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Posted on Mon, Oct 24, 2005 05:26

Well it seems all I ever do these days is come online and bemoan the poor and indifferent treatment I've suffered at the hands of women.

From women who've said I was "too fat", to women who've stood me up, to women who "think" I'm nice but in reality think differently, to women who are down to earth and kind but would rather talk on the phone to their friends in MY company.....seems I've collected the full set and got a bonus set free for ordering within 30 days lol.

There's even the women who initiate contact and then I never hear from them again after my reply.....especially the ones who make public the fact that they think I'm "a sweetie"....

BUT...I got news for you all.....

I'm NOT giving up, I don't know what these women hope to achieve but I've cried all my tears now and it's time for me to get stronger. And I WILL find someone genuine. I know you are out there, you may even be reading this.

I'm not perfect, the photo you see, that's me. I'm okay looking, on a scale of 0 to 10 I'd say about a 7. I can cook, clean, repair stuff, I believe in hard work and compromise in a relationship, heck I'll even leave the toilet seat down!

So come on, what you got to lose?

Do you want a man who will respect you and treat you well, or do you want to keep coming on here b*tching about being lonely and there's no nice guys around????
Well it seems all I ever do these days is come online and bemoan the poor and indifferent treatment I've suffered at the hands of women.

From women who've said I was "too fat", to women who've stood me up, to women who "think" I'm nice but in reality think differently, to women who are down to earth and kind but would rather talk on the phone to their friends in MY company.....seems I've collected the full set and got a bonus set free for ordering within 30 days lol.

There's even the women who initiate contact and then I never hear from them again after my reply.....especially the ones who make public the fact that they think I'm "a sweetie"....

BUT...I got news for you all.....

I'm NOT giving up, I don't know what these women hope to achieve but I've cried all my tears now and it's time for me to get stronger. And I WILL find someone genuine. I know you are out there, you may even be reading this.

I'm not perfect, the photo you see, that's me. I'm okay looking, on a scale of 0 to 10 I'd say about a 7. I can cook, clean, repair stuff, I believe in hard work and compromise in a relationship, heck I'll even leave the toilet seat down!

So come on, what you got to lose?

Do you want a man who will respect you and treat you well, or do you want to keep coming on here b*tching about being lonely and there's no nice guys around????



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Posted on Mon, Nov 14, 2005 17:34

Jodiva... I emailed you his info. Let me know if you don't get it.



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Posted on Tue, Nov 08, 2005 19:32

I'm glad to hear your son's ear infctions are getting better. I've never had my own children, but I know from friend's kids that it can be very chronic, painful and difficult to deal with. poor little guy.

As for your "friend" you are right, you can't let her get to you, although that is easier said than done. Sadly enough, you will run into those kinds of people, the drama queens and gossips, no matter what age you are. When the dusts settles, though, there are many advantages to eing the better person.



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Posted on Tue, Nov 08, 2005 05:42

dee she saying all kinds of stuff about me..omg and also shes talking about my son saying that there is always something wrong with him as far as his health and stuff which isn't true hes only had problems with his ears which there gettin better its just rediculious how shes being shes only 18 i guess i get what i deserve for being frineds with a 18 yr old kid thats what she is i e-mailed her this morning and told her that she needed to keep my kids name out her mouth she has me mad to the point where i wanna beat her a** thats what i wanna do but i know i can't i know i can't let her get to me!

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Posted on Tue, Nov 08, 2005 03:49

Ouch, sweet. It hurts when friends treat you in that way. Sadly, there isn't much you can do about it, other than vent. Sounds to me like she's got some insecurities, and attacking you is easier than dealing with them directly. Some jealousy is normal in a relationship, but when it gets to be to the degree you have described, it's indicative of other issues in the relationship.

As they say, she needs to put on her big girl pant'ies and just deal with it.



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Posted on Sun, Nov 06, 2005 08:18

dee thank you for everything all of ur nice comments, i will find someone someday. i'm really sad today i feel like no i know i've lost one of my friends in the past few days i don't know what i've done to her she won't talk to me she won't do anyhting i think she thinks that i want her man but i don't shes being a B**** for no reason to me i just feel really sad becuase like i told her b/f becuase he came over my house last night to try and ask me what was wrong and i told him nothing was wrong and i tol dhim that she makes me feel like i want you or something and hes like i think that she feels like that too cus see last wed my car was in the shop and my g-ma was suppose to come and pick me up but she forgot to so i didn't have a ride home so he offered to take me home and i told him no like 3 times and then he offered like 2 more times and i'm like i guess so he took me home and she was mad at him becuase of that and he told her what he did and she started smelling him accusing him of sleeping with me and stuff its like what the crap..you know what she don't deserve to be my friend me typing this makes me mad she has no right acting that way if she has a problem with me she needs to come to me and say it to myface not behind my back and thats that. sorry i don't mean to take my anger out but i'm just a lil preturbed but anyhow i have other friends shes not the only one.!!!



