Omega_10 write:
I Absolutely REFUSE to turn my back on my children for anyone!!!!.Also just the other day I was out with my kids enjoying a day at the playground and a few ladies walked by and noticed me spending quality time with my kids and they all nodded aprovingly/smiled/complimented me on "Being such a good father".To this I nodded and thanked them for their kind words.(I don't feel as Im doing anything special.)Im just doing as i was taught/raised to take care of your own.(Thanks Grandma/Mom).
Omega, I give you big props for your statement that you are not doing anything special, that you are only doing what you were taught by your Grandma and Mom. It is pretty sad that we live in a society where a responsibile father is NOT the norm. It is as if we have lowered our standards and expectations of men.
Anyway, my main reason for posting is because of your comment about women who are not willing to be in a relationship with a man who has children. I happen to love children and have one of my own. I am one who sees children as people who should be treated with respect. I don't conform to the "children should be seen, and not heard" theory that is so prevalent in society. I have the capacity to love children, even if they are not mine and for the most part, don't see a problem with dating a man with kids. BUT the reason that I am less inclined to date a man with children, especially young children, because I don't want to deal with "baby mama drama". Pure and simple. I don't want to have plans spoiled by an "emergency phone call" from the mother that she needs a sitter NOW because something came up in her life and no one else in the family can watch the kids. I don't want to be disrespected by a child because they were told by their mother that they don't have to listen to me, or because the child has heard unflattering remarks about me, and there are plenty of other "games" that are played. And while I am sure that ALL women don't interrupt their ex's relationships, I have seen too many who have and I have made the decision automatically to keep away.
Perhaps your daughters' mom is not one who wants to cause conflict between you and your future dates, (and count yourself fortunate if she is not). But unfortunately, the bad ones make it tough for the good ones. The only way that I would date a man with children is if the mother was incarcerated for a long time, or was no longer in the children's lives.
Maybe that is one reason that some women don't want to date you now. Or maybe they just don't like kids. For the ones that don't like kids, count your blessings that they are gone from your life. That woman would only make you and your kids miserable.
I wish you luck in your search, but in the meantime, remember that your girls won't be little for long. That time flies by and they need you more than you think you need a woman now.
God bless.
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