After receiving an interesting email the other week, was wondering what everyone's opinion is on having pictures of one's children in profile pics? I was told that by cutting my daughter out of my pics that it was perceived that I was willing to put dating above her, or that I was trying to hide her. (To the person who wrote the email, no offence was taken, just wondering what other people's views are.)
Thing is, I don't have any photos of myself without her in them (or they are older pics), and I also wasn't totally comfortable with plastering her pics over the web.
I used one of my daughter and i but to get a closeup of me i cropped MOST of her out, our faces are always mashed up together so it's hard not to get any of her in there. i think the thing is that for those of us that are here for hopefully a serious LTR, we don't think to hide our kids or cut them out because really i hope i find someone with kids, a person that is going to be a good parent to my child, so the child is indeed part of the mix. now when it comes to them MEETING my child, that will not happen for the first several meetings. unless we are BOTH meeting with BOTH our kids at the park or something, and even then not on the first couple dates. my daughter being of another race is a big part of my life too and i think not all are comfortable with that so i need them to see it right away so i can weed out the men with a problem with it. :)
i personally wont add my son in any photos i put on her, anywere else.
i have male friends i talk to and have know one gentleman for over two half years.
even to him my son goes by J and thats it.
i personally have to get to know someone extreamly well and feel i can trust them 100% before even tell them his name, let alone seeing pictures or meeting him in person. its just the way i am.
there is nothing wrong with protecting your children, there are to many weirdos out there these days.
The problem is PREDATORS. There are people who use these sites to find vulnerable women to get to the children. Whether you date or not it is dangerous. There are known cases of this happening. I would advise you to check with your local police to ask them if you should post your child's picture on any computer site. God bless and take care.
I just signed up & posted a pic with my son for my Account. I want to make it clear that I am only on here for friendship = NOT Dating. I will not be meeting anyone from this site in person. Is there still a danger? Please explain
Something does not sound right about the man that scolded you for not posting your child's picture. It sounds like he was trying to make you feel guilty so that you would reconsider and post your child's pic. Because this is a dating site, I don't think that we expect to see pics of children here. I for one, am shocked when I see someone post a pic that shows them and their children.
Good for you for sticking to your guns and cropping your child's face from the pic.
Thanks for your opinions...I don't think I actually stated my question right....no, I would never put my child's picture on the net. But the guy said that I was bad for doing that, he said that I was obviously ashamed of my child, or that by cutting her out of the pics that I was willing to put men before her. He basically told me I was a bad mother! Here I was doing it for safety reasons, and I get a strange response like that! Go figure! But I'm guessing by the responses that you all think I'm a good mum for not posting her pics??? lol :D
I have to agree - I personally dont think there is anything wrong with cutting your child or children out of your pictures. I will not post anything that has picture of my child in it. There are a lot of sick-o's out there and I think that most people would understand where you are comming from and respect that of you. And when and if you feel the time is right and want to share that picture with the right person then more power to you. You have to do what you feel is right. You are a parent first - watching out for your child/children and looking for a mate second. Just my two cents!
hmm.. it all comes down to the individuals beliefs on the matter i suppose. My personal opinion is that it would be ok for pix of children to be put up (i've seen lots of proud parents happily displaying pix of ther kids) on the condition of course that parents- or other people, arnt putting up naked pix or pix of toddlers in mini skirts or kneehigh boots (which they sadly do have on the market)one would hope that parents would have more sense than to post compromising pix of ther kids all over the net but u never know lol
I agree with the above. Whether the kids are your own, nieces or nephews or whatever, they have no business in pics posted on the web as part of a dating site or elsewhere. If you're going to use a photo that they are in, crop them out.
While it is important to let prospective dates/partners know you have children---for safety's sake, the web is not the place for their pictures.
Your #1 goal as a Mother is to protect your child. Delete her photo ASAP!! There are child predators everywhere these days and you can bet there are some here. Safety is a priority! I have a child and I would not put their picture up because I love them too much to expose them to someone who might cause them harm. It is also important to remember that you are the one that is dating, not you and your daughter.
Children should be kept away from your dates. They do not need to meet every person you go out with. This is for their protection, mentally and emotionally. When the time is right and the person is right and has proven they are right, then and ONLY then do your introduce them to your child or for that matter show them their picture.
Call me paranoid if you want, but I read too much and see too much that makes me be aware of the sickos that are out there and they are everywhere! Don't be fooled into thinking they are not here too!
So there ya go, you asked for advice, PLEASE remove that precious childs picture immediately, I would hate for anything bad to happen to such a beautiful little girl and obviously you adore and love here to pieces. Protect her at ALL Cost!
I believe that it is a very dangerous procedure to post any child's picture on the Internet. I have seen a television program relating to pedophiles. Please do not give them any information about your children.
I have a young son..And I do not like the idea of.. Haveing his pic on line for all the world to see..First and formost I think it's a safty issue..And second is a bit harder to explain..I am verry proud of him.. And see him as my untimate acomplishment in life..And not something that I care to share with.. Just any run of the mill on line person..Meaning if I show you his pic I think alot of you..Hope that diden't come out the wrong way.. LoL..
I agree that it may not be safe to post a picture that includes your child. I've seen personal ads in the newspaper where men have asked to meet women with children, and it's fairly obvious that they are molesters looking for a target. If you clearly state in your profile that you have kids, in the beginning, that's all the right person needs to know.
I tend to agree with SimplyMe .... although I'm sure the majority of people using this site and the 'net in general are fine upstanding citizens.
However, I would not be prepared to put a photo of my child (not that I have one!) in the public domain as I would want to protect them from the dodgy minority for whom upstanding might have a whole different meaning .....
I've known men to deliberately post pics with a child (not necessarily their own) as it's seen as making them more appealing to women .... likewise with a pet. I never feel totally comfortable when it's a child picture. Isn't that a sad reflection on society?
I'd guess this could be a topic that gets quite different responses from men and women ... I'll be interested to see.
If I was in that situation I'd make no secret of having a child, and once I felt I could trust the person in question would send them a photo, but probably wouldn't post it online.