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Posted on Sat, Aug 20, 2005 20:21

I like bbw's, but i have noticed that bbw's have a bigger following than bhm's Are women of size attracted to bhm's ? cause it seems to me that bbw's that i know would rather be with a thinner guy that is a jerk . rather than with a bigger guy that is nice to them why is that?

  


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Posted on Tue, Aug 30, 2005 01:39


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Well it goes on preferance doesnt it, i do like skinny men but then i dont mind a man with a little bit fat on him but no i dont want a man thats bigger than me.

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Posted on Sun, Aug 28, 2005 15:16

Hey Shinobi,your right on that underwear thing my friend,lol,more room please.Yes BBW's have presure on them to look a certain way as do the men,we men look at each other and as a natural instinct and size each other up.I don't know what goes on in a womans mind since i'm not a woman,with men it's an age old thing ,a man thing if you want to call it.But with all the hard bodys around I've noticed a lot of BBW's get excited about them,now tell me if you think a BBW would pick a Mel Gibson over lets say a Ralphy Mao type.
I love our BBW's always. Eddie B.



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Posted on Sat, Aug 27, 2005 06:24

Your post nearly broke my heart!

I try not to show a preference based on a guy's shape, because I hate hearing "sorry, your body isn't my type". But I have to admit, I do respond more strongly (in a good way!) to a bhm. I love big power hugs and snuggling - not bony elbows :)



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Posted on Sat, Aug 27, 2005 06:20

oh yeah... he has to at least have his teeth..... or most of them... well, I am in the deep south you know!

  


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Posted on Sat, Aug 27, 2005 06:18


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I'm pretty sure if I jumped out of a hummer, wearing an armani suit, and other high price items and walked up to a few females whom saw me pull up I'd get way more numbers than if I jumped out of a honda civic wearing nice, but average clothes.




Well, bbanditx79.... I can't speak for the other women.... but I CAN tell you that you wouldn't get away with my number. I look for a lot more than what is on the outside, I look for what's on the inside. Doesn't matter to me if he is short, tall, fat, skinny, rich, poor.... I look for a sense of humor and someone with heart. The looks thing you can change, alter, fake, whatever.... but having heart.... you can't fake that. But I can honestly say that I would not and have not dismissed a guy just because he was a BHM. But I live in a smaller area than you do.... maybe we just love our men as men here and not really caring about size.



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Posted on Sat, Aug 27, 2005 00:21

Perhaps because I work in the customer service industry, for the non, and have all of my life, thus far, I've had way too much contact with those that have. Money, power, egos. Doctors, lawyers, etc. No, thank you. There are several layers of intelligence that a person can have. Book smarts, social smarts, street smarts, etc. Just because a man can memorize books and past tests does not an intelligent, or attractive, man make. I'm divorced. I wasn't married to a rich man. Nor was he a small man. I think I'm going to have to dismiss myself from this topic any further, because I do not fit within the stereotype you speak of, so cannot address it. I simply know I see just as many big men with tiny women. And, perhaps, they are with them because the tiny women like their pocketbooks. Who knows? I think people, in specific, are too complex to fit into a boxed definition. Sure, there are masses that fit a set parameter of behavior. But I think it's too easy to fit all of us into that parameter. It's the crux of that fact that at the same time we are all the same.. we are all individuals. Take us, each one, as we are. If you meet a woman, and view her with the skepticism of those that came before.. that attempt, too, shall fail. Don't make that mistake, gentlemen.



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Posted on Fri, Aug 26, 2005 09:49

oh yeah!!! just a note to the underwere makers of america,some bhm would like a little more room to hold stuff in the basket, it's like they think we don't have anything.

  


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Posted on Fri, Aug 26, 2005 07:27

Hello Theo,as for myself I have no problems nor have I ever had any complaint in the 40yrs i've been active.now if you've lived when I was growing up,yuo'll have heard all the jokes and you to would have been put in that catagory.but then you better be honest with yourself as listen more,i'm not attacking you or putting down,i'm just being honest.yuo've got a good head on your shoulders,just remember to keep it real my friend,all you have to do is ask them if they have been judged or joked about,and you'll see reality as it is.I'm not putting anyone down just speaking reality.love ya all , Eddie B.



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Posted on Thu, Aug 25, 2005 13:27


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BigdaddyM write:
Us big guys are generally over looked. Unless we have money, power, or fame.




