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Posted on Fri, Oct 21, 2005 23:57

Ya know... oddly...I was thinking about the guys I've dated, or better yet the ones that are attracted to me and I've notice they all have one thing in common: They all have money...and generally lots of it. So I sat and thought "does money matter?" or better yet "am I subconsciously sending out signals that money matters" LOL because I can't understand it.

I don't have a University degree...I only have 1 yr of Criminal Psychology under my belt..I am definately not anything special...so why would a guy with money be interested?

I say this because.. anyone that has a substantial amount of money is by definition successful, therefore they are generally intelligent, business savvy, etc...and I've always joked "I'd NEVER land a Doctor..." for the simple fact I work in Customer Service...what Doctor would date a customer service rep? LOL

Anyways.. this guy is 37.... and um can we say successful? He owns 5 Private Colleges throughout Canada and the US and plans to sell them as a chain in 2007 and take early retirement LOL Im like..um NICE. Anyways.. we met and when he first gave me his business card and the title said "CEO Vienna Academy of Arts & Sciences" I started getting nervous LOL but I have to say he was impressive......

BUT one thing that bothers me...the money.. it really intimdates me for alot of reasons. I feel there is a deep social pressure that goes along with that much money, a higher expectation, etc.

Also you know when you go on a date...and you *hope* the guy pays cause it's nice but you don't *expect* him too.. Im thinking if I offer to pay will I insult him? LOL Or maybe he's a stingy millionaire...I dont think so though he stated he enjoys being generous... also he's 37..I LOVE older men and see nothing wrong with a 12 yr gap..but I also think "would I be a trophy to him since Im younger?" My question guys is...would you guys ever date a millionaire?? What are your reasons for dating one..or for not dating one.

We click well he wants to see me again (although after the episode a few weeks ago with another guy HAHA Im not holding my breathe!) but yeah the money really intimidates me...
Ya know... oddly...I was thinking about the guys I've dated, or better yet the ones that are attracted to me and I've notice they all have one thing in common: They all have money...and generally lots of it. So I sat and thought "does money matter?" or better yet "am I subconsciously sending out signals that money matters" LOL because I can't understand it.

I don't have a University degree...I only have 1 yr of Criminal Psychology under my belt..I am definately not anything special...so why would a guy with money be interested?

I say this because.. anyone that has a substantial amount of money is by definition successful, therefore they are generally intelligent, business savvy, etc...and I've always joked "I'd NEVER land a Doctor..." for the simple fact I work in Customer Service...what Doctor would date a customer service rep? LOL

Anyways.. this guy is 37.... and um can we say successful? He owns 5 Private Colleges throughout Canada and the US and plans to sell them as a chain in 2007 and take early retirement LOL Im like..um NICE. Anyways.. we met and when he first gave me his business card and the title said "CEO Vienna Academy of Arts & Sciences" I started getting nervous LOL but I have to say he was impressive......

BUT one thing that bothers me...the money.. it really intimdates me for alot of reasons. I feel there is a deep social pressure that goes along with that much money, a higher expectation, etc.

Also you know when you go on a date...and you *hope* the guy pays cause it's nice but you don't *expect* him too.. Im thinking if I offer to pay will I insult him? LOL Or maybe he's a stingy millionaire...I dont think so though he stated he enjoys being generous... also he's 37..I LOVE older men and see nothing wrong with a 12 yr gap..but I also think "would I be a trophy to him since Im younger?" My question guys is...would you guys ever date a millionaire?? What are your reasons for dating one..or for not dating one.

We click well he wants to see me again (although after the episode a few weeks ago with another guy HAHA Im not holding my breathe!) but yeah the money really intimidates me...



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Posted on Sun, Nov 06, 2005 22:13

Okay, that's funny that you guys are mentioning dating rich guys. I always get the opposite! LoL...I have yet to have a guy ever pay for a date... *I laugh a little* I usually am the one footin' the bill, and I don't know what I'd do if a guy actually offered to pay. I think I'd pass out from shock.

*shrugs my shoulders* I have to admit, I like the idea of being pampered. I like older men as well, but I know about being seen as "arm candy". It surprises people when they realize that you can actually care about each other, even with a great distance in the ages.

Keep us updated on the dating, hun!



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Posted on Fri, Nov 04, 2005 06:34

Well as suspected..he is married to his job...but hey....successful people generally are right? So we don't get alot of time to chat or see eachother..so... it's not necessarily what I'm looking for..



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Posted on Tue, Nov 01, 2005 16:43

Jinley is right in what she says there.... by the way, how is the Mr Money bags thing going Sin...??
Jinley is right in what she says there.... by the way, how is the Mr Money bags thing going Sin...??



