I read alot of comments about women who don't continue communications with someone and I must admit... there are times it may have appeared that I did that.
Sooo... this is just some things that throw up major 'red flags' for me when first beginning to communicate with someone.
1. Professing love within the first couple emails. (yes, it has happened)
2. Acting overly defensive if I don't email back immediately. (sounds too desperate to me)
3. Asks too many questions about body size. (I'm upfront that I am VERY large... what more is necessary within the first couple emails?)
4. Talking about s@xual preferences immediately.
I'm sure there are many more, but these have happened recently.
How about you? What are the things that help you decide to not continue communicating with someone?
Not so up on the U.S landlines but here in the UK my mobile (cell) is so cheap and i never go over the inclusive minute's, plus working a 14hr day i just dont bother with a landline, I do agree though some guys are 2 timing a******e's and it reflect's on the genuine one's of us
everyone please forgive me for being hateful and a smart azz... Although I'm sure I'm not the only one thinking this..
Sweetie, just because they won't let you remove your profile does not mean that you have to respond to anyone on here. You do not have to post in the forums. You are making the choice to participate (or not in some instances).
I'm with you on the not doing what they say they're going to do (ie. be online or call) when they say they'll do it. Excuse flies once with me... then it's buh bye. Although, I find it's not an age thing in my case. The jury is still out and quite honestly, I don't give a dmn long enough to analyze it. They don't wanna, that's their business - they miss out on me, I did what I said I would do...
Smplystriving write: If I based my thoughts of men off of a few men, then I'd be gay by now. Although I'm not trying to push myself onto anyone...it'd be ridiculous to make a judgement on one younger woman based off a few bubbleheads. Oh and typo* he wouldnt like me bc i do NOT have a big chest* I know how extremely important that is....*thinking to myself...if some men were to concentrate on more substantive things, and would give others of us a chance maybe us good women would have a chance*
And like everyone else, you missed the part where I said that I wanted the "total package." But it's no loss to me in any event.
Maybe you should go to where you would do well in your career, then maybe find someone there after you get settled.
And I guess from now on, I'll just not say what I want and leave everyone guessing. It would probably still tick someone off, no matter what.
But, wait... just someone else would say that I'm angry or something like that...
Just too many excuses that folks come up with these days, so there aren't very many folks I take seriously.
I'm out... this place is not worth the time... and I wish they'd actually let me remove my profile.
Smplystriving write: Aww thanks for the help KEW...but he wouldnt like me anyway..my chest is huge:) Oh well....I'll keep on lookin around.
While I do want a woman with a huge chest, it's more the distance and age that concern me in your case. I didn't not have good experiences with long distance and I just dissed someone on Sunday who was 21 for wasting my time (never would call or IM when she said that she would, always something coming up, but when it came to going out with her friends, she didn't seem to have any trouble doing that, even though SHE was the one begging me for my phone number.)
Kinda sad that I spent less time online to get out and try to find someone, only to run into three different women who just wanted to play games.
and third,kragen...Ive been seein u around the posts...hit me up sometime;) *again shamelessly flirtin....will it ever stop?* No but seriously kragen *smile*
Now, dear, you're just a wee bit too far away for me, and I don't do long distance relationships at all. But take a look at the thread in Dating about "OUTRAGE" because it tells you how to get a hold of me.
Maybe it's just me... but if I'm e-mailing with someone and they start to ask LOTS of questions about my child, it sets off "pervert scare" vibes and I ix-nay them.
Once I meet you and get a "feel" for the kind of person you are, I'll be more willing to share that info. But until then, know that I'm a single mom and accept that that is all the info I'm giving. After all, I have to protect my child as well as myself!
I totally agree with reighne. I don't mind giving out my cell phone to almost anyone, as I have two cell phones and if I don't want to talk to someone, I can just turn them off. My house number is for locals to call if they see a cow on the road or something.
I live on a farm, presently, so the main house number is rather important to be free from any long calls, and I can talk for hours on my cell phone!
Also the cell phone doesn't allow tracing to my home address.
You are so right on, reighne! Your points are very good and I agree with them.
Personally, I only give out my cell phone no matter what the circumstance. My landline can be traced to my home address and frankly, as a girl, I'm not at all comfortable with the idea of someone I know just a little bit about, knowing where I live and the like. My cell however I can always get the number changed easily or block certain calls. I don't really blame the fellas if they are giving out only their cell phones too. In a way that's more about safety in my eyes.
I cannot have said anything better myself. I had one guy ask me to marry him on the second email! No joke. I politely explained my feelings and we emailed about 3 mor times and then I finally blocked him because every email was I the marriage, can't wait to wake beside you, etc. stuff. Come on, real life forever relationships don't happen overnight. I think I've been very clear on that not only on my profile, but in the first into email I send to anyone I think I would like to know better when they send a wink. I later saw him post another profile (with the same pic - stupid!), I guess hoping he'd rope in a few others.