In all seriousness, BigDaddyM.... I can only speak for myself... but I don't look for money, power or fame when I am looking for a man.... I do want them to be gainfully employed! But I look at a man's personality first and foremost. I look for a sense of humor... someone who can make me laugh.... I look for someone with a good heart... I look for someone with compassion for others.... I look for someone who can gaze into my eyes and make me weak in the knees. It doesn't matter to me if he is a BHM or a skinny minny (well, I don't care for skinny minnies ... I want some flesh to be there!), it doesn't matter to me if he is the most handsome man in the world... it only matters if he is handsome to me... you know what I mean? So just like you men fuss at us women for lumping you in a "box", please don't lump us in one either (besides.. you won't be able to fit too many of us bbw's in one box!)



Kewannap, I have to somewhat agree with BigDaddyM. Money, power, and fame won't necessarily get a guy, be he bhm, small, average, or etc. a DECENT girl, but it can sure get him interest from women whom may have paid him no attention if he didn't have those qualities.

Also having money, power, and/or fame will cause a lot of average women to not write you off as quickly as if you were just some Joe Smoe working a 9-5'er and driving a regular car.

These are pretty obvious cases that are in the news all the time in the USA. Some politician gettting caught with some young female who is young enough to be his daughter ... and she sure as hell isn't with him becuase they have alot in common. Or woman always going after doctors, lawyers, and such ... people whom usually have money, power, and/or fame. So let's not say money, power, and fame don't have some bearing on how a person can be viewed.

I'm pretty sure if I jumped out of a hummer, wearing an armani suit, and other high price items and walked up to a few females whom saw me pull up I'd get way more numbers than if I jumped out of a honda civic wearing nice, but average clothes.

Now that I think about it I saw a tv show on either TLC or Discovery once where they did something similar with an male, non-bhm actor. They had him dress down and drive a bad car then gave him a porshe and nice clothes. He acted the same way both times with a group of women, but got way more numbers when he had the porshe and high priced clothes.



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Posted on Thu, Aug 25, 2005 11:32

Hey Shinobi,thanks for this great subject,it's good. Eddie B.



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Posted on Thu, Aug 25, 2005 11:30

Hello theo,I to ask those very same questions over the years and it does very,but for the most part I have asked a great deal of BBW's out for dates and have been turned down the very minute they see me,why?you can the look on their faces when they see you,and for get about it if they have friends with them especialy skinny ones,you can hte hear the jokes about the 2 of you getting together,I believe a great deal of turn downs come from the fear of redacule.

Also it's like looking at themselves and we already have issues about our looks and how we're ecepted in socity.
I have to admit to that we BHM's have a stygma attached to us ,the myth about us haveing small units,the BBW's don't have that problems,which would be a great chat between us BHM'skeep a stiff upper lip Theo, Eddie B.



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Posted on Thu, Aug 25, 2005 10:33

If a guy is a jerk, i dont care if they looked like colin ferral, i wont stick with him. I'd much rather a John Candy type, size and personality, the whole shibang. But what im saying is that looks alone, Ferral is going to win over Candy. This is why i dont use the internet so often, because at such a distance and on such impersonal interactions, im going to judge on other things. That said, ive had several winks from thinner men that i havent replied to - one because im not a paid member and cant- because of either age, location, or general 'not for me' vibes.



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Posted on Thu, Aug 25, 2005 05:31

I would prefer a BHM over a thin man however I am not ready to exclude any size of person at this point.
I never liked being judged by my size, why would I do that to anyone else ?
I only know one thing about my special guy and that is the fact that he is strongly drawn towards BBW. Not that he is willing to settle for a BBW because he has some personality flaw which keeps him from being with a thinner woman. I am looking for the man who has a genuine attraction to BBW. I don't know what he looks like just yet.



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Posted on Wed, Aug 24, 2005 13:42

Im new here and read these posts with interest. I think it is just a case of opposites attracting. Some BBW's go for slim men but it is also the case that slim men go for BBW (and not their slimmer counterpart) its got little to do with the fact that big women don't like big men but that they are attracted to something they haven't got - the same as quiet girls/guys are attracted to loud bubbly people a lot of the time. This is my take on the subject anyway. PS if the person was right and his personality was something that attracted me then I wouldn't hesitate to go out on a date no matter what size.



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Posted on Wed, Aug 24, 2005 08:50


BigdaddyM write:
Us big guys are generally over looked. Unless we have money, power, or fame.




