Curious BBW vs SSBBW Just Chat

  • View author's info posted on Jun 27, 2008 20:00

    I think that men really enjoy a woman with some meat on her bones but society gives those men a tough time. There is your closet bbw lovers. They really love bbw's but get a lot of harrassment for it from friends, family or even just other men. I have had men almost in tears over this issue because they feel they cannot be themselves in public and how difficult it is for them. So think twice before you make up your mind about someone. The men who naturally are attracted to bbw's have gone through a lot of the same unjustice that a lot of bbw's have gone through.

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  • View author's info posted on Oct 12, 2005 02:03

    Super-Size Big Beautiful Woman.

    Because every woman wants to sound like something you can get from 7-11.

    Do they even have 7-11s any more? I haven't seen one for years.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 11, 2005 09:11

    What is SSBBW?
  • View author's info posted on Oct 08, 2005 20:48

    SinfullyDelicious said:

    1. You are very pretty! So don't for a second think you aren't.

    Thank you very much, SD. I think you're gorgeous yourself. And I will definitely try to follow your advice. Joining this site was the first step in that direction for me: deliberately not "waiting till I lose weight" to try to find a boyfriend. I deserve one now... I just have to find him.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 08, 2005 20:45

    Theophrastus write:
    Oh please Aerinah... you're gorgeous. No room for discussion there. If you don't wake up in the morning and look in the mirror and think "I am damn cute" then there's something wrong with the world or your mirror.

    Aww, thanks hon!! Some days I do think I'm damn cute, and some days I don't - we've all been there I'm sure.

    While we're talking already anyhow, may I say I've found your posts pretty darn witty?
  • View author's info posted on Oct 05, 2005 15:50

    Amen to all your comments to Aerinah! I've been through the same negative self-image problems myself. I wish we could put your comments on those Sweetheart candies and hand them out to all the large lovely (but insecure) ladies on this site!
  • View author's info posted on Oct 05, 2005 09:41

    SinfullyDelicious write:

    LOL Exactly! In the end really boils down to preference.. I think..

    Subscription for what?? LOL

    I wish that if I posted in a thread it would send me an email letting me know when someone replies. Like give an option to subscribe to threads anf forums that you like. :) Good stuff!@
  • View author's info posted on Oct 05, 2005 06:11

    Well - Tell me if I am wrong; From what people have posted here, I would be a hypocrite against thin people then. I am a thin guy who prefers BBW.

    Anyhoo - Still wish there was a subscribe option. LOL
  • View author's info posted on Oct 05, 2005 06:04

    Dee738 write:
    Ooooh! ooooh! I know the answer to this one!

    You can't. These forums are a little odd. People who are not full members have to wait 24 hrs (although on weekends and holidays I have seen it go longer) to see their posts. no way to "subscribe" to the threads. And the software they use to censor for innappropriate content sometimes picks the oddest things to get upset about. (I.e. the word sh.ave is censored)

    But don't let that stop you. Welcome to the boards and happy posting.

    Thanks - Wish it could have a subscribe option. It would be easier to partiticipate in the discussions. :)
  • View author's info posted on Oct 05, 2005 03:06

    Oh please Aerinah... you're gorgeous. No room for discussion there. If you don't wake up in the morning and look in the mirror and think "I am damn cute" then there's something wrong with the world or your mirror.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 04, 2005 20:45

    All this talk about hypocrisy has got me thinking about my own preferences, and I've decided I'm a bit of a hypocrite... in that I discriminate against myself.

    Let me explain: I prefer to date larger men (stocky, chubby, BHM, fat, whatever your favorite term is). And while I'm not attracted to women, I freely admit that there are many large (BBW, voluptuous, fat, whatever) women that I find beautiful (for example, SinfullyDelicious and Reighne, I think you are two of the loveliest ladies I've ever seen!).

    But I have a big problem with my own body, and I have a hard time believing anyone could be attracted to me, because I'm fat. This is something I'm working on, but it's true.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 04, 2005 10:37

    I never said YOU were a hypocrite. I didn't think it, what I was getting at was the last bit. If you moan about society's standards and then go forth and perpetuate then then you're a hypocrite.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 04, 2005 09:46

    Well I say hypocrisy...

