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Posted on Wed, Sep 28, 2005 08:32

Where do you draw the line? Do you truly like ALL BBWs or is there a physical line you draw that you don't like someone because of their size?

I think I'm probably considered a SSBBW. I look at pics of other women here and would love to be their size... yet they are still considered BBWs.

Just curious. I know there are preferences of all types. I've met men I didn't want to date, but it wasn't their size... it was usually because they were slobs or unmotivated, unemployeed and looking for someone to take care of THEM.

I've also dated several men that after we had dated a bit, they began to be emotionally unacceptable to me. Like all of a sudden everything I did was wrong or taking me for granted... you know? But I've NEVER decided to not date someone because of their size.



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Posted on Fri, Jun 27, 2008 20:00

I think that men really enjoy a woman with some meat on her bones but society gives those men a tough time. There is your closet bbw lovers. They really love bbw's but get a lot of harrassment for it from friends, family or even just other men. I have had men almost in tears over this issue because they feel they cannot be themselves in public and how difficult it is for them. So think twice before you make up your mind about someone. The men who naturally are attracted to bbw's have gone through a lot of the same unjustice that a lot of bbw's have gone through.

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Posted on Wed, Oct 12, 2005 17:53


bhoydavid write:
what really matters more than anything is people
s personality,NOT how big or small they are. BBW & SSBBW are in my opinion misleading anyway,for some a size say 16 would be considered to be BBW whereas for the likes of myself that
s an average size of females in the UK. The whole catagorising people really ticks me off,as not everyone fits in to whatever category they
re supposed to be in. We
re all just human beings of all shapes & sizes,it
s how you live your life that determines your beauty to others,not what size you come in.



I totally agree, but society has made it very difficult to not think about our size.



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Posted on Wed, Oct 12, 2005 17:51

what really matters more than anything is people
s personality,NOT how big or small they are. BBW & SSBBW are in my opinion misleading anyway,for some a size say 16 would be considered to be BBW whereas for the likes of myself that
s an average size of females in the UK. The whole catagorising people really ticks me off,as not everyone fits in to whatever category they
re supposed to be in. We
re all just human beings of all shapes & sizes,it
s how you live your life that determines your beauty to others,not what size you come in.



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Posted on Wed, Oct 12, 2005 14:13


Dee738 write:

I agree wholeheartedly, musicnut. I am 350 lbs, but I don't carry my weight in my face very much, so I have had it occur where someone doesn't bother looking at my additional profile pictures and have one heck of a shock when we meet.

And men are so used to women moaning "I am sooo fat" that when I say "I am just huge" many of them assume I mean "40 lbs overweight" huge.



I know what you mean... I'm told I don't show my size in my pic either. Personally... I'm so sick of women who need to lose 20-25 lbs calling themselves fat that I want to puke! Sorry... I'd love to only have that much to lose. Anyway... I'm so glad there's someone else out there that understands what I mean. I don't like labels either, but I'm tired of the disappointed looks I get when we meet.

I met a man not long ago that I had communicated with for over a year (met him on the site back then). He had my current pic and was a VERY large man himself. Do you think I've heard from him since??? NOPE! My face looks the same, my personality is the same... the only thing it could be is the rest of me... now how shallow is that??



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Posted on Wed, Oct 12, 2005 14:02


musicnut46 write:


First of all... yes there are still 7-11's,

Secondly... the distiction is to make people aware that we are NOT the couple pounds extra people. With every one that is just a few pounds over weight calling themselves fat or BBWs, it's just hard to let someone know before meeting them that we are truly large women... and sad to say... most people don't like that. ANyway... that's why the SSBBW...



I agree wholeheartedly, musicnut. I am 350 lbs, but I don't carry my weight in my face very much, so I have had it occur where someone doesn't bother looking at my additional profile pictures and have one heck of a shock when we meet.

And men are so used to women moaning "I am sooo fat" that when I say "I am just huge" many of them assume I mean "40 lbs overweight" huge.



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Posted on Wed, Oct 12, 2005 09:59


Theophrastus write:
Super-Size Big Beautiful Woman.

Because every woman wants to sound like something you can get from 7-11.

Do they even have 7-11s any more? I haven't seen one for years.



First of all... yes there are still 7-11's,

Secondly... the distiction is to make people aware that we are NOT the couple pounds extra people. With every one that is just a few pounds over weight calling themselves fat or BBWs, it's just hard to let someone know before meeting them that we are truly large women... and sad to say... most people don't like that. ANyway... that's why the SSBBW...



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Posted on Wed, Oct 12, 2005 02:03

Super-Size Big Beautiful Woman.

Because every woman wants to sound like something you can get from 7-11.

Do they even have 7-11s any more? I haven't seen one for years.



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Posted on Tue, Oct 11, 2005 09:11

What is SSBBW?



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Posted on Sat, Oct 08, 2005 20:48

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1. You are very pretty! So don't for a second think you aren't.

Thank you very much, SD. I think you're gorgeous yourself. And I will definitely try to follow your advice. Joining this site was the first step in that direction for me: deliberately not "waiting till I lose weight" to try to find a boyfriend. I deserve one now... I just have to find him.

  


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Posted on Sat, Oct 08, 2005 20:45


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Oh please Aerinah... you're gorgeous. No room for discussion there. If you don't wake up in the morning and look in the mirror and think "I am damn cute" then there's something wrong with the world or your mirror.



