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Posted on Fri, Oct 14, 2005 08:26

I have really enjoyed reading the subjects here, there are some really positive and upbeat people here who have great self-esteem. We all know self-esteem in the larger sized people is hard earned. Over our lifetime being put down before someone even knows the person within but can be very defeating. Before I became single and started searching the internet I had no clue that there were so many fat admirers out in the world and love us for the way we are without changing.

Of course there are still people out there that think because we're overweight we're desperate and we should be thankful that they want us and expect us to invite them right on over for a romp in the hay. And I'm someone who loves a good romp in the hay but wow, I'd sure like to know that person a bit before that happens, lol.

I think we become more attractive to others when we learn to love ourselves just as we are and have a positive outlook.

Granted, we have same urges as our thinner counterparts but I hope we'll think highly enough of ourselves that we don't put our safety/health in danger by handing out our bodies to any Tom, Nick (the censor didn't like the other name, lol) or Harry. These days there's ways to take care of those urges without inviting danger into our bedrooms, lol.

There's also many sites out there, some better than others that you can meet quality people. Even clubs you can join. So, I just had to get that out in the open, work on self-esteem issues and your beauty and great energy will follow. Keep up the great posts. You guys are a blast! Grace

  


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Posted on Fri, Jul 04, 2008 22:21

To me, being nothing but a stinky mass of lard is part of my punk pride. I really gross people out and I like that. While everybody is concerned about losing weight I just let myself get fatter and fatter. I'm the "no" answer to mainstream society's fascination with Hollywood standards.



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Posted on Sun, Feb 24, 2008 22:30

Well i have done some really silly stuff..but all in waitting for an effect on my friends. I really wanted to see who is honest..Guess what? I have come to this:Like me are hate me ..there is no middle part.
Btw us..yeah i shaved my head to..who caress :)

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Posted on Tue, Feb 19, 2008 15:51

I think one of the most difficult things about being overweight is the expectation of non-fat people. They expect you to accept that you will be the subject of ridicule, abuse, insults. But the most disappointing thing is that they also assume that as a fat person you hate yourself, you have no self worth, you're depressed, you lack self esteem etc, which isn't true for all of us. Additionally, I love the way 'fat' goes hand in hand with 'ugly' or 'disgusting.' How many times have you heard people say "fat and ugly" or "fat and disgusting?" There are unattractive skinny people everywhere!!

I've been in situations where guys have stared or said something about my appearance under their breath. It doesn't happen often, but when it does I usually say something crude like "If you're curious, yes, this is the best you'll ever have" or "it didn't bother you last night when I was sitting on your face." Crass I know, but it sure takes them by surprise!



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Posted on Tue, Jan 22, 2008 14:09

The thing that really bothers me is that I hear people say people are fat because they dont take care of themselves..
and I am not a fat person
I am a person who is fat.



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Posted on Sun, Oct 23, 2005 19:58

Hello lady!! What Ya doing?
Hello lady!! What Ya doing?



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Posted on Thu, Oct 20, 2005 11:04

I was in the market the other day.. my two children in tow. This man kept on staring at me. I turned around and made the comment "If you have a problem with the way I look,their are millions of others in the world, stare at someone else." I am self-confident, but to be gawked as if im a side show freak is uncalled for.
I was in the market the other day.. my two children in tow. This man kept on staring at me. I turned around and made the comment "If you have a problem with the way I look,their are millions of others in the world, stare at someone else." I am self-confident, but to be gawked as if im a side show freak is uncalled for.



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Posted on Mon, Oct 17, 2005 22:08

people are so different these days. i have been approached by some of the nastiest men with the ludest lines. or even worse, the ones that are nice as pie and then turn into "mr bootyhound".
one of the last jerks was after me for like 2 weeks and when i told him "i'm not like that and don't talk to me that way" he yelled "loose some weight!" nice i thought? a week ago you were telling me i was beautiful and couldn't believe i as spoken for. i really do think that a man/boy/guy whatever? of "normal weight" thinks of it as a privilage that they would consider a "heavier girl"? but that doesn't mean talk to me like i am dirt?



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