My husband past away 8 years ago. 12 years of off and on again situation. He was handsome and a player. I've dated more younger men than my age group. Younger men enjoy my strong and wild personality. Older men tell me to age my age. I can be myself with younger men who appriciate a established woman who knows what she wants in her life. I don't control, I just wait and see what comes my way. Since my life is very full of volunteer work, career, my kids, grandkids,its nice to kick it with a refreshing young man whose open to new ideas.
Sorry to hear of your disappointment, but not to worry, there are plenty more fish in the Loch.
You'll take the high road and I'll take the low road
And I'll be in Scotland before you
Where me and my true love will never meet again
On the bonnie bonnie banks of Loch Lomond...
(Sorry serious AC/DC flahback there)
cheers - i had considered the shy and possibly mutual attraction option... but i think this past week i had a subtle proverbial kick in the teeth. We had a feild excursion with our course for a week out on Loch Lommond and I found out he knows I fancy him. so him running away and treating me different basically comes down to the "im not interested and i dont want to tell you that". so either hes nice and doesnt want to hurt my feelings or hes a jerk and is ... well just a jerk. Had a party while we were out there and aside from scaring the hell out of him (my phone fell between his legs and i dove for it before i realised where exactly it was. my phone still ended up in the loch however) and he managed to flirt and get on with every female in my vicinity - just not me.
story of my life, really :P
Personally, I don't see what age matters. I know, I did put a limit on my preferences, but just because I really don't see what I, at 48, would have in common with someone too much younger (like in their 20's?) and I'm also no longer interested in having children -- most younger men would like to have a child or two (who can blame them?). And lastly, I really don't think I can keep up with someone too much younger physically because of my medical problems.
I, in all sincerity, do not mean to put down, discount, or downgrade anyone just because of age. For me, it's a lifestyle issue decision only.
If the other person was actually an emotionally mature, well-rounded, decent kind of guy, I would have no problems dating someone younger. Perhaps I might even learn a thing or two!
Then there's the other side of the coin - the much older man. Just how old is too old for you? My father is 74 and acts emotionally and psychologically like a spoiled 10 year old; not because of any disease process, but that's how he's been all his life; a little boy in a big body.
Then there's my neighbor, who at 80, is the nicest of gentlemen you'll ever want to meet.
Age is a number. In my humble opinion, it's the maturity, morals, values, and character that counts.
Mmmm...as I read all these posts again, maybe I just may re-evaluate my preferences...
Anyway, I hope I didn't offend anyone as that was not my intention, all I wrote was just my own opinion, based solely on my own experiences, wants and needs.
We all have to make a decision, set limits. I've chosen mine. If what you choose is different and it works for you, I say go for it!
then why can't you leave the poor folks in the religion threads alone for their silly old beliefs. Same difference, again I think it comes down to you wanting to argue just for the sake of arguing.
Theo, I think I was perfectly clear in my original post that my problem is his blatantly offensive statements made about the majority of women under 35 years of age. I never said anything about having a problem with him prefering older women. That is a preference absolutely and good for him for having one. I just want him to realize his statement is offensive to not only women under 35 but women over 35 as well. Again, I stress, in case you anyone did not hear me the first time, I have no problems with someone that prefers to date someone older than themselves. Just wanted to make sure I was crystal clear on that.
Theo, stating that every woman under 35 is childish, immmature and after someone to help raise her child, not a preference. As smart as you are I would think you know that. Do you just like to argue for arguments sake, whether or not you actually make any sense?
Poor, Poor Patriot! You have just alienated a good portion of the women that you so desperately seek on this site. That is no way to find a woman here. Have not learned that stereotyping anyone, be it by age, se=x, race, whatever, is not only wrong but extrememly ignorant. Luckily I happen to be over your 35 year old cut off so I must be ok. But I'll let you in on a little secret, I know a lot of women my age or older that are not classy, not mature and play games like hell. So anyway, I hope you find what you are looking for but it is doubtful with a belief system such as yours.
LokiRook write: ok.. this.. kind of fits what i meant to ask advice on actually...
Im 21, but i like a guy whos 19. Thats not a considerable age gap in any real sense, but in this age group a few years can make all the difference. the problem is... i dont dont understand him.
we get a long great. when he talks to me. you see, normally, he'll actively leave a conversation when im there, but nothing malicious. when we do talk, its like best mates. he has a lot of (beautiful, stunning, gorgeous) female friends and and i cant quite figure out why he is intimidated by me (which is the only conclusion i can think of). See, this is why i was always more into older men, because there wasnt much confusion about whether or not they were interested or why they were avoiding you.
I guess normally i wouldnt be so fussed, cept for the fact that i really fancy the pants off this guy. what a pain! any ideas?
Without knowing the guy it is hard to judge his actions, Hope you don't mind I browsed your profile, you seem an attractive, well grounded and intelligent woman, so I can't see how he is intimidated by you. Of course he may just fancy the pants off you too, and is too shy to say anything.
My advice would be to bite the bullet, go makle a move on him (preferably when he is alone) if nothing else you should get your answer.
PS. After looking at your profile, I wouldn't have had you pegged as loki, more one of the Valkyries, maybe Hilda the ale-maiden.
You honestly have too admit MOST women under 35 are childish. What I mean by that is they are looking for someone too raise and support someone else's kids or they seem too thrive on attention. Whether it be starting trouble or whatever. Most older women are more mature than that and carry themselves better than younger women. That was all I was saying