Is it just me, or is finding an older woman impossible? love

  • View author's info posted on Feb 27, 2006 03:19


    Oh come on Jo...

    It should be obvious to you why people won't date someone without kids (not helped by the fact that you don't have a picture).
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  • View author's info posted on Feb 26, 2006 14:49


    Hey Chris...if I was about 3500 miles closer...you look like a lovely lad! x
  • View author's info posted on Feb 26, 2006 13:31


    Writer 22, a kindred spirit. I too was enamored of the older woman, from 17 through 50, now at 54, I am the old guy looking for 48 to 60 year old women....so enjoy it while it lasts. I've always thought that women's' physical beauty blossomed fully between 40 and 45. I still do, it's just I prefer a little older still. I get dirty looks from 20 somethings thinking I'm looking at them when in fact, I'm lusting after MOM! Regardless; remember be gentle about the age perspective and always guess a couple years younger. A youngster who was stationed with me in the Navy in 1977 didn't under stand what I saw in older women. I was 25 dating a 40 year old. I did my best to explain it. He was sharp, a dental tech who wanted to go become a dentist after service duty. He came running up to me, calling my name.....'You're right about older women....look at her....ain't she beautiful?' It was the 22 year old centerfold in Playboy. Remember that perspective.
  • View author's info posted on Feb 26, 2006 08:17


    I think it is a person's heart and aura that they give off, not the number in their age that is the problem. Most people that meet me would never think I was 31. The problem I have is that there are no men around Sk. that want a bbw with 2 kids. Why is someone with kids such a stigma when most men my age and younger have kids too.

    There are so many things that are perplexing in the dating world...and there are a bunch of hypocrits out there as well. Unfortunately, we can't control anyone's actions but our own, and we can't own anyone else's feelings or opinions. It's a cruel cruel world..lol

    Keep lookin! There is someone out there for everyone. I am an eternal optimist, and I have been through a divorce and am raising 2 kids practically on my own, so chin up people....I know it's not that encouraging; but if you lived closer I would love to get to know you well Writer!
  • View author's info posted on Feb 26, 2006 07:49


    Right now i do not have a problem with dating younger men and i have..a few have been 15 years younger than me...my main concern though is those brought up by othere...the whole children aspect and are you still going to be interested 20 years down the road if things get serious?
  • View author's info posted on Feb 26, 2006 03:53


    It's funny Smurfette.

    I've never seen a more obvious case of someone's glasses frames aging them. You're not old but the style you wear on your face predates the internet. It's like something out of the 80's.

    If you went and got yourself a trendier set of frames you'd instantly look 10 years younger.

    I don't follow fashion or care about the clothes I wear particularly but glasses are constructed so as to be incredibly trendy things. There's no such thing as fashion-resistant or neutral glasses... they're the type of thing you really need to change every couple of years or so because if you fall out of step you instantly look a lot older.
  • View author's info posted on Feb 26, 2006 00:09


    Hi, just thought I'd let you know there are older women who do prefer younger men. My problem is the opposite, can't find a younger man interested in anything other than sex. Good luck and keep searching!

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  • View author's info posted on Feb 05, 2006 20:38


    Writer22 write:
    Hi everyone-i am chris. I am 22 from outside of chicago. I just wanted to ask men my age if they are finding it difficult to find older women to seriouslt date? i am not talking about just sexxxx, but something serious. In my experience, i cant imagine a time in which i was rejected more. It is nothing i do or say, it is just the fact that i am 22. I have had women tell me that "u r very sweet and good looking, but i am afraid u r too young?" how do they know that? i pose this question to older women? i know that most men my age do fit the description of what u think they will, but what about those of us who r mature and who r financially stable, and ready for love? i welcome all opinions.

    chris

    Bring it on Chris. I'm not to far from you & 35yrs old. If that's old enough for you, I'm ready for a challenge. LOL
  • View author's info posted on Feb 05, 2006 12:00


