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  • View author's info Author Posted on Aug 24, 2005 at 08:50 AM

    i have noticed in browsing the various profiles that more than just a few people are looking for someone who is more of an ideal than for someone who is in actuality more real.indeed we all have our standards and hope to find someone or a number of people who we would much prefer,but what we expect and what we have available to choose from can often be two differnt forms of human being[fantasy and then reality.]i have seen lots of preferences listed by members who want someone who is of high income,advanced degreed,beautiful,busty,tall,handsome,and other must haves and must bes.but,we all must take a good look at ourselves and ask:"do i have so many highly desirable qualities that everyone will want to respond to my profile?"
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  • View author's info Posted on Aug 29, 2005 at 01:44 PM

    Well, what I want and what I get are two different things. I think that some people put down what they want/need because the options are there! But in my experice, it doesnt mean that if the men dont fit all 100 of my requirments I will not give them a chance. It's there, but it is the internet and the choices are why not put down exactly what you want? We can all dream sometimes right? But then again we all have different ideas of what our knight in shining armour looks like!

    What's the female version of a knight in shining armour? The princess in the tower? hehe just wondering?
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 24, 2005 at 10:05 PM

    I totally agree with you there. I've noticed that people, both males and females, tend to get a lot more pickier when they get online compared to what they would ordinarily do offline.

    They tend to list their pefect ideal mate and not leave any wiggle room for potential mates whom might come close to what they want. Hence when they don't get any replies they wonder why or say online dating is a joke.
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 24, 2005 at 12:31 PM

    I agree with you to a point. It would be an ideal world if every person was completely openminded and accepting but at the same time if everyone liked everything then there would not be any originality. We are individuals with individual likes and dislikes and though it seems kind of shallow to list them right out there in your profile but at the same time you are being honest about what appeals to you and what doesn't. Saves people some time in deciding whether you want to get to know more about them or not. I personally find it very enlightening of one's personality by their preferences. Just something to chew on.; Kristi
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