I think that men really enjoy a woman with some meat on her bones but society gives those men a tough time. There is your closet bbw lovers. They really love bbw's but get a lot of harrassment for it from friends, family or even just other men. I have had men almost in tears over this issue because they feel they cannot be themselves in public and how difficult it is for them. So think twice before you make up your mind about someone. The men who naturally are attracted to bbw's have gone through a lot of the same unjustice that a lot of bbw's have gone through.
1. You are very pretty! So don't for a second think you aren't.
Thank you very much, SD. I think you're gorgeous yourself. And I will definitely try to follow your advice. Joining this site was the first step in that direction for me: deliberately not "waiting till I lose weight" to try to find a boyfriend. I deserve one now... I just have to find him.
Theophrastus write: Oh please Aerinah... you're gorgeous. No room for discussion there. If you don't wake up in the morning and look in the mirror and think "I am damn cute" then there's something wrong with the world or your mirror.
Aww, thanks hon!! Some days I do think I'm damn cute, and some days I don't - we've all been there I'm sure.
While we're talking already anyhow, may I say I've found your posts pretty darn witty?
Amen to all your comments to Aerinah! I've been through the same negative self-image problems myself. I wish we could put your comments on those Sweetheart candies and hand them out to all the large lovely (but insecure) ladies on this site!
Dee738 write: Ooooh! ooooh! I know the answer to this one!
You can't. These forums are a little odd. People who are not full members have to wait 24 hrs (although on weekends and holidays I have seen it go longer) to see their posts. no way to "subscribe" to the threads. And the software they use to censor for innappropriate content sometimes picks the oddest things to get upset about. (I.e. the word sh.ave is censored)
But don't let that stop you. Welcome to the boards and happy posting.
Thanks - Wish it could have a subscribe option. It would be easier to partiticipate in the discussions. :)
Oh please Aerinah... you're gorgeous. No room for discussion there. If you don't wake up in the morning and look in the mirror and think "I am damn cute" then there's something wrong with the world or your mirror.
All this talk about hypocrisy has got me thinking about my own preferences, and I've decided I'm a bit of a hypocrite... in that I discriminate against myself.
Let me explain: I prefer to date larger men (stocky, chubby, BHM, fat, whatever your favorite term is). And while I'm not attracted to women, I freely admit that there are many large (BBW, voluptuous, fat, whatever) women that I find beautiful (for example, SinfullyDelicious and Reighne, I think you are two of the loveliest ladies I've ever seen!).
But I have a big problem with my own body, and I have a hard time believing anyone could be attracted to me, because I'm fat. This is something I'm working on, but it's true.
I agree with you IF that person has never moaned about how hard it is for a big person to find a date.
I've never met a big person who didn't moan about how society portrays big people and complain about how someone is missing out on dating you because they don't date big people.
If you've NEVER moaned about size-acceptance then I think you can fairly date whomever you want without fear of being labelled a hypocrite. However, if you've even once complained about our culture's criteria for physical beauty then you're a hypocrite if you don't date big people because you're part of the problem.
And I've never heard of someone being seen as a hero because they dated someone skinny.
I am curious however; what size do you start calling yourself AA vs BB.
I personally am a thin guy who prefers bigger women. This is a topic I can go on about for hours. There are so many things that come into play when you are attracted to someone or not.
Yes you can find people very pretty and attractive, but never want to be with them in that way.
Just wish it was easier meeting nice people. I am new to the site, just signed up last week. I am unsure about the online dating seen myself. How many people actually end up hooking up with someone else from here? Who knows.
Also - does anyone know how to set it or if you can set it where when someone replies to a topic you post on, that you get an email or something letting you know that someone replied?
I don't think it's necessarily that we're forced to not be shallow because we'd all die alone if we were. I think it's more a question of life experience.
Lots of big people learn the hard way that people haven't gotten fair impressions of them based on shallow appreciation of looks.
Therefore, it only makes sense for them not to apply that standard to others.
I don't think there's any settling involved. It's just that many of us have realised that some of the ways in which people judge one another are silly, so we choose different matters.
If you're talking about the idea that NOBODY should ever be judged on the basis of their appearance, then you might well be right because it is in the interests of ugly people to not be judged on their appearance. But I don't think anyone seriously says that appearance doesn't come into it at all, even if it's minimal standards or "as long as they're attractive TO ME".
My Problem is not with being large but that most guys who say they like large ladies really mean large in the bust and smaller everywhere else. (sigh) So repeating to myself as I am at the gym " I must I must I must improve that bust "
Its like, in my view.. beggars can't be choosers...
I guess I'll be honest here:
It seems that large people are interested on seeing what's on the "inside" cause the outside isn't too great... like... people say they don't care about looks then come to a large people dating site and want atheletic people... I don't know maybe Its just me and its tough week realizing how much my life stinks, but I felt it needed to be said
that said everyone here seems to be atractive in my view both physically and by the profiles and stuff
but, yeah, sorry if I hurt anyones feelings... just needed to rant