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  • View author's info Author Posted on Jul 30, 2005 at 09:23 AM

    Hi everyone, Its been a long time since I have posted on here, but recently I have read about these scams attacking those of us on dating sites and chat rooms that I wanted to warn all my friends on here.

    Be careful of any man or woman that trys to contact you and tells you that they are currently working or are in Nigeria. They may tell you they are local and have business over there. Mostly they tell you they are widowed or some such thing. Anything to tug at your heartstrings. But dont let them fool you, they are on this site as well, I was contacted by one just yesterday from here.

    They will ask you to help them with money order cashing or to help you with shipping packages for them to Nigeria, but they wont start off there. If they contact you and start telling you that you are the only one for them, or start calling you baby off the bat and they have a bad command of the english language beware. Also, they tend to post pictures of models so if the picture doesnt look legit be careful.

    I tell you this from experience because i was scammed. Luckily not with money orders but with package shipping. There is a news article on the internet, but unfortunately cant say where cause this site wont let me, that I saved and I have a site where you can go to get more info. If you are interested then smiley me at my id and I will give more info.

    Please dear friend be careful. Both men and women are targets. But most especially those of us looking for romance. And they are damned good at what they do.
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  • View author's info Posted on Aug 04, 2005 at 11:08 PM

    Hmmm ... happened to me last week, too.
    I had posted this info on the thread entitled "Misrepresentation":

    I had a guy email me 4 photos he claimed were of him. Each one was of a different male model. It didn't take a Philadelphia lawyer to figure it out, either. They had different eye colors, different hairlines, and different (and in one case, NONE) facial freckles/moles.

    Now ... his profile said "Post-graduate degree", and that he works part-time. His email also said he was "volunteering in Africa", but when I asked him on messenger what time it was in Africa, he said it was 2 hours ahead of what time it was here in Texas. LOL!!!

    Oh, yeah. He also said he was divorced, "but that now he is a widower". I wonder which it is?

    We chatted for maybe 5 minutes on the messenger with the big yellow smiley face. All he did was cut & paste about what love meant to him, etc. He got mad when I questioned him about the discrepancies. It was a joke, and he was a jerk.

    He did and said everything all of you have described. I NEVER thought of it as possibly being a scam. I just knew a jerk when I saw one, and thankfully, never let it progress beyond that initial convo!
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 02, 2005 at 04:10 PM

    I was contacted too, but he sounded phoney to me. He was a GREAT looking guy according to his picture. said he had a home in missouri and was originally from there, but was working in an African orphanage. He had been there three years and was lonely, homesick etc. But for a man born in the usa he had a strange way of forming sentences. lol. So right off I knew something was up. I asked him where in Africa was the orphanage and he named a place and I asked what was the name and he told me. He had already told me that it was a large orphanage. I asked what his job was and he said he was the president of something I can't remember now. I thought "if he's the president, with that spelling and grammer, then they don't have very high standards for that job." I told him that I had to go but would be back on later and would email him. he said ok "baby". I then went on the internet and looked up the town and orphanages in and around that town. printed the lists which also gave the officers (presidents etc)names. some even had pictures. then I got a list of all of africa's orphanges. Surprise, Surprise No orphanage with the name he gave me, not even one close to the name that he gave me.

    when I emailed him I told him that I knew that he wasn't the person that he claimed to be and a few other things. lol then I blocked him. He was trying to scam someone with the orphanage story, but luckily I saw it for what it was.

    I know a few people who have been scammed, including one of my brothers. I guess I am just not that trusting of people.

    my advise is don't believe everything you see and hear. before doing anything that costs YOU money check it out.
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 02, 2005 at 11:40 AM

    Thanks, Toots, for posting this warning. So often victims of a con are too ashamed to tell anyone what happened, so the con continues. I like the fact that you got mad enough to try to keep this from happening to another person.
    I'm sorry to learn that you were used that way. It is unfortunate that there are no depths to which these people wont sink in order to take advantage of caring, helpful people.
    Thanks again for having the guts to expose these people.
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 02, 2005 at 06:46 AM

    I was approached by such a scam on yaheck.. Seem the guy was stuck in africa and needed me to send him money but NOT my money it was money he was owed.Funny thing like you said he had a model photo but he was good he had the model in several diffrent outfits and even gave me a number to contact him when I called him fake.I would like to read that article..You know what I find funny is if there is a fake person looking for fake love out there somehow he is sure to find me I must be a magnet LOL...
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 02, 2005 at 05:51 AM

    Mama always said if it sounds to good to be true.. it probably is
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 01, 2005 at 05:13 PM

    Thanks Toots, I hope and pray that he didn't scam too much out of you. I've been contacted by one or two of these con artists myself, and you are so right, they are pretty good at what they do. Fortunately for me, they got none of my hard earned $$$. The ones that contacted me were so eager to get the cash they pushed too hard which is always a red flag to me regardless of the "sales" situation. One word, they are not only doing this in Nigeria, but Asian countries as well.
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