I'd relocate eventually for someone who loved me. Where I live is beautiful and peaceful mostly, but it's far too quiet for me as I love city life. So if I was in a relationship with someone who lived elsewhere I'd go to her, rather than her come to me, as long as she doesn't live in a boring countryside area too lol!
I lived in various parts England, and Germany, due to previous service in the Royal Air Force, and to be honest would not dismiss moving for the right person when the time is right, even another country.
Oh..I dont know, to be honest!!
I live in the Uk..so anywhere is not that far from home, but I would still worry about my kids, even though they are grown up, I would so miss my family and friends, and work.
I guess he would have to be really special for me to even think about it.
I did relocate for the right man..all of his friends knew about me before I even got here.. I even talked to a few of them before moving here.
He was completely honest with me in all areas..and still is...and he loves taking me out and letting the world know he loves and accepts me exactly as I am.Thats an awesome feeling..knowing the one you love adores and respects you comepletely.
I trusted my instincts from day one and that paid off.
Bottom line is if you listen to your gut instincts they never steer you wrong..however, your heart will often take the detour for love :)
I have given up a lot for a guy and it was wonderful for nine months then it ended. I told myself that I would not allow myself to be the one to sacrafice everything again. If I know myself at all I know that I probably would if the time in my life were right and it was truley for someone I felt I'd be with forever...though that is what I thought about this guy.
I wont move for someone unless they have more stability than I do. I own my home outright, I have a stable job and am close to family here. My match would have to have at least what I have if not better, then and only then, would I consider it. Having a special needs daughter who has a regular doctor and counselor and such would be hard to uproot all she knows and risk disrupting her stability to move.... is a big risk that I just am not willing to take right now!
several variables as to if i would.
1. where he lives.
2. viability of the logistics.
3. whose work pays more.
4. school schedules of the children.
5. seriousness of relationship
6. quality of air/water/land, rural or city
7. quality of schools and universities in the area.
8. cost of living(housing/food/utilities) as opposed to income potential.
those are just off the top of my head. it's realy difficult when you have kids. their care is solely in my hands. so..all that i do effects them. worse case scenario, i wait to be romanticly involved till they are out of the house and adults in their own rights.
wow..how amazingly depressin it is reading over that..but :D makes me proud that i'd look at all this instead of pullin a flake out like i did once or twice in my younger/stupider days.
It may be selfish of me, but no I don't think I could relocate. I have a great career that I have worked really hard at creating. I would find changing every part of my life at once would be too drastic for me. If it meant just moving to another town, yes I could do that. I know this makes finding my soul mate more limiting, but you have to be true to who you are in the process. I can be flexable in other areas.
It's a hard answer for me. The simple answer is I would for the right person.
What becomes complicated is that I feel to know if they are the right person takes time, as well as meeting for visits several times in person, etc. The problem arises in that I cannot afford to travel, and I consider it supremely unfair to put all the responsibility for travel on one person in the relationship.
I would like to say I would for "the one", but honestly the best I can come up with is maybe, depends on where it would be and possibly for how long. Kind of like asking would you do anything for the one you love... maybe, depends what it is.
I just know that if I wasn't happy with the area I was living in eventually I would leave. I like seasons, water and mountains (at least within driving distance) so I know I wouldn't last too long in say AZ, been there many times, many nice areas, but I wouldn't live there for an extended time.
mrbiggles write: Sadly, I am unable to relocate. Or perhaps it is unwilling...
With me recent divorce, I have decided to focus on renewing my relationship with my daughter and helping her to raise her kids.
MrB - I admire and applaude your decision to stay where you are and continue to be a part of your daughter's life! I know there is a sweet lady out there for you! God bless you!
It limits my choices, I'm sure. But I gave up a lot for the opportunity and I don't want to waste it.
I'd like to know if others are willing to relocate "for the right person". The answer for me is YES, but only after knowing the person for a while, getting the "approval" of several friends and family members, etc.; and of course, knowing it's part of God's plan for "us" to be together.
I am willing to relocate for the right man.... and I have before. It's not easy, but it can be done.... just be absolutely sure of what you are getting yourself into first. Go check it out... spend some time there.... get to know their friends, family, co-workers. If they hide you from them, that's a red flag.