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Posted on Wed, Nov 02, 2005 16:00

sweetashy2003 write:
DEE,
thank you very much for you words of encouragment the comment that you made "know that weird feeling of knowing you are better off without him, and yet feeling very lonely and sad at the same time"..i iddn't know if ever anyone would ever know that feeling but i'm glad that you did its so nice to know that there are generous ppl in the word and i will check that group out. i know it will get better i just have to be strong. i just want a man who will love me. oh and i read one of ur post that you found a man congrats on that. hope to hear from you again.


You are most welcome. The best advice Ican give is to keep your network of family and friends for support, as without certain very special people in my life, I would never have made it through.

And thank you for the congratulations. So far, things are still going really well with him. I do have to say though had I met him prior to healing from the hurt, nothing likely would have happened. And it was very much worth the struggle to get to a place where I had a whole heart to offer someone else.



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Posted on Wed, Nov 02, 2005 13:14

thank you for the words of encouragement and your right i need time to heal. i just want someone to love me for me you know its not that i'm trying to rush it but sometimes i wish that it would ha[[en right then.



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Posted on Tue, Nov 01, 2005 17:46

Sweetashy.... take your time sweetie and let your heart heal. Coming out of an abusive relationship, whether verbal or physical, does a number on your. Just remember that not all men are scumbags like he was. It will be hard to trust again, but I can tell you from experience that time heals all wounds and you find that man who will love you like you deserve to be loved. Keep your chin up and smile... you never know who is watching!
Sweetashy.... take your time sweetie and let your heart heal. Coming out of an abusive relationship, whether verbal or physical, does a number on your. Just remember that not all men are scumbags like he was. It will be hard to trust again, but I can tell you from experience that time heals all wounds and you find that man who will love you like you deserve to be loved. Keep your chin up and smile... you never know who is watching!



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Posted on Tue, Nov 01, 2005 05:21

DEE,
thank you very much for you words of encouragment the comment that you made "know that weird feeling of knowing you are better off without him, and yet feeling very lonely and sad at the same time"..i iddn't know if ever anyone would ever know that feeling but i'm glad that you did its so nice to know that there are generous ppl in the word and i will check that group out. i know it will get better i just have to be strong. i just want a man who will love me. oh and i read one of ur post that you found a man congrats on that. hope to hear from you again.
DEE,
thank you very much for you words of encouragment the comment that you made "know that weird feeling of knowing you are better off without him, and yet feeling very lonely and sad at the same time"..i iddn't know if ever anyone would ever know that feeling but i'm glad that you did its so nice to know that there are generous ppl in the word and i will check that group out. i know it will get better i just have to be strong. i just want a man who will love me. oh and i read one of ur post that you found a man congrats on that. hope to hear from you again.



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Posted on Tue, Nov 01, 2005 03:33

sweetashy,

First of all, let me congratulate you. I was married to a mentally (though thankfully not physically) abusive alcohlic for longer than I care to admit, so I know how much courage and strength it can take to get away. And I know that weird feeling of knowing you are better off without him, and yet feeling very lonely and sad at the same time.

I can tell you, it does get better.

You are a beautiful woman, strong, and I would also suspect very intelligent. If you haven't already, might I suggest Al-Anon, the group for families of alcoholics? They were an amazing source of help and support for me, and allowed me to deal with my rage and helplessness.

I wish all the best for you and your little one.
sweetashy,

First of all, let me congratulate you. I was married to a mentally (though thankfully not physically) abusive alcohlic for longer than I care to admit, so I know how much courage and strength it can take to get away. And I know that weird feeling of knowing you are better off without him, and yet feeling very lonely and sad at the same time.

I can tell you, it does get better.

You are a beautiful woman, strong, and I would also suspect very intelligent. If you haven't already, might I suggest Al-Anon, the group for families of alcoholics? They were an amazing source of help and support for me, and allowed me to deal with my rage and helplessness.

