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Posted on Tue, Dec 13, 2005 22:09

Wow... was that ever a ride!

How many of you were soooo certain you had finally found the soul-mate of your dreams... everything seems to be going just perfectly... then before you know it, the floor falls out from under you and your sitting at home by yourself again.

Kinda puts a damper on letting yourself trust your own judgement.

oh well... guess some of us were just meant to be single, eh?



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Posted on Fri, Dec 23, 2005 10:22

toketee write:
Wow... was that ever a ride!

How many of you were soooo certain you had finally found the soul-mate of your dreams... everything seems to be going just perfectly... then before you know it, the floor falls out from under you and your sitting at home by yourself again.

Kinda puts a damper on letting yourself trust your own judgement.

oh well... guess some of us were just meant to be single, eh?


been there done this recently
but then a wonderful man came into my life not very long at all after this
and my problem with myself was do i go for it or not and since i had fancied him for ages i whent for it ,best thing i ever did i might not have got the opertunity with him again and life is oh so short and i am a firm beleiver in living life to the full



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Posted on Wed, Dec 21, 2005 18:56

I dont think its weak at all to admit that you are lonely .... I dont think its wrong to want to find "the one" or anything like that ... but I for one dont ever get lonely , especially when it comes to guys , they cant seem to satisfy me in any way as they always bring baggage and crap along with them ... so to be without them is no big deal to me .... If we talk about the intimacy side of it , I can just make a phone call and then say see ya !! lol that suits me to a T :D

I feel sorry for people who cant live without having a partner cause there is so much more to life !!

I think if its a relationship u want, then patience is important cause if you just keep jumping into a relationship for a relationships sake then it can be disastrous ... I am getting too old tho for the date a guy for three months...split...along comes another... then split... for me, at the moment, guys are nice to play with not to stay with !!

  


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Posted on Sun, Dec 18, 2005 14:29

howdy Rockchick... *smile* i'm still around.. just jumped off the dating-go-round for a spell while trying to see if things were going to workout. I've net lots of great people from the net, and from this site.. have made some friends too... i've enjoyed myself.

... but you know. How many of us say that making new friends is just fine, and plenty? How many of us pretend that we are satisfied with what we have? How many of us busy ourselves with a multitude of activities and responsibilites just so that we dont have to think about the fact that we are 'partnerless'? Or worse... how many of us surround ourselves with friends, and the cup runneth over and ooooozzesss gushy hugs and kisses from those who say they will love us always, but when the rubber meets the road... your alone.

Does being able to admit to oneself that you are 'lonely' mean that you are weak? Does it automatically make you a manic-depressant because you are not afraid to own the feelings that come along with being alone?

Of course not.

We wouldnt be normal if we didnt wish and dream for the fairy tale love of a lifetime. Most would be happy to settle for just being in love, forget the fairy tale. Does it baffle anyone else that there are soooo many single people in the world searching for the same thing... yet not finding them? Is it because the majority tries to hard to impress, or to be who they aren't because of the fear that who they are is not what others will want???? That alone is a recipe for disaster, because then the item for sale is truely unmarketable due to being a farce! So what has been gained?

Absolutely nothing.

Oh gosh.. lol... here I go again. I doubt there are many here who remember me on the forums... I tend to get on a roll and it runs away with me... lol. I'll try to control myself.

Anyway... I figured I would throw some food for thought out there and stimulate some brain activity in those who have become complacent, and in those who are more vocal. Share some of your thoughts... dig deep and evaluate and try to separate the 'pat' or 'textbook' answer, and sift through the reply that society has fed to you. What do you really think and feel about the subject of dating, mating and falling in love, or being alone.



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Posted on Sat, Dec 17, 2005 23:17

Wondered where you had gotten to Toketee , sorry you went thru what you did, its unfortunate ... On the internet dating thing , there are schmucks all over the place, I have met plenty on the net, but I have also met plenty person to person too,2 of my relationships have been via the net and they didnt last either .... the net is just another way of meeting people, especially o/s or in other states .... cant just restrict yourself to your "own back yard" ... We would think cause we are genuine and honest people that others will be the same... but whether its the net or in person, there are players all over.... and If we decide to lose our heads over someone, then thats a personal choice ... who knows..it could eventually work out !!

I personally thing relationships and love is a crock of sh*t but thats my head space at this point in time...and its working for me ... but good luck to everyone else out there wanting it and looking for it

  


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Posted on Thu, Dec 15, 2005 06:33

Actually Cathii, your jumping to conclusions and making incorrect assumptions.
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I'm sure your statement is true for some, but not for all. I do not recall saying that I met this person online. Nor am I "quick to be in love", as you stated. I'm actually quite the opposite. I'm very apprehensive and untrusting.
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While there are lots of quickie crash and burn stories out there where most of us would simply shake our heads and think "I told you so"... there are also those who tried very hard to do everything right over a long period of time.
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I knew this person for over 6 years. We became best friends... had a wonderful relationship. When it seemed right on both our parts to take things to the next level, it simply didnt remain right.
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It's hard to make a choice to take that next step with a friend, because you know you run the risk of ruining that friendship... thats why the 6 years. We were both so certain that we would make a great couple, not just friends.
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Well, long story short... I've lost a wonderful friend, as well. So Cathii, please... there are those people on here who have a bit more between their ears than the pc fuzz that collects in their fans. Heartache is heartache, no matter who's feeling it.
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Happy Surfing
Toketee



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Posted on Thu, Dec 15, 2005 03:04

Oh yeah.. I know this one..

Except this was a 9 year ride!
And aparantly the other party had booked out 7 years ago, just didn't bother to send a memo... and took the free ride anyway for the hell of it..



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Posted on Wed, Dec 14, 2005 14:53

toketee.... so sorry to hear that it didn't work out. Sometimes you may never know why.... you just have to learn from it and move on. Don't let it affect the future.



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