    I am sorry to see that you are having problems Chris! It should be easier then that for you to date older women. I would not mind dating a younger man if the opportunity presented itself.
  • View author's info posted on Jan 21, 2006 05:55


    Hi Chris, I was in a marriage where my husband was 14 years younger than I and would like to let you know, as long as both have no problem with the difference in years and comments people give their way, great. A marriage is built on love and commitment for each others. In a relationship there always will be many little hills to get over and compromises to be made but as long as both work together at them things can go well. As we age our thoughts change also as well as our bodies do, so as long as changes are in link with each other, things will ride smooth but if each goes in a different direction , that is where problems might start being noticed. Good luck to you Chris, if this is your desire you will find it.

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  • View author's info posted on Jan 18, 2006 11:01


    On one hand, I have no initial problems dating younger men (so long as they are in their twenties). But on the other hand, I worry that if things get more serious, the younger guy's family & circle of friends just won't as accepting of the double-whammy of me being both older AND supersized.
  • View author's info posted on Jan 17, 2006 12:33


    Younger men are nice how much older are you looking for
    Renee

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  • View author's info posted on Dec 28, 2005 16:27


    I guess its partly to do with having sons of 22?...I dont think I could get my head around dating someone that young?
    I do think as well...what about kids?? I have done my bit for the population, and what I get fond of someone younger, and then they wants kids?
    I also find I dont have that much in common with young peoples lifestyles, and music, especially now the boys have left home.
    OK....so now I sound like one of the geriatrics I nurse
  • View author's info posted on Dec 28, 2005 16:21


    Writer22 write:
    Hi everyone-i am chris. I am 22 from outside of chicago. I just wanted to ask men my age if they are finding it difficult to find older women to seriouslt date? i am not talking about just sexxxx, but something serious. In my experience, i cant imagine a time in which i was rejected more. It is nothing i do or say, it is just the fact that i am 22. I have had women tell me that "u r very sweet and good looking, but i am afraid u r too young?" how do they know that? i pose this question to older women? i know that most men my age do fit the description of what u think they will, but what about those of us who r mature and who r financially stable, and ready for love? i welcome all opinions.

    chris


    Oh...Guilty as charged, and recently too...I have said almost exactly the same thing..." You are realy sweet, and a lovely guy, but I am sorry, You are just too young"
    I guess I should try to be a bit more understanding? Thank you Writer22
  • View author's info posted on Dec 27, 2005 11:05


    Writer22-

    I agree with you that age is just a number. I've dated guy both older and younger than me, and as long as we have enough in common, the numbers themselves don't really matter.

    My advice? Expand your profile... tell more about yourself and what you're looking for. For a writer, it's rather short! Show your personality in your profile and in the forums, and reach out and contact some members. I think you'll see some results from there!
  • View author's info posted on Dec 25, 2005 19:38


    I think age is a number...alot has to do with the guy. I feel pretty young at 48...yet I know some guys that are 60 and still havent grown up!

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  • View author's info posted on Dec 08, 2005 19:59


    I'm dating a guy who is younger than me...but only by 4 years. I would encourage women to try a younger man. Younger guys try harder in all aspects and are better in the sack!

    Not all of them are immature!

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  • View author's info posted on Dec 06, 2005 12:42


    Honey if you look hard enough at my profile you'll find me to chat with me!!! I love younger guys!!! I have luck with them, than older guys!!!
  • View author's info posted on Sep 12, 2005 11:24


    Chris personally it never really occured to me to "date" a younger man. But I would agree with what the others have said. However I would add if you show paitence and are persistent you may win in the end. Just be careful not to look like a stalker while doing it. Good Luck. I am just wondering why older women?
  • View author's info posted on Sep 12, 2005 10:27


    Well, let me put it this way then, about the experiences. The comparison is you're 32 considering dating a 16 year old girl. Granted , in this scenerio you'd be put in jail, but, the point is, the maturity, not necessarily "the experiences" comes with how you've grown emotionally. These are things you can't read in a book.
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