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Posted on Wed, Oct 19, 2005 17:39

I'd give him some space. If he's really interested in you then he'll contact you, he's got your number. If he's not interested then chalk it up to experience and move on.

I get the impression you might have spooked him by coming on too strong. The date was just the first step, you date not because you're in love but in order to find out whether you like somebody.

Even if he isn't busy, it's quite possible that he's thinking things over. You mentionned that you liked the idea of a relationship where the couple are constantly together... frankly, that's not what I'd want and it's not what any of the girls I've been out with would have wanted either.

So stop the phone calls, stop the emails, stop stalking him and bear in mind that this isn't a relationship yet. You're just getting to know each other.

As Trixie says, men think differently to women and frankly a lot of women think differently to you SD so it's not as if this guy is acting weirdly. he's just acting in a way different to the way you would act. that's not wrong, it's just different.

Give him time... if he doesn't contact you there's plenty more fish in the sea.
I'd give him some space. If he's really interested in you then he'll contact you, he's got your number. If he's not interested then chalk it up to experience and move on.

I get the impression you might have spooked him by coming on too strong. The date was just the first step, you date not because you're in love but in order to find out whether you like somebody.

Even if he isn't busy, it's quite possible that he's thinking things over. You mentionned that you liked the idea of a relationship where the couple are constantly together... frankly, that's not what I'd want and it's not what any of the girls I've been out with would have wanted either.

So stop the phone calls, stop the emails, stop stalking him and bear in mind that this isn't a relationship yet. You're just getting to know each other.

As Trixie says, men think differently to women and frankly a lot of women think differently to you SD so it's not as if this guy is acting weirdly. he's just acting in a way different to the way you would act. that's not wrong, it's just different.

Give him time... if he doesn't contact you there's plenty more fish in the sea.



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Posted on Wed, Oct 19, 2005 16:10

Hey Sin, unfortunately this is a common problem with dating. You are far from alone and please do not blame or beat yourself up. Guys truly do not think like women. Plus, men will never want to hurt you in person so if they are not interested they will not tell you, they will try and let you figure it out the hard way. Even if you ask them out right it seems they will not give you an honest answer, that is my experience. For some strange reason many of them seem to think its easier to just avoid it than honestly state their feelings. But on the other hand, he may be busy and he may not have received your email or a hundred other things. Personally, I would not email him again, as you said you don't want to appear like a stalker, you have made your feelings perfectly clear and if he eventually returns your call and email thats great. But don't put yourself out there to feel hurt or rejected any more. You have done all that you can. Just let it go and realize that unfortunately it is out of your hands at this point. As you said the next move is his to make. I know I haven't given you any great answers but just know that you are not alone, these situations seem very common. So keep your chin up Sin, you are a beautiful intelligent woman and any man would be lucky to get you.
Hey Sin, unfortunately this is a common problem with dating. You are far from alone and please do not blame or beat yourself up. Guys truly do not think like women. Plus, men will never want to hurt you in person so if they are not interested they will not tell you, they will try and let you figure it out the hard way. Even if you ask them out right it seems they will not give you an honest answer, that is my experience. For some strange reason many of them seem to think its easier to just avoid it than honestly state their feelings. But on the other hand, he may be busy and he may not have received your email or a hundred other things. Personally, I would not email him again, as you said you don't want to appear like a stalker, you have made your feelings perfectly clear and if he eventually returns your call and email thats great. But don't put yourself out there to feel hurt or rejected any more. You have done all that you can. Just let it go and realize that unfortunately it is out of your hands at this point. As you said the next move is his to make. I know I haven't given you any great answers but just know that you are not alone, these situations seem very common. So keep your chin up Sin, you are a beautiful intelligent woman and any man would be lucky to get you.



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Posted on Wed, Oct 19, 2005 13:36

We in the forums have discussed this many times. I do not understand the rudeness of not answering, maybe men are afraid we will get all "emotional" on them and they just can not handle it. How do men "rule" the world. Maybe thats why there are so many wars, nobody calls back. LOL

You should read the book, "He's Just not that Into You." Funny and insightful look at men.

Personally if they don't call or respond in a timely fashion (especially if they said they would), they are deleted, whiped off the face of the earth, I have some ice cream, and then I move on figuring it was good I escaped from that one....
We in the forums have discussed this many times. I do not understand the rudeness of not answering, maybe men are afraid we will get all "emotional" on them and they just can not handle it. How do men "rule" the world. Maybe thats why there are so many wars, nobody calls back. LOL

You should read the book, "He's Just not that Into You." Funny and insightful look at men.

Personally if they don't call or respond in a timely fashion (especially if they said they would), they are deleted, whiped off the face of the earth, I have some ice cream, and then I move on figuring it was good I escaped from that one....

  


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