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Posted on Wed, Oct 19, 2005 11:46

I was just wondering how many of you are starting over in life and considering having a new relationship? I havent dated since my divorce four years ago..the dating scene is very different then it use to be..I was wondering if any of you have gone through this ..if you would share with me what kind of obstacles or issues you have faced going down the dating road,I am not a bar fly,and am curious about what both sexes face on their quest for a good relationship besides the barbie or ken in a box factor...? Thanks for you input..I look forward to your replys...I'm new to this site and have never done a singles site before ..what kind of issues do you routinely deal with here?
I was just wondering how many of you are starting over in life and considering having a new relationship? I havent dated since my divorce four years ago..the dating scene is very different then it use to be..I was wondering if any of you have gone through this ..if you would share with me what kind of obstacles or issues you have faced going down the dating road,I am not a bar fly,and am curious about what both sexes face on their quest for a good relationship besides the barbie or ken in a box factor...? Thanks for you input..I look forward to your replys...I'm new to this site and have never done a singles site before ..what kind of issues do you routinely deal with here?



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Posted on Tue, Apr 25, 2006 20:00

Hi! I feel like I'm starting another phase in my life, and am scared to death!! My hubby has a brain tumor Nov. 04 which was partially removed Feb.05 and again in April 05 and hospitalized until Feb.06 Went through a rehab program but still is disabled and totally dependant, awaiting more surgery to undo a contracture. I love my hubby to death, but have gained mega lbs. I'm sure up over 300 and totally responsbile for his total care. I'm starting to get burnt out, and feel so lonely. I am hoping for some emotional support.

  


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Posted on Mon, Nov 28, 2005 04:47

Starting over at any age, size, economic condition and emotional phase in life is very emotionally draining. I love to read the tabloids National Enquirer, etc. Even the beautiful and wealthy have to find the strength to go on without their love interest or ex-spouse who dumped them for the new flavor of the month. Focus on the solution and the problem melts away. Forgive your enemy, in mean your ex, if only I had done this sooner when I split up from my several relationships I wouldn't have had so much baggage. I was feeling sorry for myself and not allowing myself to heal. Go to healthy support groups, not male/female bashers. That only produces negative vibes and not focus on you. Let go and let God be God in your life. Keep it simple. Let us know how you are doing in 8 months, okay? Dahlia.

  
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Posted on Thu, Oct 20, 2005 08:48

Actually music..since this is a health forum..and you've gone through a lot ..I was wondering if through your health problems you had to take steroids? I was a size six when I remarried..I developed auto immune problems and was put on steroids four years ago..I went from a size six to being a plus size woman..steroids not only caused incredible weight gain but what they refer to as a moon face..they make your face and trunk swollen and round..they tried to take me off them this spring and I had to go back on them because they had caused my adrenal glands not to work..am having to decrease them over a year this time.I have managed to loose a considerable amount of weight but I have a ways to go yet..being five foot two and putting on weight..doenst take long to make you quite a bit larger..ironically I married a Large man...those issues didnt matter to me..what mattered was character..however he never quit dating after we got married..so that was quite a blow..that has been part of the reason of my delay in dating again..I'm very old fashioned in my beliefs..and cheating isnt on my list of things to revisit. Anyway..I was wondering if you have dealt with any health issues of this type during your treatment and if you found ways to combat the side affects of the medications? Thanks so much for your reply again..dressedtokill
Actually music..since this is a health forum..and you've gone through a lot ..I was wondering if through your health problems you had to take steroids? I was a size six when I remarried..I developed auto immune problems and was put on steroids four years ago..I went from a size six to being a plus size woman..steroids not only caused incredible weight gain but what they refer to as a moon face..they make your face and trunk swollen and round..they tried to take me off them this spring and I had to go back on them because they had caused my adrenal glands not to work..am having to decrease them over a year this time.I have managed to loose a considerable amount of weight but I have a ways to go yet..being five foot two and putting on weight..doenst take long to make you quite a bit larger..ironically I married a Large man...those issues didnt matter to me..what mattered was character..however he never quit dating after we got married..so that was quite a blow..that has been part of the reason of my delay in dating again..I'm very old fashioned in my beliefs..and cheating isnt on my list of things to revisit. Anyway..I was wondering if you have dealt with any health issues of this type during your treatment and if you found ways to combat the side affects of the medications? Thanks so much for your reply again..dressedtokill



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Posted on Thu, Oct 20, 2005 08:26

Thanks for your reply music .I have no idea how a dating question ended up in health ..I'm not a gold member ..I just tried this for the first time this week..it has taken me four years to decide if I wanted to take that step again..I relocated fourteen hundred miles away afer my divorce to Michigan..bought a cottage on the lake in a very small touristy town..and have taken my time thinking about what I will and wont go through again..it sounds like you have gone through a lot ..major adjustments at any age and lots of stress..that I do understand completely ..I hope you are doin well ..was wondering what kind of issues people on this site were facing..so I could avoid any unforseen issues that go with participating on a singles web site? I have had some feedback on what I put on largefriends..who seemed very nice..but the inquiry's seem to come through customer service?
And there seems to be limits as to what I can access and not access..mostly not access without payment. Anyone else having this problem?
Thanks for your reply music .I have no idea how a dating question ended up in health ..I'm not a gold member ..I just tried this for the first time this week..it has taken me four years to decide if I wanted to take that step again..I relocated fourteen hundred miles away afer my divorce to Michigan..bought a cottage on the lake in a very small touristy town..and have taken my time thinking about what I will and wont go through again..it sounds like you have gone through a lot ..major adjustments at any age and lots of stress..that I do understand completely ..I hope you are doin well ..was wondering what kind of issues people on this site were facing..so I could avoid any unforseen issues that go with participating on a singles web site? I have had some feedback on what I put on largefriends..who seemed very nice..but the inquiry's seem to come through customer service?
And there seems to be limits as to what I can access and not access..mostly not access without payment. Anyone else having this problem?



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Posted on Thu, Oct 20, 2005 08:17

Hi there! I'm the same age and you are and yes, starting over is very hard.

The past 5 years have been very difficult for me. I went through a marriage, divorce, job change, breast cancer, daughter married...

It's been hard, but I made it and you will too!

Dating... it's a hard thing. I'm not good at it. I don't know how to meet people and don't have the confidence to believe they'd like me the way I am even if I did meet them. But... all's good and someday... if it's meant to be, I will meet someone that can even appreciate and love that part of me. So will you!

Good luck!
Hi there! I'm the same age and you are and yes, starting over is very hard.

The past 5 years have been very difficult for me. I went through a marriage, divorce, job change, breast cancer, daughter married...

It's been hard, but I made it and you will too!

Dating... it's a hard thing. I'm not good at it. I don't know how to meet people and don't have the confidence to believe they'd like me the way I am even if I did meet them. But... all's good and someday... if it's meant to be, I will meet someone that can even appreciate and love that part of me. So will you!

Good luck!