Are we really looking for love when we join sites like this, or are we just looking for something new, and different than what we have been able to find thus far. Do we all just have adventurous spirits and want to be amused? Is it for the chatting, or the blind encounter that keeps us checking our inboxes or maybe a chance to find hot sex...
What are our real motives..Are we really looking for love here?
It's a good point that you're making. However the fact that you have no photo would make me immediately suspicious of your motives for being on here.
If you're being genuine and open then why not show yourself?
We are all human so we all want everything that you mention, though we don't want to feel used by others.
All anyone is asking for on here is 100% honesty. People would just prefer it if you told it like it is.
Sure I'd like to fall in love, sure I want to be noticed, sure I want attention and lots of emails and maybe if I get lucky I'll get a date or two with someone nice. Maybe we'll like each other and fall into bed? Or maybe it will all end in sadness. But nothing ventured nothing gained and you achieve nothing unless you try.
The other thing is to try to make it as enjoyable experience as possible for all concerned which amounts to treating others as you would want to be treated yourself.
i guess i'm in agreement with most, my original and still is that i may eventually meet someone,but this is only one of the avenues that i use, i like the message board, so i tend to be there more frequently, btw kew, i accidentally clicked on your profile when i was reading ur post...damn laptop....wasn't checking u out or anything ....however i might be off as soon as my membership is over, since i'm going to europe for a month or more , so if there's any meeting to take place it better be by the end of march.
Well........ I will say it LOL ... yes I did join looking for LOVE and yes I am still looking and still hoping. I agree tho that yes... if everyone just states honestly upfront what they are looking for it would be so much easier. I can speak from experience as many others can too.... it is just not fair for those that only want fun... to hide that fact and lead the others on.... when u do get involved and then they say "oh.... don't get serious because I am not good with relationships" it is a little bit late after the fact... when their profile clearly states that they are looking for someone to ride off into the sunset with..... hmmmmmmm ok please excuse my rant.... but I have picked up my heart ... a few times now, brushed it off and altho a little worn and battered now... I have placed it back on my sleeve and am ready to go again. Oh and please do not think I fall for everyone or that easily... I don't even meet most that I hear from.. and the couple that have gotten to me were really nice just afraid of real relationships and just failed to mention that upfront. So do be careful... I hold no grudges either and I have been talking and chatting with one who finally I do believe truly does want a relationship and he has actually been thru many of the same situations that I have so here we go again only this time I really do have high hopes even tho he lives over 1000 miles away. He is willing to move tho so ... wish me luck as I certainly wish the same to each and everyone of U! Smiles, me
When I joined this site, I really wanted to connect with someone. It would have been nice to meet a friend, but deep down, I wanted to find someone who I could love and who would love me back. Not too long before I joined this site, I had a terrible thought that I would never be held or kissed again in my life. That I would never tell a man that I loved him or never hear it from anyone who meant it. And at the moment, it was one of the most frightening thoughts that I ever remember having and it made me cry. I felt that if I never experienced love the way that I think that is should be, I would have lived a rather pitiful life. Not because being in a relationship was something that every one must do, but because I am a very loving person and that it is waste for me to not be able to share it.
It probably sounds corny and melodramatic, but that is how I felt at the time. I can't say that I actually prayed for love. I didn't get on my knees and ask God to send me someone, but I did say aloud, that I wanted and deserved to be loved. I actually said aloud that I was not going to waste anymore of my time with men who did not deserve my love or who did not want my love.
It has been 11 months since I met "Don" on this site and we are very much in love. He lives 6 hours away, but we see one another at least twice a month.
We have had our struggles, but our love is very, very strong. So, I can say, very greatfully, that I got exactly what I was looking for when I joined this site.
Misozi.... no, you CAN find love here... I did and I know several who have. The key is that you have to establish the relationship OUTSIDE the internet.... in the real world. Don't ever let anyone take away your hope sweetie!
Reading everyone's response to this is very interesting. It is amazing how it all comes full circle.
Just like most, joined for the one reason; have stayed for many others. I may not have posted much here, but reading all the respones to questions and comments have been a blast. Thanks everyone for the many smiles and hopefully many more.
Well, way back when I was GREEN - - HA HA ! ! - to all this internet business, I was naive enough to be "looking for luv..."; however, I have my profile hidden 'cause I don't think I'll find the man I'm looking for over the net. Like Bandit - I get hits from all over, with very few locals and the locals....well,let's just say there's not enough room here to lay it down in black and white. I keep coming back because I enjoy the posts and the banter between the folks that have been around a while. I've made some great friends and will continue to see you on the posts.
Well I think with the replies this post has recieved thus far it pretty much sums up what most people are hear looking for.
The only problem exist becuase often times people aren't being real with what they really seek to those whom show interest in them.
I personally joined hoping to find someone in my general area whom could accept me for who I am, be that a good female friend or something more serious. However, most of the people I seem to connect with are like a gazillion miles away and the few local women whom do show interest we aren't very compatible since there are immediate "red flags" that I can look at and tell we aren't a fit ... that has only been a very few maybe 3 or 4, but it's happened.
At this point I mostly come here to read and post in the forums ... although I still do search quite often looking to see if any new women whom I maybe compatible with are around.
I'm origionally joined just because I am very attracted to large women. But the reason why I'm still here is because I have learned to understand so much and it was a shock to learn that there were other people in the world who had some of the same difficulties as myself. When I see some of my very own questions posted by others is when I am able to sort of step back and view the situation as a third person; this has been very useful towards reaching resolution.