In all seriousness, BigDaddyM.... I can only speak for myself... but I don't look for money, power or fame when I am looking for a man.... I do want them to be gainfully employed! But I look at a man's personality first and foremost. I look for a sense of humor... someone who can make me laugh.... I look for someone with a good heart... I look for someone with compassion for others.... I look for someone who can gaze into my eyes and make me weak in the knees. It doesn't matter to me if he is a BHM or a skinny minny (well, I don't care for skinny minnies ... I want some flesh to be there!), it doesn't matter to me if he is the most handsome man in the world... it only matters if he is handsome to me... you know what I mean? So just like you men fuss at us women for lumping you in a "box", please don't lump us in one either (besides.. you won't be able to fit too many of us bbw's in one box!)

  


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Posted on Wed, Aug 24, 2005 08:40

Okay guys.... I'll go on the record ... out in public... just for you....


I LIKE BIG MEN AND I JUST WON'T LIE....

  


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Posted on Wed, Aug 24, 2005 06:50

Well I do have to say when I wrote that out I was in a self hating mood and had to get it out some how. But I do stand by what I said, big women have it alot easier than guys. Not a whole lot but yes they do have it better. Us big guys are generally over looked. Unless we have money, power, or fame. Thats why I like this site because its full of people like me and I know that I just need to be myself. And I wish I didnt have to compete with the BBW admirers on the site because it is really just like everywhere else.



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Posted on Tue, Aug 23, 2005 18:39


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I was reading the post in this forum and I have come to a revelation that is disgusting to me. Us BIG guys are the "bad" aspeck of society. You can look around and see it everywhere. Bigger women or BBWs that dont get this think about it. When you go out how many times do you see a big girls with some little guy and then look over and see the big guy by himself. Us guys have had to face the ugly truth for years that no matter how much everyone says its all about personality it is more about looks no matter what anyone says. We just get the shaft everytime. We are the ones who have to keep proving ourselves over and over again because we are bigger or face the ridicule that comes with it. We have no following of women that say they want a big, we have no chance over the cookie cutter image of what guys are suppost to be. And if you think that it is not ture for guys you are dead wrong. Guys are suppost to fit that mold of the Muscular, Tall, Tan, Geled hair, frat do ahole type or we are passed over everytime. The fact is that big guys are forced to accept the role of the "friend" or the clown because that is all we have. It really makes me sick to have this revelation but it is there no matter what, because in a nut shell we big guys dont have a chance with any girl but girls no matter what size can find someone. Its not fair but its the way it is.


BigdaddyM, I cold heartedly agree with everything you have said. I have stated this before.

I know that bbw's on this site seem to think they have it bad, but truth be honest bhm's have it far worst than anyone else out there. I'm not saying that bbw's don't have it hard, just not as much as we bhms. Sure there are plenty of guys whom will go for the smaller sized Anna Nicole Smith rather than the bbw sized Anna Nicole Smith, but for the most part bbw's tend to do all right. My younger sister is not all that much smaller than me and she has skinny to athletic to big guys hitting on her all the time. She can get a man anytime she wants one.

I mean there is this whole following of guys whom are totally into bbw's. Sure some of them are a bit weird, but most of them just guys whom like bigger girls, and don't have any feeding, extreme bbw size, or etc. fetishes.

We bhm's don't have that kind of following of women and we have to fight tooth and nail for any girl we get. It's even worst when you are in your 20's like you and I since 20-something year old females (be they bbw, average, or petite sized) are just as hipocritical as their male counterparts when it comes to size.

Lastly, I will say that people have the right to be as selective as they want in whom they date. I'm simply pointing out what goes on in reality.

Just my 2 cents,



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Posted on Tue, Aug 23, 2005 17:42

Amen to opheliasend.
Bigdaddy...you are only 20 years old. You must have had some terrible experiences in your short dating history to make you so bitter & cynical.
If you think it's easy for big girls to find Mr Right, then you are WRONG!
Maybe on this website we have a chance, but in the real world, it's like finding a needle in a haystack!
Kind, romantic, loving, positive, confident, sexy, intelligent, witty......do any of these essential qualities have anything to do with body size? NO!
From your post, it would seem that maybe it's your defeatist & negative attitude that's the key, and nothing to do with your physical appearance.
There are people of both genders who only look at the superficial, but I think you'll find that they are in the minority.



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