I need your help! I've lost my bottle and can't seem to find it anywhere.
I can do the emailing bit,
And handle the phonecalls.
But when it comes to the "let's meet up for a coffee" stage...........
Oooohhhhhhhh I hate that bit!
I'd rather pull out my teeth without an anisetic!
The thought of actually meeting somebody in "real life" makes me feel physically sick with nerves, and I can think of 5000000 excuses not to turn up-even though we get on great on the phone.
I've met somebody now on here! He looks great on his pic, didn't toss his cookies when I sent him mine, he makes me laugh with his e mails, sounds great on the phone and lives fairly close to me.
Sounds great eh????
We're supposed to be meeting for the first time this evening, in McDonalds for the dreaded "coffee" and I'm po o- ing my pants!
I've met several men. I've never had a 'horrid' experience. Most I never wanted to actually go out with, but the first meetings went ok. Just make sure and don't change your plans before meeting. It's easy to just be nice and leave after a short meeting if you're not comfortable with them.
Thanks for your replies-you're really sweet!
Well I met him, and it all went great!
We really liked him (I took my six year old daughter) and he phoned later to say he really liked us too, so all my panic attacks and soiled underwear-lol (not really) was all for nothing!
Now that the ice has been broken it'll be a lot easier next time.
I will say though that had he said something like "you're very nice, but not really my type", or given me some other kind of brush-off, it would have been a long, long time before I plucked up to courage to meet anyone else-if at all! I seem to have lost all my confidence as well as my bottle!
Take a deep breath. The first time is the most difficult. I am pretty lucky, the very first time i met someone from online it went very well (If you want the story, see my post "first meeting" on the "message board" forum)
Theo made some very excellent points in his post, so I won't repeat them all. But just remember, we are all here for you. Good luck, and I hope it goes well.