Why is it that when you found someone and you agree to exclusivity that quite a number of people feel that it is the perfect time to state their feelings about you? Even though they know your taken? Your standing their red faced wondering what you can possibly say after they had embarrassed themselves that way and thinking Why now? Why after all this time? Is this necessary for you to do? Do you really feel better about the situation now that you said what is on your mind. I have had a few guys declare themselves after finding out I had a boyfriend. Some of the guys I was OK with, it was a bit embarrassing on both our parts but they are still my friends... others just annoyed me and grossed me out. Here is a hint people... saying something after the fact isn't going to change things in your favor. Its just going to cause strain on whatever kind of relationship you have with this person in the first place.
Oh and if a certain person reads this and recognizes the situation I'm talking about... your still my friend, I just wasn't sure what to say to you to make you feel better. My problem is with another guy or 2, or 3, or 4, or ect...
I agree Green1ze, I to am a one man woman... its one thing to date casually but when the relationship gets sexuall or you both agree that what you have is special and that your better of not dating others then their is no changing midd stream just cause someone says oh waite I like you... its like I told my boyfriend, "I usually have crushess one at a time... Im not cappable of being attracted to and loveing more than one man at a time like that. Thats just how I am." Anyways I told him about it online, he seid he'll take it as a compliment that other guys think I'm hot but it better just stay as them saying stuff.
TrevorJ72 write: So guys who aren't your boyfriend are telling you that they love you/want to have freaky sex with you? And these dudes expect to remain your friend after letting the cat out of the bag? No wonder you're pissed.
Yeah, it kind of ruins the illushion of friendship... actually I was talking about 2 guys I work with, one I don't have a problem with cause he's a friend (His profile is actually on this site to but I have never seen him post on the forum or blogs). It's embaressing on both our parts and it was obviously the dumb thing for him to do but so long as he dosnt try to act on it I will ignore it. The other one I went out with once... infact I wouldnt even call it a date, I seid I was going to be at a bar with friends and if he showed up we could hang out. I did it cause I found out from a coworker he had a crush on me and I thought I was being nice and giving it a try. He bored me senceless and annoyed the heck out of me so I was glad when it was over and I never hung out with him again. He has a girlfriend now but everyone I know calls him my stalker case he is allways talking to me even when I ignore him. Now he seid that He liked me, wanted to have me as his girlfriend and wanted to kiss me... considering he has a girlfriend and I just told him about my boyfriend I find it to be discustingly lacking in morals and borderline hurrassing but I didnt do anything but ignore him and talked about my boyfriend to make it clear that I wasnt interessted... Hes apparently not the kind that can take a hint well though, infact he has to be told bluntly 5 times wich is what another girl at work had to do . That makes me wonder though... I know his girlfriend, how the heck someone as intelligent as her can put up with him is beyond me... one day someone will tell on him and the only person whos willing to put up with him will kick him to the curb. He thinks hes hot but he isnt... hes just a sad excuse of a man.
So guys who aren't your boyfriend are telling you that they love you/want to have freaky sex with you? And these dudes expect to remain your friend after letting the cat out of the bag? No wonder you're pissed.
I hear ya there Tigress! It's happened to me before too. It always gave me a funny feeling too. Like, when they see someone else is interested, do they think it's now safe to confess their feelings? Or, seeing me with someone else made them finally step forward?? Oh well, no matter the reason, it's too late! If you're like me, when I'm with someone I'm with THEM. Casual dating is one thing, but when I'm in a relationship I concentrate on that man. So guys, take this as some free advice. If there's a lady you're attracted to, tell her! Don't wait, because she may be snatched up by a smarter & braver man while you're mustering your courage :o)