Yeah... I have to admit that I could very easily live without BBWs that are body fascists.
But I also could live without this ridiculous notion that because I'm fat I'm somehow further down the food chain than some skinny guy.
It's easy to look at it in terms of BBWs being courted by fetishists so they can afford to ignore big guys on principle.
It's a justification for body fascism and sizism. Everyone creates their own desirability pecking order and a BBW that doesn't date big men is like a those thin guys who wouldn't date you as a teenager, in fact they're substantially worse because they've been there.
I think size-fetishism is an absolute cancer within the plus-size community. It reinforces all the worst kinds of stereotypes that, traditionally, groups that came together over the net move away from.
As for why BHMs would'nt approach a BBW...
Maybe they've all given up and decided that suicide's the only way out.
Maybe they have and they've gotten lost in the tsunami of fetishist emails.
well i agree that some bbw girls go for skinnier guys as we have the same hang ups as bbw lovers, which is generally what are people gonna think, he is young and fit so every one will love me, i will get into the new secret world of skinny people because i am dating one etc! how ever i have just split up from a thin guy because he just doesn't float my boat like rugby player build + do, at the end on the day i wanna be able to relax with a strong pair of masculine arms around me and know that the bloke next to me has some understanding of what i feel and the self consiouness issues that i face even if they are not self concious themselves! just my thoughts! lisa x x x