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Posted on Mon, Oct 31, 2005 18:00

Don't let the money intimidate you, after all, it's just money. It's only purpose is to get material things, and I'm sure you can get what you need yourself. What's the difference between a man with money VS a man without alot of it? When it's all said and done, it's about the person he is, not what he has. If he's a jerk, all the $$$ in the world won't change it. If you like him for him, then take a chance and pursue it.
Don't let the money intimidate you, after all, it's just money. It's only purpose is to get material things, and I'm sure you can get what you need yourself. What's the difference between a man with money VS a man without alot of it? When it's all said and done, it's about the person he is, not what he has. If he's a jerk, all the $$$ in the world won't change it. If you like him for him, then take a chance and pursue it.



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Posted on Sat, Oct 29, 2005 13:23

Just my 2 cents here ...... and I have never dated anyone with that much money.... but the guys I do meet seem to have more than I do.....and I did feel funny about that in the beginning but I have found that they are just guys and like everyone says..... u just have to get to know them..... just as u would anyone else and see how it goes if of course u are attracted to him... just try to forget about his money and look at him......... best of luck with whatever u decide...... smiles, me
Just my 2 cents here ...... and I have never dated anyone with that much money.... but the guys I do meet seem to have more than I do.....and I did feel funny about that in the beginning but I have found that they are just guys and like everyone says..... u just have to get to know them..... just as u would anyone else and see how it goes if of course u are attracted to him... just try to forget about his money and look at him......... best of luck with whatever u decide...... smiles, me



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Posted on Tue, Oct 25, 2005 04:37

Freysh write:
Great new photo Sin
Great new photo Sin


Awee thanks Freya... I just thought I needed a change LOL



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Posted on Mon, Oct 24, 2005 14:46

Rockchickbbw write:
Hey Sin ... whats going on with you girl ....?? on one thread you are talking about a loser who isnt going to know what he's missing, to being chased by a millionaire !!!!! is there no in - between wih you !!?? lol

I spose I can see the intimidation when it comes to the money side of things, but hey, hopefully he is a more down to earth kinda rich guy, and who knows ... he could have some skin art underneath his suit !!! (thats if he is a suit kinda millionaire)


HAHA um no in between?? Not really...there's always someone *if* I want to be involved with them lol but he COULD have some skin art you are right lol And yes he's a suit...and god knows I loooooove suits lol



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Posted on Mon, Oct 24, 2005 03:19

Hey Sin ... whats going on with you girl ....?? on one thread you are talking about a loser who isnt going to know what he's missing, to being chased by a millionaire !!!!! is there no in - between wih you !!?? lol

I spose I can see the intimidation when it comes to the money side of things, but hey, hopefully he is a more down to earth kinda rich guy, and who knows ... he could have some skin art underneath his suit !!! (thats if he is a suit kinda millionaire)
Hey Sin ... whats going on with you girl ....?? on one thread you are talking about a loser who isnt going to know what he's missing, to being chased by a millionaire !!!!! is there no in - between wih you !!?? lol

I spose I can see the intimidation when it comes to the money side of things, but hey, hopefully he is a more down to earth kinda rich guy, and who knows ... he could have some skin art underneath his suit !!! (thats if he is a suit kinda millionaire)

  


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Posted on Sun, Oct 23, 2005 02:00

Freysh write:
sinfull, i don't think it matters unless he has issues with it.

Why don't you say that you are a bit worried about it because it intimidates you and see what his response is, i think if he just views his wealth as a product of his success and hard work and not as some sort of holy grail i'm sure he will be fine about it.

I worry about it too because i'm a student and will be for another 8 to 12 years so i wont have a great income till i'm finished but i don't think money is such an issue that it should put you off someone.

As for being intellegent you are evry intelligent Sinfull and book smarts are just one type of intelegence



Erm first has anyone noticed the double posting in one post..or rather the fact when you post it seems you are quoting yourself? LOL Thats driving me BATTY... grr...anyhow..

Freya... I was thinking of throwing that out there. He *seems* to view his success as just a product of his hard work..now..he did state he wants to retire in 2007..and with reitrement comes extensive traveling for him. He said he likes to indulge in travel since he has the money and loves to pamper the gal his with...without hounding her (not exactly sure what that means tho) LOL

How do you like this..I'm discriminating against someone with money lol talk about reverse discrimination for you...

grrrr..



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Posted on Sat, Oct 22, 2005 19:28

Sin, I'd suggest going with your gut feeling on this. Does he talk down to you? Brag? Casually mention who he knows, over ... and over....? Is he too generous? Does he asks questions about what you like, your family? Does he listen to what you say? I've dated both poor and rich. Either way, they have to like you for who you are, and you can't end the date wondering if they do.....
Sin, I'd suggest going with your gut feeling on this. Does he talk down to you? Brag? Casually mention who he knows, over ... and over....? Is he too generous? Does he asks questions about what you like, your family? Does he listen to what you say? I've dated both poor and rich. Either way, they have to like you for who you are, and you can't end the date wondering if they do.....



