer to myself as the fat ch*ck or kid or whatever, but it doesn't make me uncomfortable at all. :-)
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 01, 2006 at 05:49 PM

    Well I'm happy to refer myself as BBW or cuddly on the net. It tends to weed out those who are definitely not interested in a cuddly woman and if I tell them that then i dont need to explain any further who i am. If they are not interested in a cuddly woman, and not interested in the 'real me' then why bother give any more of myself to them.
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 01, 2006 at 11:43 AM

    Very well said, SupersizedK!!!
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 31, 2005 at 10:26 AM

    As others before have said, it's all in the context.

    I usually use 'corpulent.' Since most people don't know what that means, I typically have to elaborate with, "That's a fun way of saying I'm super-sized!" Which, frankly, is a fun way of saying I'm really fat. ;-)

    Fat? Yes, that describes me.
    BBW? Sure, I'll answer to that-- although I've found that people who aren't BBW's or FA's tend to think that only 15 extra pounds is BBW.

    SSBBW I greatly prefer to BBW, because it lets them know from the start that I am more than just a little overweight.

    For some reason 'Obese' annoys me; I only want to hear that if you're a doctor.

    If I wasn't 'in-person,' I used to tip-toe around my size. For instance, if I was making plans on the phone, or even just chatting online with someone about a favorite book or a movie, I'd avoid describing myself. If we weren't going to be dating, what's the difference, right? Then I realized that this behavior lead others into thinking that I was either ashamed of myself or giving them permission to treat me poorly based on my weight.

    My weight is now one of the first things I'll tell someone about. I make a point of it. I've found it's made a *huge* difference in how people treat me. I get far more respect and courtesy. I think it's because by being up-front about my size, it lets them know that I'm confident & not trying to 'trick' them. Just a theory.
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 18, 2005 at 11:59 PM

    Rockchickbbw write:
    Yeah I agree with what you gals are saying about the "Beautiful" term in BBW , it just seems to be a label thats across the board, so if a guy asks me online if I am a BBW, I usually say, "well I am big, and I am a woman, as to whether you think I am beautiful or not is another thing". As the old saying goes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, whether you are fat or skinny or whatever ....

    I agree, but I think that the "beautiful" in BBW directly applies to what you perceive of yourself. I have known beautiful people that consider themselves below average in attractiveness and others who thought they were absolutely gorgeous, even though they were quite plain to me. Personally speaking, I would just rather be called fun and sexy!

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  • View author's info Posted on Dec 13, 2005 at 04:29 PM

    Why is he scary?