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  • View author's info Author Posted on Feb 04, 2006 at 12:42 PM

    A few days ago I started a new post in the family thread concerning a real issue in my family life at the moment. It wasn't a pleasant topic, something I hope none of you have to go through in this life. But it was real. Not vulger, or inappropiate just unpleasant. The powers that be here at Large Friends, found it necessary to erase the unpleasant topic. Now I'm living it so you know I wish it was that easy. The premise of this form I thought, was to make friends with people of all walks of life who share some commonality (in our case body size). Well when I consider someone a friend I share parts of my life with them. The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly. I'm just curious Who in the Large Friend network decides what Real Life events are not to be shared amongst consenting adults?
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  • View author's info Posted on Feb 07, 2006 at 08:06 PM

    That's lovely Jctngirl. Thanks
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 07, 2006 at 04:39 PM

    I did see your earlier post, and I am too sad that the censors made it go away. While it is a tough and touchy subject, it is also one that can help provide comfort to others going through similar situations.

    My thoughts are with you and your son ZBig. I have also lost someone close to me in this way, and it's truly tough to deal with due to all the unanswered questions. There's not anything you go do to make it better, or easier, other than just being there for your son as you have done.

    I did receive the below from a friend during my loss. It is one of my favorites and I thought I would pass along... Best wishes ZBig and hang in there.

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    There is an old belief that the stars shining in the night sky are the spirits of those who have died. They have shed their earthly bodies and exchanged them for bodies made of light; thousands upon thousands of our dear departed friends all promoted to glory in the night sky. There is another saying that the brightest flame burns the shortest.

    My friend, you were the brightest star in my own universe. We were together for such a short time, but the stars will burn forever. Through my tears I look upwards to see if you are watching me and what do I see?

    There is a new star shining in the sky tonight.
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 07, 2006 at 07:40 AM

    Thank you all again and again for your support. He had dinner with the mother this past weekend which our Therapist agreed with. The mother wanted him to stay the night but I felt it inappropiate. I really feel for her since most of her family is in Mexico.
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 05, 2006 at 10:21 AM

    I hope your boy's okay too... a friend of mine jumped off this big huge bridge when I was a teenager but I didn't see what was left.

    I confronted it as I do most things of this kind, by spitting in fate's face and getting on with my life. But that's a matter of temperament.

    It's worth noting though that I don't think they delete posts unless someone complains...
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 05, 2006 at 10:15 AM

    I'm glad to read you are doing better.

    Keep your head up.
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 05, 2006 at 10:13 AM

    that is what i'm talking about....how can posts that have NO meaning and are there to get a bad reaction stay up, and ones that are heartfelt and are up for support be taken down? That makes no sense IMO.
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 05, 2006 at 02:39 AM

    Thank you so much for your prayers and kind words. We are doing better and that's all I can ask for.
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 04, 2006 at 08:13 PM

    Make you wonder what the criteria is since they left the guy who wants to buy used undies post. Go figure.

    Zbig my thoughts and prayers are still with you.
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 04, 2006 at 03:16 PM

    you could try to put it out there agian and maybe they realize you want it out there for others to support you/give advice.

    I find it strange that these posts are soooo heavily looked monitered.

    at any rate, I hope things are going better for you, whatever it is your family is going through. You are in my thoughts.
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 04, 2006 at 01:38 PM

    i hear you zbig... i checked back at your post there to see if there was an update on how things are going with your family... i was surprised to see it gone... we are all here to support one another, and with everyone here being such caring, compassionate human beings we all seem to really hear one another on this site whether it be good, bad or indifferent... the way it should be... why someone would feel it inappropriate for a friend to reach out for prayer and good thoughts for their family in crisis is beyond me... regardless of their reasoning behind it, i think it was wrong... we don't live in disneyland, this is the real world, sometimes bad things happen to good people... IT IS NO SECRET ...
    so what is really going on? .....
    prayers continue, i hope you are all finding your way through this zbig... God Bless....
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