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Happiness vs. Stability Posted on Jul 28, 2012 at 01:52 PM

Question: Have you ever been to a place in your life that you know for certain that you were not living your God given purpose? My career that I am currently in pays the bill but offers  no happiness what so ever. It gets to the point at times that I am physically ill because of my job. I get paid pretty well but the working conditions are less than stellar. I understand that I am blessed to have a job. Howver, I want a career. Question: Would you just stay at the job that you are at because it provides for you monetarily or would you go back to school and change careers.  Life is too short to live with regrets. I am to a place right now where I need some encouragement. This is not a decision that will only affect me but I have family members depending on my paycheck as well. Howver, I do not know how long I can take it being on this job.

Didn't you just say you were single??? .....Not Posted on Mar 05, 2012 at 02:21 AM
As of late is it just me or do more married and attached men v visit sites such as this proclaiming to be single? I do find that some of these men think that they can secretly live their lives and live double lives. To each its own but let a woman make a choice if she wants to be involved in an affair. So how many of you ladies have ran into this problem? also, most of the guys are married to very slender women. fellows please give us some insight....
FWB? Posted on Jul 29, 2011 at 10:17 PM
I am posing a question you guy and gals. Have you ever been in a friends with benefits relationship? How did it begin and how did it end? I find absolutely nothing wrong with this type of arrangement as long as both parties respect one another. Not just with random people but someone who you have a great time with and share the same interests with more than in that type of way. There is nothing wrong with someone who makes you feel alive sharing an intimate time with you. This person would be a great placeholder until that right person comes along. So what are your thoughts about this?
What I learned about these Dudes? LOL! Posted on Jul 06, 2011 at 02:07 PM
I have definitely been gone for a while. I see some lively discussions have been forming and I intent to get back into the swing of things. I have dated some people and learned some new things on the dating front. The most valuable thing that I have learned is that you have to compromise not lose yourself but compromise. So how has the dating scene been going for the rest of you and what have you learned or found to be true?
Why are Men so EVIL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Posted on Mar 29, 2011 at 11:10 PM
I am in no way inferring that all men are evil. I would say that 95.5% are. Just kidding I do not have any exact figure. LOL! I do not know whether it is just me but most guys that I run into even if it is just to become friends are more than likely very self-centered. They want what they want when they want it. Sometimes it seems like they are impatient kindergarteners. Some guys are so very quick to take but not to give. So help me out tell me if I am just running into this unique problem or if it is a general across the board problem for women. Men can you tell us why this is so and where can we meet decent men for friendship...
NO MORE PIECE OF MAN PLEASE!!! Posted on Feb 22, 2011 at 07:12 AM
I have come to a point in my life of acceptance of the possibility of remaining single. I realize that their is more than enough work to be done on myself. I have to learn to see people as who they really are and not just who I want them to be. I am looking for the friends without the benefits. If I am actually true to myself right now at this point in my life I need a detox. I have worked on cleansing myself of all the toxic people in my life. I just need a fresh start. Sometimes I look at certain women and I actually pity them. True, you have a man that shares the same house with you but not his whole heart with you. I am tired of settling for less than what I deserve so if I have to be single the rest of my life it is better than taking crap from some guy who is incapable of loving anyone because he does not love himself. I promise from this day forward that I will love me and never let anyone else abuse me again. Some signs are there and you already know how this man is. You can not conceal the truth for so long until it slaps you right dead in your face. So ladies no man is better than a piece of man. How do you all feel about this? Ladies and gentlemen please respond.
OUT WITH THE OLD....IN WITH THE NEW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Posted on Dec 31, 2010 at 09:18 PM
Wow! Its now 2011. As I sit here and reflect back on 2010. I think man what a ride. It was filled with mountain highs and valley lows. Hopefully this year will be better. I have improvements in my life that I need to make. Not just for this year but a lifestyle change. I want to live a healthier lifestyle and cleanse myself of toxic relationship and find real friends who have my best interest at heart. Of course I want to have money but happiness is on top of my list. How about you all...what kinda improvements do you guys plan on making this year?
Writing a book about bbws........... Posted on Nov 17, 2010 at 09:42 AM
I am in the process of writing a fictional book about bbws and our lives. The book will be multi-facet and not just be a sterotypical "fat lonely girl book". I am striving to have a book that enlightens people about our lives and our struggle. I want this book to speak to all people no matter the size, shape, color, gender, or etc. I would like some ideas as to what you all think I should have in the book as well. Let me know what you guys think. Your oppinions are definitely welcomed. There is gonna definitely be things in the about men in the phat closet. If you have ever been a man in this situtation or a woman who has had a man like this please tell me about it. I also want to know guys why you like bbws so much. I realize there is very little literature for plus size women that is uplifting. I am striving to be a pioneer in this particular genre. Everyone lets make this blog informative.
Men hiding in the Phat Closet! Posted on Sep 14, 2010 at 10:02 AM
I was watching a video on Monday with this very interesting topic. It is basically a guy who is attracted to a big woman, spends time with her, sleeps with her. However, he will not take her out in public are around his family or friends. So my question is ladies have you ever been in this type of arrangement? Guys have you ever been the "man in the PHAT closet"? Let's make this an informative discussion. People who have never blogged are welcomed as well.
Plus Sized Modeling... Posted on Aug 21, 2010 at 06:54 AM
I have been interested in seeing more plus size models. I am on a mission to see diversity. Beauty does not come in a one size fits all. There are so many body types, ethnicities, heights, and looks. I just think that more should be represented. I have googled and found some information about plus size modeling. I quickly get sent to a site that has major "adult content". So it leads me to this question... Is our only way to become a plus size model by having more adult content to how we model? What do u all think?
Through with LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!! Posted on Jul 07, 2010 at 10:16 PM
Is it me or does true love seem to be non-existent? It seems as though casual flings, cheating, and being dishonest have become the norm. What ever happened to true romance? What happened to men wanting respectable and good women? LARGE friends guys please give me your opinions.
Work in Progress? Posted on Apr 30, 2010 at 06:16 AM
Do you guys believe that someone can truly accept you for who you are? Do you think they can love the bad, good, and indifferent? Do you think someone can love you inspite of who you are and not feel the need to change you? Why does it seem like their is no unconditional love in the word? I am not at my destination yet but I am well on my way there. Share your thoughts. It would be greatly appreciated.
Are you ever unsure? Posted on Apr 29, 2010 at 09:09 AM
If given the opportunity to have something that you have been in search of all your life and it has finally been given to you. Would you be afraid to receive it? Have previous relationships stunted your growth with someone who seemed like they could be perfect for you? How do you overcome the uncertainity of not wanting to be hurt again and take a leap out on faith?
Where are all the good people? Posted on Apr 26, 2010 at 11:16 AM
I came on this site to meet people from various walks of life. I do not discrimate based on race, gender, creed, socioeconomic status, or size. I believe that as people we have to look further than all of these things that hinder us from being who we truly are. I am looking for great friends and nothing else matters as long as you are a true friend. Drop me a message. I am a standard member. Ready to meet some great friends.
Young, Dumb, !!!!!!!!! Posted on Apr 26, 2010 at 11:09 AM
Wow!!! It is amazing that there is such a stigma attached to young people particularly young women. Some of us are smart, articulate, and are mature to withstand any test that comes our way. I wonder why some men particularly older see the age and automatically assume that we are immature. I will soon be 24 years of age and I have not been a fool thus far and I do not plan on becoming one. We have more to offer than an easy lay. So I would appreciate if you all will help me to understand why older men think they can manipulate younger women?