Aww, thanks hon!! Some days I do think I'm damn cute, and some days I don't - we've all been there I'm sure.

While we're talking already anyhow, may I say I've found your posts pretty darn witty?

  


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Posted on Thu, Oct 06, 2005 11:53


poohrulz_11 write:
As i was reading through, i realized that there seem to be many great people on this site... i just want to let everyone know what i am new to this site... my name is candace and i am from the kitchener ontatio area... feel free to mail me if you want to chat...




Hi Pooh! Welcome to the community! I hope you have a good time here. I also have a chat room with some people from here if you would be interested. Just catch me on y_a_hoo with the same name as here and I'll get you the info! We'd love to get to know you. If anyone else is interested in chatting, let me know!



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Posted on Thu, Oct 06, 2005 06:22


Promises write:
Sinfully,
Amen to all your comments to Aerinah! I've been through the same negative self-image problems myself. I wish we could put your comments on those Sweetheart candies and hand them out to all the large lovely (but insecure) ladies on this site!


I think we ALL have self esteem issues from time to time..ale, female, fat, thin, etc. There's always going to be a constant pressure to be perfect and the reality is no one can achieve that! What youo CAN be is the PERFECT YOU! That is not only achievable..but I beleive mandatory!

  


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Posted on Thu, Oct 06, 2005 06:20


whome2 write:

SinfullyDelicious write:

LOL Exactly! In the end tho..it really boils down to preference.. I think..

Subscription for what?? LOL



I wish that if I posted in a thread it would send me an email letting me know when someone replies. Like give an option to subscribe to threads anf forums that you like. :) Good stuff!@



LOL YOu want to take the "lazy way out?" Just kidding...lol Suggest it to the site...



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Posted on Wed, Oct 05, 2005 15:50

Sinfully,
Amen to all your comments to Aerinah! I've been through the same negative self-image problems myself. I wish we could put your comments on those Sweetheart candies and hand them out to all the large lovely (but insecure) ladies on this site!



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Posted on Wed, Oct 05, 2005 09:57


Aerinah write:
But I have a big problem with my own body, and I have a hard time believing anyone could be attracted to me, because I'm fat. This is something I'm working on, but it's true.



I totally understand. I'm a very confident person (NOW...haven't always been) in my opinions and beliefs. BUT I also have a very hard time believing that anyone would think I'm attractive. I look at pictures of MOST of you other women and you just look like average size women to me... I think, wow... if I looked like them, I wouldn't feel the need to go to a BBW site.

I don't necessarily have a preference for larger men... although I'm more comfortable with them. My preference is someone who treats me with respect and not ashamed to be with me.

We have low self esteem... we're not hypocrites. Yes, I'm working on it too, but it's a hard one to overcome when you have constant input of people telling you that 'you'd be so pretty IF you'd just lose weight...'



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Posted on Wed, Oct 05, 2005 09:41


SinfullyDelicious write:

LOL Exactly! In the end tho..it really boils down to preference.. I think..

Subscription for what?? LOL



I wish that if I posted in a thread it would send me an email letting me know when someone replies. Like give an option to subscribe to threads anf forums that you like. :) Good stuff!@



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Posted on Wed, Oct 05, 2005 08:08


Aerinah write:
I've decided I'm a bit of a hypocrite... in that I discriminate against myself.

Let me explain: I prefer to date larger men (stocky, chubby, BHM, fat, whatever your favorite term is). And while I'm not attracted to women, I freely admit that there are many large (BBW, voluptuous, fat, whatever) women that I find beautiful (for example, SinfullyDelicious and Reighne, I think you are two of the loveliest ladies I've ever seen!).

But I have a big problem with my own body, and I have a hard time believing anyone could be attracted to me, because I'm fat. This is something I'm working on, but it's true.



Okay let me tackle a few things here.

1. You are very pretty! So don't for a second think you aren't.

2. Thank you for the compliment.

3. I don't view your "issue" as hypocrisy, rather just a self esteem issue. I'm not saying that to be mean at all. I think eveyone at one time or another has the same thing. Im a very confident person. I live by the philosophy that if you have a problem with me it's just that... YOUR problem. I know not everyone will like my personality, I know that not everyone will find me attractive and I'm ok with that. Not everyone will like me. BUT on that same note.. I still have my days where I think "damn..I dont look like Britney Spears... so um.. why would anyone want me?"

What you need to do is realize all of the good things you have to offer a partner. You are beautiful, smart, no doubt funny, compassionate, etc. Those are awesome qualities. Once you beleive and accept that... you have the upperhand.

Ive lost alot of weight, however before I did and even now one way I find that gives me extra confidence, an extra boost about myself is exercise. Not neccesarily to lose weight, but it releases endorphines..and it just gives you that energy kick you need.

You are beautiful, you are a woman...you rock..now... go out and kick some a$$!



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Posted on Wed, Oct 05, 2005 08:01


whome2 write:
Well - Tell me if I am wrong; From what people have posted here, I would be a hypocrite against thin people then. I am a thin guy who prefers BBW.

Anyhoo - Still wish there was a subscribe option. LOL


LOL Exactly! In the end tho..it really boils down to preference.. I think..

Subscription for what?? LOL



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Posted on Wed, Oct 05, 2005 06:11

Well - Tell me if I am wrong; From what people have posted here, I would be a hypocrite against thin people then. I am a thin guy who prefers BBW.

Anyhoo - Still wish there was a subscribe option. LOL

  


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