Ok I have a question for anyone who wants to give an answer... If you have a paid membership.. and someone winks you... if you read their profile and they are completely opposite of what you are looking for... do you go out of your way to acknowledge that wink..and email them and say thanks..or just kind of let it be? I've received many winks.. and some from men that are 50-65 yrs old... I'm 25.... for me to respond to a 65 yr old..feels weird.. but I don't want to be rude you know? What are your thoughts? And should it be any different if they emailed me...vs just a winK?
Not being a paid member, I don't usually reply to such winks. If I am a paid member, I reply with a thanks but no thanks. I get such winks too. Don't like them. I prefer younger men or men about my age and I state that specifically in my profile. Futile on my part I think because I still get them. I don't think they read.
I must admit... I'm not good at replying to every wink. I guess I don't take them very seriously. I used to reply back and then never hear anything else. I just intrepet it as a hi... you're not bad, but not what I want to spend my time communicating with. I know... probably not the right thing to assume because I have winked at very few men. I'm not much of a pursuer.
As long as I am a paid member, I reply to every wink with an email simply to tell them thanks for the interest but I am not available or whatever the reason is that I'm not interested. I just personally feel that it is common courtesy to respond.
I'm 29...and I get the same winks from people much older than me.
Usually what I say is that I am flattered, but not interested in being anything more than friends. ( I do enjoy talking to new people, and age is much less of a concern when it comes to friends.)
I do however tend to just ignore people who say nothing in their profile, because, well....I honestly can't think of a thing to say when their profile is blank.
I used to ignore the married ones, but I started just being honest with them. "Thank for the wink, but the fact that you are married makes me very uncomfortable". I figure, they contacted me, they deerve to know how I feel on certain subjects.