Why is it that a single father is looked down upon when it comes to dating? Single mom's I'm sure get some flak but I'll tell ya. We men sure get some flak for it. Why is that? I have enough love for everyone in my life. I do my best to be a good dad for my kids. What's wrong with that? I had to fight for the time I get with them. Michigan fathers don't get there kids without a fight.
Thanks for letting me vent!
I guess it depends on the person, massagingknight - I personally have no problem with a single dad who has custody of his kids. To me, that means he had the guts to stand up and fight for his kids, and the strength to stick to it and raise them.
I am on the same wave length as the rest of the women. A father has to has be something extra special to usually have and want his kids. Personally , I want a man who has his kids often/all the time as I think he has a more caring approach to life in general and a finer appreciation of things all around. I think being a single father gives you an edge. Do what feels right for you and good luck finding the lady the thinks the same.
So what is it about women who have their own kids with them, but insist that if the guy has kids, HIS can't live with him? The implied message there is: "You must accept my kids, but your own (the guy's) don't fit into this picture."
I, for one, don't look down at single fathers who have custody of their children. In fact, it makes me look at them even closer and more seriously. If a man has custody of his child, then he must be doing something really right, and that's what I want in a relationship with a man. I respect a man that can put his child first. I think everyone "expects" a mother to put her child first, so when you see a man that has custody of his child, then he must be really special because he didn't give up the fight by allowing someone to convince him that the child would be better with the mother. I don't know if this is making any sense, but I think you get the point.
I think some women frown on it because they are done raising their own children and dont want to raise anymore. Notice that I said "some"....
I dont put myself in that catagory who doesnt want to date men with children. I happed to be turned on by them. I LOVE watching fathers with their kids. It shows a sensitive side and their compassion. Thats important. Im sorry you are having a ruff time finding women who will accept. Too bad you live so far......I would of loved to meet for coffee. :)
In all fairness, the single Dad doesn't need to be look down upon. We should look down upon the woman who didn't get the child... I mean think about it. All judges are going to give the Mother the kid(s) **unless** there is a reason not to. So if the Dad got them, its obvious they were the better option out of the two. The mother is doing something in her life that the kids don't need to be around. I know this cause my brother got my nephew, not his mother. There were good reasons why he got primary custody and we should all think things out before we judge a situation like a single father. There are some crappy mothers in this world just like there are some crappy dads too.