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How many hate being called cute and why?
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Posted on Mon, Apr 10, 2006 09:40

I hate being called cute... I don't mind guys admiring me but cute seems to mean in guy talk generally = 1) Your cute but...fill in the blank with some shortcoming (fat). 2)Cute- cuddly, usually comforting, tiny in stature if not in width, emotionally compelling creature (a.k.a animal or small child).

I would rather be beautiful, gorgeous, or something... the only compliment that's worse for a woman is being called handsome... witch is another word for would be good looking if you where more feminine. Anyone else feel this way?



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Posted on Wed, May 03, 2006 06:11

Maybe we should start a nicknames / pet names thread .....? What do you think Buttercup?!!



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Posted on Mon, Apr 24, 2006 09:50

Oh Jaxian...BUTTERCUP? You know you only have yourself to blame... You started it. Now you will forever be called Buttercup on largefriends. It's ok, I use to have a huge crush on a guy at work, the Lady's I worked with nicknamed him cupcake... He still hasn't lived it down. I can still say "I had a thing for cupcake" and everyone knows who I am talking about. I asked him last time I talked to him if they still call him that and all he could do is turn beat red and said some obscene words that I can't repeat on this... it was so funny.



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Posted on Wed, Apr 19, 2006 11:03

Jaxian write:
Cathii write:
what makes me *hurl* is pet names ... *fluffy bunny snookums pumpkin muffin * * (and that is just 1 name LOL)...gawwwd get me a bucket !!!!

Amen man, for sure. I have a friend that calls me "Buttercup" and if she ever joins this site, I will so never here the end of this. I mean me a giant "buttercup" I want to run and hide at that thought.

Then again like "cute" and these other pet names, if they come from someone endearing to us, someone we care about they can be accepted. Though if a stranger just says it, you get the UGH stalker, motiff going.

Then even further though I think it is also a difference for the sexes. If a random woman called a guy baby, or cutie I do not see him minding, it is all in the person and the situation.


You could sooooo regret mentioning that Buttercup......

  


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Posted on Tue, Apr 18, 2006 09:00

Cathii write:
what makes me *hurl* is pet names ... *fluffy bunny snookums pumpkin muffin * * (and that is just 1 name LOL)...gawwwd get me a bucket !!!!

Amen man, for sure. I have a friend that calls me "Buttercup" and if she ever joins this site, I will so never here the end of this. I mean me a giant "buttercup" I want to run and hide at that thought.

Then again like "cute" and these other pet names, if they come from someone endearing to us, someone we care about they can be accepted. Though if a stranger just says it, you get the UGH stalker, motiff going.

Then even further though I think it is also a difference for the sexes. If a random woman called a guy baby, or cutie I do not see him minding, it is all in the person and the situation.



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Posted on Mon, Apr 17, 2006 05:59

For me it really depends on the context. Cute is ok - I've been called far worse, lol.

I'm not keen on people using terms of endearment when they don't know me .... babe, hun etc can seem very patronising if the right to use them hasn't been "earned". After chatting to someone for a while and connecting with them, the odd "hun" seems far more sincere and then I quite like it. Fickle eh?? lol!

  


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Posted on Sat, Apr 15, 2006 20:11

i actully don't mind it at all, since it doesn't happen too often, it's refreshing when i am called cute.

of course i'd rather be called some other things, but cute is alot better than some things i have been called in the past....



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Posted on Thu, Apr 13, 2006 15:34

Mine's baby. Get the bucket on that one!!! LMAO!!! Cute I don't mind but baby is quite irksome. Especially during sex. I just have to stop. Can't go any further. LOL!!

  


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Posted on Thu, Apr 13, 2006 10:54

I asked this mainly because I am always called cute... no matter how I dress or act. It doesn't help that I do have the dumb girlie giggle instead of a normal laugh, I must have picked up that bad habit in childhood. Anyway cute has been used by many a guy as a cop out for "your attractive looking but I personally am not attracted by you", toward me. I have even asked some guys point blank what it means to them when they use it to describe me and I have repeatedly been told the "but" line over and over. For some reason I just seem to collect good men as friends only and jerks fallow me around in the hope of getting me in bed... I'm getting frustrated with it and I seem to have to deal with this issue constantly. I like to be positive in life but I sometimes think it's enough to drive me batty. It doesn't help that a lot of my friends, men included, don't understand that I don't want to be "cute, but...". I want to be desired, not regulated to the role of best bud and or chosen sister.
I, like a lot of you apparently, also hate the stupid pet names... I don't want to be called baby or baby-girl by a man I don't know.



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Posted on Wed, Apr 12, 2006 13:09

Cute is good. Sexy is better and Beautiful.... well I am going to keep that to myself. I hate when I guy says your cool but I think we should just be friends. I have a enough male friends.



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Posted on Wed, Apr 12, 2006 07:11

I like CUTE .... I think its an all round kinda word ... doesnt bother me in the slightest ...

  


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Posted on Tue, Apr 11, 2006 15:55

I wish I was as cute as you Veni. Maybe someone would call me cute once in a while.



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Posted on Tue, Apr 11, 2006 09:41

cute makes me think puppies, and kittens, and sea urchins. I'm ok with cute if I'm doing something (whoops, almost typed doing someONE) intentionally, or if I've dressed someway (someONE) that is supposed to convey that. But in everyday passing, I agree with Tigress. in general conversation it comes up if you're having a bad day and a guy goes well, "I think you're/she's cute..." which kind of tails off on the cop out of yeah you're not making me run from the hills but I can't really say no you're unattractive, either.

woohoo cynicism!



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Posted on Tue, Apr 11, 2006 05:04

CURVY - I feel ya on that one; at times, depending on "tone" - cute can seem condescending. But cute does not bother me at all.

What I hate, h-a-t-e, HATE - - is.... but you have such a pretty face.... THAT really gets under my skin. It's like they're negating the rest of you. I think I am - - WE ALL are much more than a pretty face! And it's so patronizing. Like oh it's too bad because you have such a pretty face. Like the pretty face is wasted on me or something. AGGGGHHHHHH ! ! ! !

  


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Posted on Mon, Apr 10, 2006 22:28

I like being called cute. Because it always happens on a day when I least expect a compliment, and it makes me feel nice. So there.

Simply put, it is a term of affection, and who doesn't like affection?

Let's take a vote on that.

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