I wish all the best for you and your little one.



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Posted on Sun, Oct 30, 2005 04:22

I know exactly how you feel Gordy i'm 21/f/ and i live in the US i live in florida and i'm a single mother of a 1 yr old i just got out of a 2 yr relationship he was very mental abusive and sometimes would even hit me he would never hold down a steady job he wouldn't ever do anything i mean he had some of his good points but most of the time he just drank and somedays whenever he was soboer they were good days but most of my days were lonly and sad and i'm sick of being lonly and sad i'm sick of being everyones fat friend. i want someone for me who will love me for me i'm only 21 but i've been throught more the some adults have been i live on my own pay my own bills and i take care of my son all by myself his dad suppose to pay childsupport but does he no he doesn't but i'm not here to talk about that i'm here to talk about me its my turn its my turn to stand up and take what is mine its my turn to think of me for a change its my turn for my heart to get what it wants its time for someone to love me and take care of me and i want that so bad i just hope that i can find someone soon before my heart breaks even more "GOd please send someone my way" and if you are there and if you read this I already love you and want to spend the rest of my life with you...please don't make me wait any longer.
I know exactly how you feel Gordy i'm 21/f/ and i live in the US i live in florida and i'm a single mother of a 1 yr old i just got out of a 2 yr relationship he was very mental abusive and sometimes would even hit me he would never hold down a steady job he wouldn't ever do anything i mean he had some of his good points but most of the time he just drank and somedays whenever he was soboer they were good days but most of my days were lonly and sad and i'm sick of being lonly and sad i'm sick of being everyones fat friend. i want someone for me who will love me for me i'm only 21 but i've been throught more the some adults have been i live on my own pay my own bills and i take care of my son all by myself his dad suppose to pay childsupport but does he no he doesn't but i'm not here to talk about that i'm here to talk about me its my turn its my turn to stand up and take what is mine its my turn to think of me for a change its my turn for my heart to get what it wants its time for someone to love me and take care of me and i want that so bad i just hope that i can find someone soon before my heart breaks even more "GOd please send someone my way" and if you are there and if you read this I already love you and want to spend the rest of my life with you...please don't make me wait any longer.

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Posted on Sat, Oct 29, 2005 19:56

If you cook and clean. - you can leave the seat up at my house, play all the video games you want, run around naked (requirement - you DO have to wash your rear end) ... what's the downside? I can't think of one... interested in a plane ticket? LOL ;)
If you cook and clean. - you can leave the seat up at my house, play all the video games you want, run around naked (requirement - you DO have to wash your rear end) ... what's the downside? I can't think of one... interested in a plane ticket? LOL ;)



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Posted on Sat, Oct 29, 2005 12:15

Cooks and cleans and fixes things?...Thats a good start, and will put the loo seat down??...Hell, I might just have to clean up the spare room and move Gordy in as my Handyman
*wonders if he does a good massage too*
Cooks and cleans and fixes things?...Thats a good start, and will put the loo seat down??...Hell, I might just have to clean up the spare room and move Gordy in as my Handyman
*wonders if he does a good massage too*

  


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Posted on Tue, Oct 25, 2005 20:31

Well Gordy its a pity you dont live in sydney cause you are right up my girlfriends alley !! she loves tall men and larger guys too , she is 5'9 and a curvy build and finds it hard to feel "petite" with a man but I am sure she would with you ... its hard for her to find a descent guy as well, someone who is balanced ... and believe you me Gordy, as hard as you are finding it to find someone to gel with .... it can be as equally as hard for us .... good luck to you tho !!
Well Gordy its a pity you dont live in sydney cause you are right up my girlfriends alley !! she loves tall men and larger guys too , she is 5'9 and a curvy build and finds it hard to feel "petite" with a man but I am sure she would with you ... its hard for her to find a descent guy as well, someone who is balanced ... and believe you me Gordy, as hard as you are finding it to find someone to gel with .... it can be as equally as hard for us .... good luck to you tho !!

  


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Posted on Tue, Oct 25, 2005 11:09

Way to Go GOrdy!!!!!!!

There's someone for you somewhere... and she's worth waiting on because she'll be the RIGHT one!!

You FIX things...... wow.... that should catch someones eye!
Way to Go GOrdy!!!!!!!

There's someone for you somewhere... and she's worth waiting on because she'll be the RIGHT one!!

You FIX things...... wow.... that should catch someones eye!

  


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