I'm on the same boat, i'm not so great at flirting and never had had a proper boyfriend, i can do the inuendo etc but not the fairly inocent light flirting that is just to get you out there and meeting people so you have lots of options.
I'm reading "superflirt" by Tracy Cox its basicly a how to boox and really good but it's actually rememmbering it and going out to practice that i don't do.
Thanks freysh, Hummm... I see a trip to the bookstore in my future... Waite, who am I kidding, bookstores are always in my future... I amend my statement. I see a trip to the relationship isle of the bookstore in my future.
Loki and Dee gave great descriptions.. maintain eye contact! and watch his. nothing says "I'm not interested" more than your partner in conversation looking around the room as your speaking. And, ask him questions. It shows your interested AND gives you the ability to continue the conversation without akward silences, and allows you both to see what you may have in common. Best of Luck!
bubs write: Tigeress....Are we talking on line flirting, or real life flirting??
Both... I'm clueless. I have NEVER had a boyfriend and really didn't have allot of guys in my social group in high school, I also was teased allot in Jr high and spent most of my time beating the heck out of guys twice my size for calling my momma bad stuff or calling me a racial slur, and now I find the few guys I know that are single are afraid to start anything cause of the fear of being called out for harassment or something like that so I don't know how to flirt or even how to tell if a guy is flirting with me and really need to know in order to be able to start getting guys to notice me and keep them interested without making myself seem desperate... or in my case completely out of the loop. I think this is one of the main things that keep me from achieving a relationship beyond friendship with men.
Teasing tends to get the fastest results, if the feeling is mutual. In my conversations with guys, the most attractive kind of flirting is a kind of physical confidence. Lots of steady eye contact, lots of smiling, body turned towards them and 'open', i.e. arms not crossed over the chest, turned away or hunched - makes it look like you're defensive or shutting them out. A willingness to talk to them like you know them well, and able to have a good laugh even if it's at your own expense. It will get the attention of most people in the same room which increases the interest as well, because suddenly everyone feels they have to compete to get you.