oh btw, when i said intamacy, i meant s*x-i went to write the word s*x, only the website would not let me, so i had to find a different word-maybe intamcy was the wrong word because intamcy is more then just s*x, but please know when i used the word in my post, i was only referring to s*x.
(Be sure to see the post below for the first part of this....thanks :))
Well I'm not buying it. You are free to believe anything you like, and if part of that is your belief that women need men (because you didn't state otherwise) then more power to you, and good luck with that.
Additionally, I do not view intimacy as a strictly sexual thing.......because it isn't. Intimacy is built through closeness, and sexual relations certainly apply, but they are by no means the only avenue for intimacy.
Again, this is only what I believe. You are free to think about it any way you like. But for me, I don't NEED a man for anything. I want them, I love them, I desire them, but I don't NEED them. (This could quickly revert to an argument over syntax.)
I am responsible for myself. I am in charge of my life. I get to CHOOSE who I want in it and what part they play.
I'm so glad you asked about this. If mine is an opinion you have not encountered before, I hope you can view it as just that...an opinion. I'm not trying to convert anyone to the dark-side, nor I am I rambling on about something without provocation...
LOL Diva! I know what you mean!! Perhaps you can help me explain this to Writer, who has asked for our input.
Writer, you asked an interesting question and made some good points. I'll try to address what I think your major question is.....I believe that you are asking me why it is that I think a woman does not need a man.....if I'm wrong in my paraphrase.........I'm sorry!!
In my post, I was referring to neither love nor sexual relations. I was speaking much more generally. I'll speak only for myself here, since I don't expect many others to agree, and that's ok. We'll all believe in ideas that 'fit' for us, and this is the one that fits for me.
I am not a girl who invested a lot ot thought into the 'Price Charming' stuff. I refuse to believe that there is a person who will glide in and wisk me away from my mundane life and show me there is more to the world than the ho-hum existance I have been living. The reason I don't believe this?? I know that only I have the power to change my life. Only I have to power to see new things. Only I have the power to better my situation. (And this would be if I felt my current situation was in need of a new spin...)
I don't count on someone to 'complete' me. I am a complete being, totally independent of any man or any woman. That's really what my post boils down to......independence.
This is not to say that I don't love and desire men. I certainly do both, but I know that love and sexual relations from a man cannot make me the person I want to be.
The same can be said for a man. Acutally, it's much more common for that method of thinking to be acceptable for men. Imagine the older gentleman who has never been married. We view him as living a perfectly happy and full ife. Now imagine an older women who has never been married. The picture is VERY different. We view her as a spinster, who must be living a lonely and hollow life, devoid of any human contact.
hmmm-i have a problem with something u said southern-no woman needs a man? that is confusing. sometimes i here men say "women, who needs them?" i dont get that either. i mean intimatley your reason may be "i can get myself off better." that is not fair as their r men, who if u tell them how to read u, will get u off 20 times more, just like in my case i can get myself off 20 times better then the typical woman can, unless we spend time talking about what gets me off and how to do so, and if she has the will to make me happy (for i will certainly have the will to make her happy) love making will be 50 times more enjoyable then being by myself. however, intamcy aside (for that is not really what this is about) what about love? now if u r a lesbian, then my post has no merrit, but i know so many straight women who say "who needs men," and the way i take that is as if they r saying "who needs love?" i dont get it-training the body to get used to no physical contact from a man is one thing, but what about the heart? how can a woman look forward to knowing on her death bed she wont have the love of her life next to her cause she doesnt need a man? how can a man not want to have his heart given to that of a soulful loving woman? i just dont understand how people can do without love-is it bittness? have the ones who dont need it been screwed over, and because of it their faith in love is damaged, cause that is all i can come with-i am not attacking your view for while i dont get it, i DO respect it-but i am asking u to help me understand it-i am young and al though i pride myself on being mature, i dont know everything-maybe u can tell me how a person can do without a member of the gender they r attracted to, and thus be without love from that person because that kind of love is VERY different from the love u get with friends or other family members.
One reason you can't get what you want is because there are lots of people who LIE and let you think you're going to get what you want because they want the same the thing, only to say, Sorry just kidding. Of course, WE'RE supposed to know it was all in fun even thought nobody said so in the beginning, but hey, we'll never see each other so $crew you. Just give me Shui, Southern, and a few special others, and I'll be a happy pappy!!!