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Posted on Tue, Apr 18, 2006 10:00

I was just wondering what people think about when dating someone who is alot bigger than them. I ask this on this site because from what I have seen there are not many people bigger than me on here. Now I know I have gotten the your too BIG thing in dating, I guess most of us have, though does anyone get the you are too tall thing or too short ? I mean people can be so cruel with their hangups at times.

Would any of you ladies out here have a hang up about dating a guy who hits his head on your doorway or can palm a basketball. I see all these guys on here get down about being big, and I think wow they are like slim and look good.

I guess for all I preach about persona inside sometimes I still feel lacking, bc of my size.

- Jax

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Posted on Thu, Nov 05, 2009 19:53

I think you're hot! I love a big man...makes you feel safe at night ;)



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Posted on Mon, Jul 09, 2007 13:23

u r hott



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Posted on Sun, Dec 10, 2006 20:36

im richie im from niagara falls ny im a big teddy bear try of guy i stand about 6"4' 360 looking 4 someone who likes big tall men . im disable lean & have try 2 diabics looking 4 help will tell you more if your interested....



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Posted on Tue, Nov 14, 2006 13:24

As a tall skinny guy, most lady friends are quite a bit larger (laterally) than myself, and I am comfortable with that. It has practical benefits if squeezing into a double seat, or for cuddling (easy to wrap my arms around her :)

Unfortunately, most ladies are not attracted to thin fellas (I can't blame them, since I'd prefer to be more meaty myself!), but this is just life. We are always too short, tall, wide or thin for some tastes.

I'm happy to meet plump, or SSBBW, tall or short (tall is a bonus though). It doesn't pay to be too restrictive on appearance, otherwise one might miss that elusive soulmate :)



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Posted on Fri, Jun 23, 2006 10:01

For me personally, there is no such thing as too tall. Too big, that's another story. I dated a guy last year that was a big dude, but in an unhealthy way. On our second date, we went to the fair but couldn't ride any rides because of his size. I'm no skinny minnie either, but would never let myself get too big or be with someone who is too big/unhealthy to enjoy activites that I love.



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Posted on Thu, Jun 22, 2006 20:29

hahaha.. I'm ALMOST 5'2" and I used to date a fella that was 6'8". That's a big difference - a foot'n a half - I'd stand on a dining room chair to look him in the eye. So no, I'd say there's no "too big" or "too tall". Or too short. My ex-hubby was 5'6".. and he was TALL to me!



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Posted on Sat, Jun 17, 2006 12:26

Dont worry about your height or weight. WEll.. okay worry about your weight if it's a health issue kind of thing. But otherwise.. well.. you know what I mean.

You're an attractive man. At least I think you are...as well as many other women on this site I'm sure. You may be too tall or too big for some.. as I am.. I'm 5'10".. not exactly a shorty when it comes to being a woman *lol* Anyway.. not to worry. You're you..and YOU are perfect as is!

  


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Posted on Tue, Jun 13, 2006 20:12

Jax , All I can say is hang in there. My ex was 6'8 and 400 lbs when I met him
We were married 25 years.
To a tall girl it was heaven looking up to my man.



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Posted on Wed, Jun 07, 2006 19:21

I think a person can be too big, but too tall is a touchy subject. If you are obese to the poinit where common every day activities are tricky, that's too big. Too tall would have more to do with the attitude. My brother is 6'8' and a friend of mine is 6'9". They both have the teddy bear persona so their height isn't a problem, but I met a big man had to be 6'6" that had a "mad at the world" persona and he was a little frightening, then the size is no good.

It still all has to do with personal preference. I like a man taller than me, but not so tall I can't be in the same pictures with him without standing on a box.



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Posted on Sun, Jun 04, 2006 11:33

Jax, I loooove big and tall men. I used to live in Florida, it's too bad we didnt meet while I was there!



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Posted on Mon, May 15, 2006 14:32

We come in different packages- too tall - too big -too short - too thin, what does it matter. Ultimately we will choose the person who best suits us. When I was younger I preferred taller men. Now I am much older I prefer a shorter version because I wear much lower heels. Dont worry about it - you cant change who you are.



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Posted on Mon, May 08, 2006 22:49

Actually, it seems that taller Men
seem to be more attracted to petite
Woman. At 5'9, I must say that it has
not been an easy road for me. I have
learned to look for Men with great
personalities and a warm heart. Size
should not matter if there is a
connection between the two of you.

It is the shallow people you have to
look out for. They will NEVER BE there
for you in the long run. Always concerned about their looks as if their
looks will be there forever. Beauty is
in the eye of the beholder. I tend to
look for a connection and online, it
can be seen in the words that are chosen
to be used. Good luck to ALL...



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Posted on Mon, May 01, 2006 08:43

No, I don't think you can be to tall or big... the only thing that might hinder is if your so big it's unhealthy. But a lot of people are just how they are and if they feel good being that way and don't suffer health problems whats the big deal. I prefer tall guys really and as far as the big thing well it depends on the guy, I prefer that it at lease looks like the size is normal for their stature and tall guys do look better if they are thicker but that isn't really important. What is important is if your happy how you are and if you click well with the other person.



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Posted on Sun, Apr 30, 2006 10:46

I'm a tad shorter than Tall but I agree it seems to be that most taller guys are looking for shorter women. Although overall it's what's inside the head and heart that matters, my ideal would be someone taller than me.

Shallow it may be, but there's nothing quite like that feeling of looking up to a taller man as he bends his head down to kiss you ...... guess they could always stand on a box, lol



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Posted on Thu, Apr 27, 2006 16:24

I have no problem with tall at all. I don't seem to attract tall men, but I do like men as tall as myself or taller. And on the too big subject, lawn chairs are never big enough. If I could even fit in a roller coaster, I'd probably have heart attack. LOL!! Been years since I even attempted to get on one. And little bitty cars. Especially 4 doors. Not happening here. Can't even get behind the wheel. LOL!! All I can do is laugh.



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Posted on Sat, Apr 22, 2006 19:38

I was too big for a rollercoaster ride once !! so yeah you can be too big for some things :P

As for someone .... well thats different , we all have different tastes in people, and there is someone for everybody ... personalities are the most important thing ... like SSBBW said... if you click, then nothing else matters.