Are we really looking for love when we join sites like this, or are we just looking for something new, and different than what we have been able to find thus far. Do we all just have adventurous spirits and want to be amused? Is it for the chatting, or the blind encounter that keeps us checking our inboxes or maybe a chance to find hot sex...
What are our real motives..Are we really looking for love here?
It's a good point that you're making. However the fact that you have no photo would make me immediately suspicious of your motives for being on here.
If you're being genuine and open then why not show yourself?
We are all human so we all want everything that you mention, though we don't want to feel used by others.
All anyone is asking for on here is 100% honesty. People would just prefer it if you told it like it is.
Sure I'd like to fall in love, sure I want to be noticed, sure I want attention and lots of emails and maybe if I get lucky I'll get a date or two with someone nice. Maybe we'll like each other and fall into bed? Or maybe it will all end in sadness. But nothing ventured nothing gained and you achieve nothing unless you try.
The other thing is to try to make it as enjoyable experience as possible for all concerned which amounts to treating others as you would want to be treated yourself.
When I joined this site, I really wanted to connect with someone. It would have been nice to meet a friend, but deep down, I wanted to find someone who I could love and who would love me back. Not too long before I joined this site, I had a terrible thought that I would never be held or kissed again in my life. That I would never tell a man that I loved him or never hear it from anyone who meant it. And at the moment, it was one of the most frightening thoughts that I ever remember having and it made me cry. I felt that if I never experienced love the way that I think that is should be, I would have lived a rather pitiful life. Not because being in a relationship was something that every one must do, but because I am a very loving person and that it is waste for me to not be able to share it.
It probably sounds corny and melodramatic, but that is how I felt at the time. I can't say that I actually prayed for love. I didn't get on my knees and ask God to send me someone, but I did say aloud, that I wanted and deserved to be loved. I actually said aloud that I was not going to waste anymore of my time with men who did not deserve my love or who did not want my love.
It has been 11 months since I met "Don" on this site and we are very much in love. He lives 6 hours away, but we see one another at least twice a month.
We have had our struggles, but our love is very, very strong. So, I can say, very greatfully, that I got exactly what I was looking for when I joined this site.
Reading everyone's response to this is very interesting. It is amazing how it all comes full circle.
Just like most, joined for the one reason; have stayed for many others. I may not have posted much here, but reading all the respones to questions and comments have been a blast. Thanks everyone for the many smiles and hopefully many more.
Well, way back when I was GREEN - - HA HA ! ! - to all this internet business, I was naive enough to be "looking for luv..."; however, I have my profile hidden 'cause I don't think I'll find the man I'm looking for over the net. Like Bandit - I get hits from all over, with very few locals and the locals....well,let's just say there's not enough room here to lay it down in black and white. I keep coming back because I enjoy the posts and the banter between the folks that have been around a while. I've made some great friends and will continue to see you on the posts.
I am looking for some friends (women of course) and if it turns into more, that would fantastic. So far in the few weeks I have been here, have had a few emails but when it we actually talked, didnt go so well. Not good when the first question they ask you is what do you do for a living? Followed by how much do you make?
My motives?...Talking to new people, having a giggle, which I certainly have done.
Yeah, the possibility of meeting someone special has got to be part of it, I think, if you dont take the whole internet dating thing too seriously, then you can have fun, meet interesting people ( I have certainly done that) LOL
Then its a good thing, I just dont pon all my hopes n dreams on any site...But, I am still hoping!!!