Rockchickbbw write: Cant recall saying I wasnt 100% about something ....?? why cant I love being single as well as loving to be in a no drama relationship ....?? thats a bit strange .... UK is much further than USA if its the distance u are getting at ! :P I am quite happy with the prospect of Mr NYC coming here ... doesnt mean I still didnt love my single times either .. sorry if that doesnt make sense to u sharpy
It doesn't actually. Because a commitment is a commitment. For it to work between you and Mr.NY you would both have to offer a hell of a commitment, one would have to give up their home, their job, move away from their family and friends. So if it's the real thing then you've got to be the type of person who can give 100% to a relationship and that means moving in together and inevitably he's going to ask you to marry him.
But you confess to liking being single so you're not the marrying type. You can't be.
I honestly wish you luck with it and I really hope it works out for you, but if I were Mr.NY and had read your post I wouldn't want to tie you down, well not in that sense anyway.
Sorry but i'm saying it more out of concern for you as you might not realise what you're heading into here.
It's not like dating someone who lives down the road.
I just don't believe that you can have you're cake and eat it.
From what you say Mr.NY is someone who you're having more than a one night stand with, so it's about having a relationship with him not just a bit of fun. So for it to work you're looking at one of you making major life changes and that means you are looking at growing old together so 'Single' is not a concept that you're going to be enjoying for very much longer.
But I will agree to differ with you as it's pointless debating the matter any further.
And when I say good luck, I mean it, I'd be sorry to find out that it hadn't worked out for you both.
Rockchickbbw write: Sashhh some of the BEST times are had when you are single.. epsecially if you are content with who you are as a person ... I personally LOVE being single , but a relationship is nice too if there arent too many dramas .... good for u for finding happiness in being single ... I wish more people could be the same !!
I'm begining to wonder if you know yourself from this post. You have the drama of a guy about to fly from NY to Oz to be with you and yet you admit on here that you love being single?
If you love being single then you should stay single as it won't work out if you're doing something that you're not 100% about.
It is really a question of what you can get used to.
So if you have lived with someone and suddenly find yourself single it can be quite a shock to the system.
Likewise if you are used to being totally selfish, then suddenly having to think about someone else's feelings can be a job in itself and something that you might want to keep checking on if you want to make a success of it.
If you've been single for a long time or with someone for a long time then any change to your lifestyle is going to be quite traumatic for you.
Both situations can be equally as good and equally as bad, once you can learn to live with them, but as humans we are good at adapting to changing circumstances.
Be true to yourself, love yourself, care for yourself and think of yourself as being your own best friend and try not to become your own worst enemy.