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Posted on Sat, Oct 22, 2005 12:59

Thanks guys... I am really intimidated by the money but also..Im afraid he'll "talk over me". Ok I'm not dumb LOL I *think* I'm quite intelligent but I'm still extremely intimidated. You are rihgt money shouldnt make a difference whether it be alot of money or a little money (as long as the person HAS a job and showing they are trying!) lol Like he told me his Dad is a Professor at a University in Washington DC, his mother is in education herself...and I look and Im like "ok my mother is on disability, my brother works in resortation, I am in customer service", ya know all blue collar normal every day kind of things.

Ugh. I think *I* am putting more pressure on myself than he is LOL But it's frustrating...
Thanks guys... I am really intimidated by the money but also..Im afraid he'll "talk over me". Ok I'm not dumb LOL I *think* I'm quite intelligent but I'm still extremely intimidated. You are rihgt money shouldnt make a difference whether it be alot of money or a little money (as long as the person HAS a job and showing they are trying!) lol Like he told me his Dad is a Professor at a University in Washington DC, his mother is in education herself...and I look and Im like "ok my mother is on disability, my brother works in resortation, I am in customer service", ya know all blue collar normal every day kind of things.

Ugh. I think *I* am putting more pressure on myself than he is LOL But it's frustrating...



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Posted on Sat, Oct 22, 2005 10:13

I have dated a few guys with money...the one was very much aware of what his status could get him, which was the main reason I stopped dating him..I can't stand arrogant people who think money can guarantee them special treatment.
The other guy was very down to earth, sweet and very wise..we both knew we were not meant to be anything other then good friends..which we still are.
It's not money that makes the person.. money just tends to bring out the true character of a human.

Hope this works for you, Sin..you are a lovely person..inside and out Hugs
I have dated a few guys with money...the one was very much aware of what his status could get him, which was the main reason I stopped dating him..I can't stand arrogant people who think money can guarantee them special treatment.
The other guy was very down to earth, sweet and very wise..we both knew we were not meant to be anything other then good friends..which we still are.
It's not money that makes the person.. money just tends to bring out the true character of a human.

Hope this works for you, Sin..you are a lovely person..inside and out Hugs



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Posted on Sat, Oct 22, 2005 09:55

I've never dated anyone wealthy... but since I'm to rediculously independent... it wouldn't have made any difference. lol
I've never dated anyone wealthy... but since I'm to rediculously independent... it wouldn't have made any difference. lol



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Posted on Sat, Oct 22, 2005 08:37

SinfullyDelicious... I dated a rich doctor for about 3 months or so last year and I must say that I can relate to what you are saying about the intimidation thing. I must say that he was very very arrogant... and that is what broke us apart.... that and the fact that he thought since he had lots of money he could have lots of girlfriends! the JERK!

Money, in and of itself, shouldn't really come into play, in my opinion. However, how that money makes the person act is what you have to look at. If he does not let it get to his head, then you have really found a good thing and go for it! But if he has money and makes sure everyone knows it.... then I personally wouldn't waste my time. But it does sound like things are definitely looking up for you sweetie! You know what they say... when someone closes a door, a window is opened! Congratulations!
SinfullyDelicious... I dated a rich doctor for about 3 months or so last year and I must say that I can relate to what you are saying about the intimidation thing. I must say that he was very very arrogant... and that is what broke us apart.... that and the fact that he thought since he had lots of money he could have lots of girlfriends! the JERK!

Money, in and of itself, shouldn't really come into play, in my opinion. However, how that money makes the person act is what you have to look at. If he does not let it get to his head, then you have really found a good thing and go for it! But if he has money and makes sure everyone knows it.... then I personally wouldn't waste my time. But it does sound like things are definitely looking up for you sweetie! You know what they say... when someone closes a door, a window is opened! Congratulations!



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Posted on Sat, Oct 22, 2005 07:52

Hey Sin, I can see how the $ factor can be intimidating. Personally I have never dated anyone with a lot of money but I know a few people that are very well off and they are just like the rest of us and very down to earth for the most part. So I definitely would not use an excess of money to determine someones datability *if thats a word. I think if you are attracted to this guy, go for it, and see for yourself what he's all about and if you get along, you will probably forget all about the money situation. Just my 2 cents. Trixie
Hey Sin, I can see how the $ factor can be intimidating. Personally I have never dated anyone with a lot of money but I know a few people that are very well off and they are just like the rest of us and very down to earth for the most part. So I definitely would not use an excess of money to determine someones datability *if thats a word. I think if you are attracted to this guy, go for it, and see for yourself what he's all about and if you get along, you will probably forget all about the money situation. Just my 2 cents. Trixie

  


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