What did you learn in 2005? Just Chat Forward to friends

  • View author's info Author Posted on Dec 30, 2005 at 08:05 PM

    Ok... In the spirit of new years resolutions and all that.... What are some of the things you learned about yourself (or life in general for that matter)?

    That while it is important to have a good work ethic, and to do your job well, that work isn't everything. Nobody ever dies wishing they had spent more time at the office and a laptop can't keep you warm at night.

    That your old jobs and co-workers don't really miss you when you're gone. We all like to think that we're indispensible, but the truth is, when we move on, they do too... and they all could care less if the door hits us on the way out.

    That while I will never be a size 3 or size 13 for that matter, I need to do diet and exercise for me and not to meet society's expectations of the stick figures shown in fashion magazines.

    And that life is going to happen, whether or not I choose to be part of it, and that living life to its fullest is important whether I'm single or with Mr. Right.

    What did you learn in 2005?
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  • View author's info Posted on Jan 05, 2006 at 11:15 AM

    Thanks Kewannap for the compliment.

    So sorry to hear that Aphrodite. That's so awful to hear. My husband died in my arms almost 4 years ago. So I do understand what you say about not taking life for granted. It's far far too short.
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 05, 2006 at 06:08 AM

    Well first, a Happy New Year to you all.
    2005 wasn't so bad for me...ups and downs. I learnt that I can be happy by myself, in my own company, doing my own sweet thing. It's very nice to have somebody to do stuff with, but I cannot rely on someone else for my happiness and contentment, it MUST come from inside me.
    Here's hoping 2006 just gets better and better x x
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 04, 2006 at 07:44 PM

    Lonesomedove..... very lovely pic sweetie! It's so nice to put your "face" with your name! You are a very lovely woman.

    What I learned in 2005? I learned to not assume anything. I learned that just when you think things can't get any worse, they probably can.... but it doesn't mean that you've lost. I've learned to accept people for who they are. I have learned that I do deserve happiness.
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 04, 2006 at 12:02 AM

    Ok firstly, don't hurt me for what im about to say.

    Hehehe ... I learned that I was being a prediduice little jerk. I have always preferred bigger women ALWAYS .... but it got to the point were i would laugh at a skinny girl in the same way a skinny guy might laugh at a larger girl.

    So far to the fact where i used to joke about NSBA thats the no skinny bi**hes allowed.

    I ended up dating a very slim girl but she accepted me for who i was off the bat. Maybe skinny people ain't so bad.... just alot of em ... ill still keep em in the back of the truck for camping .. ye know to rub together and start a fire....

    but seriously skinny girls can be decent people too.

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  • View author's info Posted on Jan 03, 2006 at 05:35 PM

    I was reminded of the cardinal rule of relationships-DON'T SETTLE!!!
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 03, 2006 at 04:07 PM

    Hi Folks I am new to this site and was browsing through the posts and this one really caught my eye.
    What did I learn in 2005 oh my god too much, L have only 6 months to go before I qualify as a counsellor, and boy if ever their was a course which gets you to learn and understand what makes you tick, then I found it.
    I suppose the biggest thing I have learnt is how judgemental I can be and I didnt think I was, so all I can say is I am a work in progress and life is one long bumpy ride and it would be nice to have a passenger on board too, so maybe 2006 will bring that for me.
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 02, 2006 at 01:39 PM

    Ditto Zbig! Me too! This year has definitely been one for the books for me. Biggest lesson I learned this year was all in regard to the internet dating thing. You know how you ask certain questions of someone when you meet them on line in an attempt to get an idea of what the person is like? Generally first thing is age if you don't already know it. Do they have children, have they ever been married, what kind of work they do, that sort of thing? Well, I'm adding, "have you ever been in a mental institution before?" I SO learned this the hard way! Now I'm back to not trusting anyone again! I discovered 4 months into the relationship my perfect guy was schizophrenic and on psychotropic drugs. Oh what a year it's been!! LOL!!
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 01, 2006 at 06:56 PM

    lets see i'm new to this but here goes
    1. i learned to at least attempt to go after what i want.
    2. To not judge people as quickly.
    3. the harder you work the harder they expect you to work.
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 01, 2006 at 05:58 PM

    I've learnt that i'm a beautiful and strong person after all. I can get through what life dishes out and learnt (by meeting the loveliest couple over the net) that love really does exist.
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 01, 2006 at 05:30 PM

    I've learned to put me first. I'm always sacrificing for others and at the end of the day it's me who I wake up too. I will treat myself in 20006 GUILT FREE!
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 31, 2005 at 10:34 PM


    I've learned I gotta just not hurry so much.
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 31, 2005 at 01:26 PM

    Oh bubs... You are such a smart woman..
    I have learned a huge lesson in trusting
    my intuition... And it was well learned in 2005..... I'll be a much smarter woman for it in 2006... lol
    Happy New Year!
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 31, 2005 at 08:19 AM

    I learned:

    -Not to date your best friends ex. LOL but if you do, true friendship will prevail (even if you almost married the idiot!)

    -It's ok to keep the diamond after a soured engagement! LOL I earned every sparkle!

    -To truly understand the heart break of others had had because of you , you have to experience a wretched one yourself.

    -Love from your friends and family is invaluable.

    -I can't change how others treat me but how I choose to react to it and the effect it has on me

    -It's ok to go to bed at 8:30 because I want to! LOL

    -It's ok to be great friends with an ex. :)

    I'm sure there are more but these are the only ones that come to my mind this morning. ~~ KB
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 31, 2005 at 03:24 AM

    What have I learnt in 2005?....

    Never trust a man you meet on line!.

    Never trust the toilet door on a new flat.

    Always trust your intuition.

    Have a wonderful new year everyone!!!
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 30, 2005 at 09:42 PM

    hey jc ..thanks for that :) I was only talking to Mr NY this morning on the phone and we are hoping to plan a meeting in the new year ... will see, fingers crossed :) I wish you well too ....
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 30, 2005 at 08:49 PM

    I hear ya RockChick... It's been a tough one here too.

    Here's to new beginnings in 2006 and best of luck w/ your NY guy!
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 30, 2005 at 08:36 PM

    ALl I can say is that 2005 was one of the WORST years of my life, I cant wait till its over which will be in approx 6 1/2 hrs (and am at work at the moment)... Not going to go into what happened , but I am going to be a much better person from it all I am sure
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