    I agree with you IF that person has never moaned about how hard it is for a big person to find a date.

    I've never met a big person who didn't moan about how society portrays big people and complain about how someone is missing out on dating you because they don't date big people.

    If you've NEVER moaned about size-acceptance then I think you can fairly date whomever you want without fear of being labelled a hypocrite. However, if you've even once complained about our culture's criteria for physical beauty then you're a hypocrite if you don't date big people because you're part of the problem.

    And I've never heard of someone being seen as a hero because they dated someone skinny.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 04, 2005 03:13

    Absolutely Niceguy... it is hypocrisy. It's also one of my betes noires: Big people who don't dig big people.

    I'm not going to go into it again because I've bored and alienated half the site with my rantings on the subject but I will say "yes, yes and twice yes on saturdays" :-)
  • View author's info posted on Oct 02, 2005 16:24

    Interesting topic -

    I am curious however; what size do you start calling yourself AA vs BB.

    I personally am a thin guy who prefers bigger women. This is a topic I can go on about for hours. There are so many things that come into play when you are attracted to someone or not.

    Yes you can find people very pretty and attractive, but never want to be with them in that way.

    Just wish it was easier meeting nice people. I am new to the site, just signed up last week. I am unsure about the online dating seen myself. How many people actually end up hooking up with someone else from here? Who knows.

    Also - does anyone know how to set it or if you can set it where when someone replies to a topic you post on, that you get an email or something letting you know that someone replied?

    Many thanks!!!
  • View author's info posted on Oct 01, 2005 09:22

    it's like... ok here is the deal:

    i read profiles and see posts about women wanting to see what personality you have, and that looks aren't important, etc

    then there is some disclaimer, "well there should be some physical attraction", "well, no one who is too big"

    you all seem like decent people but i can"t help but sense some hypocrasy in some profiles

    call it settling< call it caring about the person not their body< call it what you will but i truly don"t really care about how people look
  • View author's info posted on Oct 01, 2005 02:40

    I don't think it's necessarily that we're forced to not be shallow because we'd all die alone if we were. I think it's more a question of life experience.

    Lots of big people learn the hard way that people haven't gotten fair impressions of them based on shallow appreciation of looks.

    Therefore, it only makes sense for them not to apply that standard to others.

    I don't think there's any settling involved. It's just that many of us have realised that some of the ways in which people judge one another are silly, so we choose different matters.

    If you're talking about the idea that NOBODY should ever be judged on the basis of their appearance, then you might well be right because it is in the interests of ugly people to not be judged on their appearance. But I don't think anyone seriously says that appearance doesn't come into it at all, even if it's minimal standards or "as long as they're attractive TO ME".
  • View author's info posted on Oct 01, 2005 02:30

    My Problem is not with being large but that most guys who say they like large ladies really mean large in the bust and smaller everywhere else. (sigh) So repeating to myself as I am at the gym " I must I must I must improve that bust "
  • View author's info posted on Sep 30, 2005 15:19

    Its like, in my view.. beggars can't be choosers...

    I guess I'll be honest here:
    It seems that large people are interested on seeing what's on the "inside" cause the outside isn't too great... like... people say they don't care about looks then come to a large people dating site and want atheletic people... I don't know maybe Its just me and its tough week realizing how much my life stinks, but I felt it needed to be said

    that said everyone here seems to be atractive in my view both physically and by the profiles and stuff

    but, yeah, sorry if I hurt anyones feelings... just needed to rant
  • View author's info posted on Sep 30, 2005 06:01

    nods at Sinfully.

    That's part of why I think it's condescending. Not all big women are beautiful and labelling them as such both devalues the term and is patronising to those that aren't.

    The BBW/SSBBW thing is, I'm pretty sure, fetish nomenclature (I know.. I'm starting to sound like a broken record but look at the wikipaedia listing for BBW), so there's issues there as well.
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