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Posted on Sat, Jan 22, 2005 08:46

There seems to be plenty of men for the BBW on here but where are the women looking for a BHM?



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Posted on Tue, Aug 30, 2005 15:38

Unfortunately, most of the guys I've met on here have a 'fat fetish'. I got very involved with a guy from this website that was an FFA. VERY serious fetish he had with this. Didn't want to accept the fact that women went on diets and had surgery to lose the unwanted weight. Thought it was a tragic thing. He had trouble accepting the fact that women could be so unhappy with the way they looked or felt about themselves that they would do such a thing as lose weight. I did try to explain to him that it was all about how a person feels about theirself. He lurks about on several different BBW dating sites. He's looking for the ultimate SSBBW. Whatever that is. I really don't think he's interested in meeting someone and getting to know them for their personality. Just the 'fat fetish' thing. Anyway, now I know to watch out for these type of men. I don't want someone that's gonna leave me if I decide to lose 150 pounds.

Anyway, I think it's the same thing. Reverse discrimination if you will. None of it makes alot of sense to me. I don't let someone's size determine whether I might click with them. Why should he?



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Posted on Sun, Aug 28, 2005 13:43

But isn't it the same as men seeking out strictly BBW's? Shouldn't we all be looking for the Mr. or Ms. Right no matter what they look like? BBW, SSBBW, or BHM? Just my thoughts on the subject................



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Posted on Fri, Aug 26, 2005 04:20

Theo .... can I ask a question if I may , what is your type ? what are the most important things you look for in a potential partner..??



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Posted on Thu, Aug 25, 2005 13:37


Theophrastus write:
Because size is a political issue whereas hair colour isn't. Size is more similar to skin colour than hair colour in terms of what it means for the individuals (though gratefully nobody's been lynched for being fat so it's not quite as bad).

If someone gets turned down for a date on the basis of hair colour it's seen as silly but it's not part of a wider social trend of villification and contempt. Every big person that turns someone down on the basis of their size is contributing to an anti-fat climate. They're something similar to an Uncle Tom.


As for people who protest that they just prefer smaller people, I'd suggest having a think about why it is that somebody having the same physical shape as you is such a turn-off.



Theophrastus, you're defintely on point here.

A bbw whom dates only smaller guys is essentially doing what alot of smaller guys do to her, mainly exclude her without ever getting to see past her size.

The same goes for a bhm whom dates only smaller women.

If all a bbw or bhm is after is s*x then by all means go for it. However, if they are looking for something serious then they should realize there is going to come a day when that body doesn't look like that no matter how good a care they take of themselves now.



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Posted on Wed, Aug 24, 2005 15:36


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then too should you have a problem with people who limit their searches to someone who has a degree, who is intelligent, doesnt live at home, who likes someone taller than them, someone who isnt married or defines an age range. Because its the same thing, really. Youre defining what you want in a match, physically and otherwise. Im not going to be attracted to someone who is sickly thin, unable to challenge intellectually and who lives in his parents basement playing EverQuest because he doesnt know what he wants with his life. SO im going define what i am looking for, in all honesty. This is the internet, not in person, and some things make up for what is lost - personality is hard to really see until you mean face to face. Until then, attraction has to have some pull.



YOU ARE SO RIGHT!!! That's it right there! This is the internet, should be taken lightly anyway! If I have 100 different points to chose from what I want in a man, I might as well put down exactly what I want. Doesnt mean I wont go out with someone who doesnt fit all 100 points, but wouldnt that be nice?



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Posted on Tue, Aug 23, 2005 12:48

then too should you have a problem with people who limit their searches to someone who has a degree, who is intelligent, doesnt live at home, who likes someone taller than them, someone who isnt married or defines an age range. Because its the same thing, really. Youre defining what you want in a match, physically and otherwise. Im not going to be attracted to someone who is sickly thin, unable to challenge intellectually and who lives in his parents basement playing EverQuest because he doesnt know what he wants with his life. SO im going define what i am looking for, in all honesty. This is the internet, not in person, and some things make up for what is lost - personality is hard to really see until you mean face to face. Until then, attraction has to have some pull.



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Posted on Mon, Aug 22, 2005 15:19

Oh...Theo, sorry..BUT I so have to reply to that bit about...BBW being either hypocrites, or self loathers???
Just because we might/or might not date bigger men?
I can assure you I am not a hypocrite, and I am most certainly not a self loather....I happen to be a slef assured, confident women, who rates personality above looks!
I dont give a toss about what someone looks like, if they can make me laugh,make me feel comfortable, but just because I am big, DOES NOT mean I have to date someone who is?
I go for a fella that can show me he is genuine, honest,funny and all those things...He could be a skinny man, or he could be a 20 stone man.
I really have got cross at your comments, but then again..You are young, maybe you just need to see a bit more of life, before you post such comments.



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Posted on Mon, Aug 22, 2005 13:40

I was wondering where all of the FFA are, too! LOL!

I wish one would admire me!



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Posted on Thu, Jul 21, 2005 16:05

I have dated all shapes and sizes. I prefer a BHM because their personalities are fantastic!
I find that most of the men who contact me are thin/skinny even underweight. Honestly I really rather a Santa Belly ! They are just too too cute and way sexy romantic !!!



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Posted on Fri, Jan 28, 2005 08:20

I agree with chubbygirl...I LOVE big men but by the same token I also value honesty, sincerity and thoughtfulness in a man whether he is large or not!

  


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Posted on Wed, Jan 26, 2005 05:26

I disagree.
It seems as though the bbw's are "almost" always looking for a specific type of guy. Unfortunately, the type rarely tends to be a bhm!



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Posted on Wed, Jan 26, 2005 04:57

Thank you for your comments.
It's good to know there are some of you out there. Are there any women from the UK looking for a BHM though?



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Posted on Tue, Jan 25, 2005 19:23

good point



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Posted on Tue, Jan 25, 2005 03:26

I think most of the bbw's on this site are looking for bhm's! You're definitely in the right place!



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Posted on Tue, Jan 25, 2005 01:31

Well I am sure there are pleanty of women such as myself who are BBW looking for a BHM .



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