Any man that would spout something like that to you doesn't love you for who you are! In the back of my mind I would think that he feels like he can do better, as if he's slumming it with you on his arm.
Leave him because he's not worth your self doubt, love, time, and tears. I know I'm late in my reply, but I hope you have kicked him- because once things like that issue forth from someone's mouth...you know it's deep in their heart.
I don't think anyone here is truly qualified to gauge whether you are in fact a bitch. You are fat (like me), you aren't ugly though. So his record is 1/1 so there's about a 50% chance that you are, in fact a bitch.
The real question you should be asking yourself is.. is being a bitch really a bad thing?
Please don't believe what he's saying to you because my ex boyfriend used to say the same things to me. I am a strong BBW and I never let what he said bring me down because I know I have a good heart and am very beautiful and can find anyone else. You should feel the same, you are beautiful and strong and whatever he doesn't like someone else will. Ask him, if you are so ugly and fat, why is he with you. Tell him to leave so someone better can have you.
I think you deserve each other. Do you think the ?R? word is any less negative and hurtful than ?fat, ugly bitch?? If you don?t think so ask mom of a child with a disability that has come home crying because they were called a ?retard? on the playground. Shame on all of you hypocrites.
I am a white woman who was married to an African man.We often argued about money, the kids, his fidelity issues and where we were going to go on vacation. Never once did I make a racist slur, never once did he call me fat, slob or the likes. I had a good friend, a white woman also married to a black man, and every fight they had inadvertenly resorted to name calling and racial slurs. I would ask "what the hell did that have to do with your argument?" the answer was "nothing, I was trying to hurt them". That's what all put downs are designed to do, hurt and disrupt the balance of power. People who are equal, mature and loving, don't set out to hurt to solve their thier problems.
You say this guy is big... sounds to me as if he is a pretty small guy trying to be big... Maybe you should post a picture of him on your profile so we can all make our own comments on him from face value as he obviously has no depth to him. I was seeing a man who told me he loved me...we were engaged 28 years ago, then when I got divorced, we got back together. Then we split up.. since that split I now find he mocks my size. He still says he loves me, yet he mocks my size... I think its his way of trying to console himself that he cannot have me. If you love this man, he needs to know he can't do this to you. Tell him... and walk away... if he comes running after you.. he loves you.. if not.. you are investing your time foolishly ... so take up one of these nice guys on here .. try a real man. xxxx
I think we all need to delete the word retard from this line. For one, it has been pointed out to me that people usually use this term in a derogatory fashion. The same way you wouldn't say this Cracker/Nigger/Jew/Spic/etc. blah, blah, blah, you shouldn't describe people as a retard. At one job I had, there was this co-worker who was screwing up everything he touched, which wasn't like him. We had always gotten along pretty good, drinking buddies and so forth, and I made the comment, "What are, retarded today?" Next thing I know, I'm being written up and reprimanded for calling him a retard. That word has been banished from my everyday vocabulary since then, even though that's what we called each other in high school. IT AIN'T PC. And on the other hand, even a retard has better manners than the Ahole boy friend and they know a pretty lady when they see one. Thank you for your support.
Bartles & James.