I need some advice! I have been seeing a guy off and on for about 6 months. He calls me nearly every night and comes over about once a week. He is a BHW, muscular, and a big sports fan--Nascar, baseball, football, etc. I am not really athletic but I will watch a race or a game. He has told me his "ideal woman" would be athletic. So far our "relationship" has been him coming over to watch TV and yes, we've been intimate. He is younger than me and has never been married. I think he is a bit immature acting, but he says he was in a live-in relationship with a woman for 6 years which ended a couple years ago. He is now living back at home with his dad. He says he "doesn't care" that I am fat(I am 5'4" and 270 lbs but am very pretty, I am told))--he seems plenty turned on, yet he doesn't seem too interested in going out in public with me. We attend the same church and have agreed not to let anyone there know we have been seeing each other. I am not necessarily looking for my next husband but I wonder if this is going anywhere since he obviously is looking for a jock--that is not me and never will be! I have to admit I enjoy his company but I am holding on to my heart and not trying to read more into this than it is. I am considering dating other men, because I want someone to take me out to dinner and movies, not just talking, watching TV and having sex. Still, I enjoy our time together and our friendship because it is sort of clandestine.
Is he "playing" me or am I using him?
What are the odds this man will ever want a more committed relationship?
I am not chasing him but I am not really wanting to sit at home waiting on him either. Should I just leave it alone and say "hope you find your dream girl?" Cause I sure am out of the running for that race!
This doesn't sound like the man for you. Clearly you want a more balanced relationship and he doesn't. Unfortunately it is a truism that men give love for sex and women will give sex for love. As long as you are with this fellow, who clearly doesn't respect you enough to treat you right, you won't have the opportunity to find a man who will treasure you for the person you are. I certainly understand not wanting to be alone, but is this relationship what you really want instead?
Hang in there sweetie!