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Posted on Sun, Mar 25, 2007 09:50

Ok...what IS it with the guys that can't commit to even a cup of coffee or a movie, for gosh sakes? A guy I knew in high school suddenly popped up out of the blue, and wanted to go out. That was October 2006...it's now March 2007 and we have yet to get together. He cancels our dates every time. Only once was it something that came up on my end that caused me to have to cancel - out of 10 attempts, he has cancelled all the others.

I think the kicker was this weekend. He cancelled (again) due to a family function that came up. He e-mailed me and said, and I quote: "I'll call you this weekend if I have time and I'm in the mood." In the mood? What the heck is that? Needless to say he hasn't called..and if he did, I think I "wouldn't be in the mood" to take his call.

Sorry, I just had to rant. I haven't dated in over 2 years, and was kind of tickled to have someone from high school contact me - but to have him contact me and then turn out to be what he is was very disappointing. Is it too much to ask to just get together to watch a movie or go out and chat over a cup of coffee??



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Posted on Tue, Jul 24, 2007 15:27

LOL Ed...your reply made me chuckle. It's not outright hostility, just frustration, I guess.

You asked what the rest of the reasons were?

-"can't tell you in e-mail, it's just too lame of an excuse"

-ex wouldn't pick up son when she agreed to (which I understood)

-"had something come up"

-"buddy at work got fired and I'm depressed over it" (wtf??)

etc., etc., etc.

Now, I backed off since that post in March, and just let him stew for a while. He pops up every other month or so, talks for a while and then disappears again.

So now...since my kids are gone for the summer, I've started hitting the dating sites a little harder, and have actually had one date - kind of a nightmare, but hey, I had one! LOL

Ed, I do appreciate your viewpoint, and I apologize if my posting sounded hostile - I was simply frustrated, but have since decided it's not worth it. If he finds time for a movie or something, great. If not, that's fine too. And as far as offering a compromise, I did, many times, and he didn't take me up on it. And I did it in the most adult way possible.

And thanks to all who posted supportive words! :-)



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Posted on Sat, Jun 23, 2007 18:08

Goodo for you. stand up for yourself. This guy sounds like nothing but trouble, you are better off without him.



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Posted on Sun, Apr 22, 2007 18:07

OTB nailed it. And I think you need to be too bisy to reply to his email. You need to block him, stop talking about him and start sending out winks! ;-)



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Posted on Thu, Mar 29, 2007 04:45

From what you have said here, something tells me the man is married... all the warning flags are there. If I was you, I would send him an email telling him that you are too busy to play such childish games. Believe me... I've been there... done that... bought the hat! and shirt... and the coffee mug... and the... LOL

Good luck with the guy at work! You go girl!!!



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Posted on Wed, Mar 28, 2007 16:49

Thanks onthebeach! :-)

BTW, Mr. No-Show has e-mailed me twice since yesterday wondering where I'm at and why I'm not e-mailing him back.

(grin)



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Posted on Tue, Mar 27, 2007 17:44

God bless & good luck



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Posted on Mon, Mar 26, 2007 15:15

Thanks for the words of wisdom...it's just been frustrating. I have given him much more "benefit of the doubt" than I normally would to anyone, but I'm done with this. Movin' on!

(There's a nice guy at work that asked me out recently...)



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Posted on Mon, Mar 26, 2007 06:07

I'm definately agreeing with onthebeach. If I were you I would just stop making plans with him. Say, "Look, just call me if and when you GET into town, maybe we can get together then".

Well, good luck with that hon.



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Posted on Sun, Mar 25, 2007 21:32

How long will take to get the message that you are not considered a priority? He seems to be using you as an alternative in case nothing else is happening. God bless and good luck.



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