I have a question for both Ladies and Gents. I want to be as specific in my profile as possible without coming across rude.. BUT I feel if I'm going to post a photo in my profile.. I want anyone responding to me to have one as well. I also am only 25.. I can not TELL you how often I get winks and mail from men old enough to be my Father AND men old enough to be my GRANDFATHER... is there a tactful way of stating... that if you respond you should meet the "following criteria"?
1. Have photo
2. Do NOTT be married
3. Be between 25-38??
I can write it as such... BUT...does it sound rude.. or should I just not care since it IS my criteria?
Yeah, I agree Jackthelass.... I think the main reason people hide their profile is because they have met someone and do not wish to "lead" anyone on. It is easier to just hide your profile if you still wish to enjoy the forums than it is to constantly tell people... Thanks, but I'm taken.
Hi...Some valid points there Mr GW.
I'd just like to say that I wasn't whingeing about getting the winks.....I like getting winks....REALLY!
I'd only hidden my profile because i was seeing somebody, not because I was tired of receiving winks.
But, it's much more flattering to know that someone has taken the trouble to read my profile, and likes what they see, than to just wink at random.
Have a nice day :o) xx
I think the reason why Jackthelass and you other women get so many unwanted "winks" is because of the prevalent "thinking" in this world. Sort of like an animalistic/childlike thought pattern where someone sees somthing they desire and they just respond. These "men" aren't Gentlemen at all. They, for the most part, are like little children who only react; they don't give any thought to others. Apparently, they are only thinking of themselves and their "desires". Of course we shouldn't only be concerned with the errors/rudeness of men. I've seen and been the victim of like rudeness from a few of the "women" who are users of this site. Perhaps we all might be more comfortable and happy if we simply read the different postings and profiles before we respond. It all comes down to the need to start displaying some proper manners AND using your head. I think that it's quite a sad situation when some of the members feel that they need to hide their profiles. For those who do feel that they need to hide their profiles, wouldn't it be much easier to filter your Email? Or, are there some people here who simply feel that there might be things in their profile which are best unrevealed?
jackmcmadd write: Hey Sinful, Just browsed your profile, its a good one, you have made clear what you are looking for, my only suggestion would be to add your request for men with photo's on the end of the piece about what you are looking for. Also add in again that married men need not apply, if any guys take offence at it, then they aren't worth bothering with. Best of luck with your search, not that I think you will need it.
Hey thanks for taking a gander at the ole profile! LOL You are right tho.. sometimes I think it's just "hrm the pic interests me lets say hi". Wouldnt it be funny if I was a lesbian tho? LOL You would definately know they didnt read my profile! (And For The Record.... Im not... MEN ONLY)
kewannap write: Unfortunately, I do not think most guys even bother reading profiles. I think the scan the pics and then start winking. Which is a shame.... they might be passing up on the one special woman.
You did say 'winking' didn't you Kew?? lol
Unfortunately, this is true.
I hid my profile a few weeks back, and yet I'm still getting winks. I hadn't realised that you could still wink someone with a hidden profile...apparently you can do it straight from the forum. Live & learn...
The problem I see is that no matter how specific you are about anything there's always going to be the ones that see your pic, say "She's hot" and send a wink or a message without bothering to read your profile. Then there's the ones that will read it but wink or message because they hope that maybe in their case you'll make an exception.
Just browsed your profile, its a good one, you have made clear what you are looking for, my only suggestion would be to add your request for men with photo's on the end of the piece about what you are looking for. Also add in again that married men need not apply, if any guys take offence at it, then they aren't worth bothering with.
Best of luck with your search, not that I think you will need it.
before i took myself off the dating market i had no attatched men please as i don't paddle in other people's ponds in my profile lol. not that it stopped them mailing me, often they just don't read profiles properly or must think that they're so fantastic we'll go for it anyway.
I have it stated in my profile that I prefer younger men than myself. Within reason of course. Maybe just a couple years older. I also state a racial preference. Of course, I get all sorts of crap about that too. I just simply am not attracted to black men. Has nothing to do with anything else. But I've had some grandpas respond too. I just don't think they read. I think they look at the pic and respond. I'd state it that way sure enough.