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Posted on Thu, Apr 07, 2005 17:33

Well, I certainly agree that it helps everyone to be on the same page when both parties are informed of eachothers profile. Sometimes it can seem like a waste of time, but I guess it all depends.

Btw..I'm coming to NY on business in May! :)



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Posted on Thu, Apr 07, 2005 14:01

I read your profile and I don't think that it is raunchy at all. Anyone who responds to you, knows exactly what you are like and what you are looking for. But I don't understand what you are annoyed about, because you are inviting both men and women to e-mail you just to make friends. And I give you credit for being so open.

I will agree with you that it is a bit unfair that some people don't have pics, but what I find more irritating is when someone doesn't give much info in their profile.
When I was looking, I was very disappointed to see so many people--usually men-- have either one sentence about himself, or worse, the words "no preference" in the portion of the profile that allows you to write freely. Those kind of profiles were always a turn off. In my opinion, a profile that lacks a pic, but contains lots of detail about what a man wants and what he is looking for beats a profile that contains the most georgeous male in the world but lacks alot of detail.

Just my two cents worth!

  


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Posted on Thu, Apr 07, 2005 10:41

Hi Marvel - I read through your profile and while I think it's great, the issue just might be that you've peppered the sexual hints throughout your writing which makes the rest of your words feel, I don't know, less sincere somehow.

I don't mean to upset ya, but since you asked... You've got to remember that a lot of bbw's have encountered men who are users, liars and abusers. Just reading though the postings here I've learned that. So if you say that you're looking for something more serious, but start asking questions about sex right away, it comes off as pervy.

I totally get that in your profile you're looking for something 'real' and open. And while sex is certainly important, it's tough to trust someone who asks for your cup size and favorite positions after a coupe emails! ;-)

Anyhow - on to your other questions: Yes, I think that a photo is essential. I have a hard time responding to winks / emails without a photo. If something sparks my interest in a profile without a photo, I'll ask for one. But typically, I do not even bother. And yes, I also read the entire profile - it's important to me. You learn to read into the cues that men give in their words - meaning you can tell (most of the time) if someone is just looking for some "bbw fun" vs. making an honest stab at finding someone to date and get to know.

So - separately - how far from NYC are you?

- Curvy



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