I just don't get it how come bbw's dont believe that men can find them sexy. It is a constent battle with my wife telling her over and over that she's sexy and her not believing me. Not to mention the fact that she never wants to have sex and she wonders why I'm on the internet looking to hook up(yes she knows i'm on here). I'm sick and tired of constantly giving her complements to try and bust her self esteem and getting nothing in return. How about a "Hey you look nice too" or a "You're so hot I want you" every once in a while is that so hard I mean come on ladies I know that you like to be told that you're sexy and I love telling a women that but how about a little in return. If nothing else how about a little sex every once in a while. Am I the only one with this problem? Please let me know what you think and if you're a women and are interested in a man who thinks big women are Gods gift to man and treats them that way I'm here for the plucking let me know!!!
I wouldn't think you were off your rocker for thinking I was sexy. I am... There are a lot of things about myself that I think are attractive physically. I don't think that it's what matters the most. I want conversation, laughter.. being appreciated for my intelligence, my heart and soul. I'm not denying physical attraction. If you yourself need compliments that much, then you lack confidants, security in your own beauty...self esteem in short.
chad i understand where you are coming from. Look I am a small guy. When I tell a BBW that they are sexy some think I am off my rocker. Yes they are sexy on the outside, but like I tell everybody else. Look on the inside of a person and tell them about that too. If it is your wife. Let her know how much you appreciate what she does. Giving a complement on people's actions is sometimes better than giving them on their looks.
Since telling her isn't working, how about showing her, chad? When she's washing dishes, put your arms around her and kiss her neck tenderly. Take her out for a special dinner, better yet, a romantic picnic. Give her a foot massage, a back rub, gentle caresses just because.
When a woman feels valued and loved, she has no choice but to feel good about herself. Chances are that even though you tell her that she is lovely and sexy, she can't believe you because you are on the internet looking elsewhere for what you want from her.
OH and P.S.- looking for other women is only going to make your wife feel worse. I know it is very hard to go without but if you go looking for another woman, you are only going to prove her point, which i assume is she feels you would rather be with someone else.
Well, unfortunately, big women take a lot of abuse through the years. Look at it this way... suppose you were told you were stupid or dumb for 20 years or so, how many years would it take of being told you weren't dumb or stupid for you to start believing it. Also, if you are big and feel that you are unattractive, it is hard to believe that someone else can find you attractive. I have been with my husband almost three years and i still have doubts that he wouldnt rather be with someone who is thinner(and in my eyes, more beautiful). As far as the sex goes, I cant help you there because I am a sex fien and I dont understand people who arent. lol. I get all kinds of confused, and upset when my husband goes through a "dry spell" lol.