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  • View author's info posted on Sep 26, 2005 19:25

    I was thinking the same thing - that BHM's tend to be seen with short/slim women.

    Rarely, have I ever met a BHM that was interested in dating a BBW. Why is that?

    Actually, up here in Ontario, Canada, I have found that most men (regardless of their size) are not generally interested in dating BBW's.

    Question: Do BBW's and BHM have an easier time with attracting people in specific areas?

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  • View author's info posted on Sep 25, 2005 03:00

    The other thing that struck me is that basically any skinny people here are fetishists. They're not here to meet people they're here to have se'x with flabby people.

    If you were on some general dating site then you could credibly say that you're not too bothered by shapes and you liked the sound of someone's personality.

    But if you're on here then you had to run a search for it, see what kind of site it was, register your details and THEN start contacting people or filling out your profile.

    Skinny men are here for one reason and one reason alone and I'm pretty damn sure it's not because fat people are jolly.
  • View author's info posted on Sep 24, 2005 10:10

    Yeah... I have to admit that I could very easily live without BBWs that are body fascists.

    But I also could live without this ridiculous notion that because I'm fat I'm somehow further down the food chain than some skinny guy.

    It's easy to look at it in terms of BBWs being courted by fetishists so they can afford to ignore big guys on principle.

    It's a justification for body fascism and sizism. Everyone creates their own desirability pecking order and a BBW that doesn't date big men is like a those thin guys who wouldn't date you as a teenager, in fact they're substantially worse because they've been there.

    I think size-fetishism is an absolute cancer within the plus-size community. It reinforces all the worst kinds of stereotypes that, traditionally, groups that came together over the net move away from.

    As for why BHMs would'nt approach a BBW...

    Maybe they've all given up and decided that suicide's the only way out.

    Maybe they have and they've gotten lost in the tsunami of fetishist emails.
  • View author's info posted on Sep 24, 2005 09:02

    By the way... a VERY nice man who is a BHM has started communicating.... looks VERY possible... probable... exciting... encouraging... yep... he's a nice guy!!!!

    Well...I am dying to know Nut, if the communication is still goin on, and whats happening???
  • View author's info posted on Sep 16, 2005 16:04

    well i agree that some bbw girls go for skinnier guys as we have the same hang ups as bbw lovers, which is generally what are people gonna think, he is young and fit so every one will love me, i will get into the new secret world of skinny people because i am dating one etc! how ever i have just split up from a thin guy because he just doesn't float my boat like rugby player build + do, at the end on the day i wanna be able to relax with a strong pair of masculine arms around me and know that the bloke next to me has some understanding of what i feel and the self consiouness issues that i face even if they are not self concious themselves! just my thoughts! lisa x x x
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