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Posted on Sun, Jul 17, 2005 10:37

I know this has been covered before but I'm so darn mad I could spit. I'm tired of being treated so disrespecfuly online. What is with some of the guys on here ? (please note I said some not all and this isn't directed at all you great guys out there that know that this isn't an online s_x site.) There's not a darn thing in my profile that would even remotely suggest that I'm looking for a s_xy chat or a little real world "fun" but still I get guys messaging me or emailing me for these things. Everyone always asks why no pic, that's why I don't post a pic on here. I don't want some h@rny jerk oogling over my pic. What makes me so mad is that I don't think they would walk up to a woman in the real world and say such rude, disrespecful things. Why do they feel it's perfectly acceptable to treat us online gals with such disrespect ? I swear sometimes I get so angry I wish I could slap their face, they deserve it. And before I get accused of being a "cold fish" let me say I'm all for making love, at the right time, with the right person, but I'm not in the s_x business and want to suggest to all you h@rny guys out there to stop being so cheap, for a couple of bucks per minute you can find a lady that will chat with you about whatever floats your boat or join an online s_x site. I usually blow these kind of messages or emails off and just don't answer them but it's to the point I'm just getting plain tired and angry about them and being treated so disrespectfully online when guys would never say these things to a gal in the real world, but yet think it's ok to say them to a woman online. I know my venting isn't going to change a thing, but sure is making me feel better to say, hey youse are jerks and sure aren't impressing us ladies and just maybe it'll get us gals to thinking about putting these rude people in there place instead of just tolerating there rudness. Thanks for letting me vent.



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Posted on Thu, Aug 04, 2005 13:56


TallRapunzel write:
..... I never give them chance to offend me twice and I would never want to go out with someone that thought that was the proper way to approach a lady.


Ding, Ding, Ding !.. we have a winner!

That is a beautiful answer, you go girl.

  


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Posted on Wed, Aug 03, 2005 21:16

Largewaist, you are so right about the not disappearing part. BUT, while I'm sure there are ladies who do that, it was done to me, personally by a major jerk who acted like his entire life was meant to spend with me.

For months we called each other back and forth and he told me how much he loved and wanted me until one day, POOF! He just vanished. Fortunately, I met a few nice ladies on here who were kind enough to help me get over my temporary misery. So, it wasn't all bad. The lady friends were worth the problem man.

But, there are just as many problem men as women out there. And from what I went through, one would think he would at least had the decency to wish me a good life or something. I wrote to him a few times and asked him why, but he never answered. All I can say is the guy was a thoughtless jerk, and I'm glad I found this out before meeting him! Now I laugh at my experience, and have tried to learn something from it. And when I look back on it and his pic, I'm thinking that he wasn't good enough for me, anyway. Oh well. Too bad for him. No amount of apology at this point would even make me talk to him.

Still, even after that, I am still a lady and will always write a nice thank you for a wink and wish someone a good life and good luck in finding the person of their dreams when they are definitely NOT my type and would have known it if they only READ my profile! sheesh!

Personally, I think that everyone should show some type of courtesy when ending something. It never kills one to simply wish the other person a good life and move on. LF should have a "No thanks" or some type of wink for the non-members to respond to so the other person doesn't think they are being ignored. At least they now have the ignore option on profiles! I'll bet quite a few ladies are glad for that one!



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Posted on Wed, Aug 03, 2005 16:36

This makes me say hummmm..... let me ask you this:

Lets suppose I was that guy, and I asked you for xratd pictures of you.. well that of course unveails my real self righ off the bat, a jerk... But!.. if I send you an apology email... would you change your mind about the jerk inside? and still mingle with me (him)?....


No, I wouldn't and he did email me back and apologize. I told him he was still a jerk.



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Posted on Wed, Aug 03, 2005 00:51

A previous post mentioned about having thick skin......a definite prerequisite for online dating I'd say. Here's my beef.....
We all reserve the right to decide who we want to chat with but ladies(and you know who you are), if you show interest and engage in chatting with a decent guy please have the courtesy to let him know if you lose interest, or become exclusive with someone, or decide to go live in the Amazon rainforest for a year,instead of just "disappearing" into cyber oblivion never to be heard from again. Its not hard to show a little class, integrity, and interpersonal responsibility.

  


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Posted on Tue, Aug 02, 2005 18:38

Interesting thread.......I usually keep an open mind with everyone I chat with, and make it clear up front what my intentions are.

Scoot, I've had your situation happen to me recently.....a horn@y toad turn into a bit of a prince, after a lively exchange of emails and thoughts (have not kissed the prince....). Yes, it can happen.

But you know, it really depends on what you realistically expect from this medium...it's a free for all, which is the beauty and the curse of the net. I've been in spicy and mild conversations, and enjoyed both.

If you are really turned off...take the advice and block folks, but don't get discouraged, there are some dimonds in the rough out there!

I always go into my day believing that everyone has a good soul, until proven otherwise, and I'm usually right...sometimes you have to dig through an insecurity to reveal a great person underneath.



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Posted on Tue, Aug 02, 2005 11:25


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I had that happen to me just today! A guy sent me an email wanting pictures of my errrrrr, upper body parts. I emailed him back and told him if that was all he wanted to see, he was a jerk.


This makes me say hummmm..... let me ask you this:

Lets suppose I was that guy, and I asked you for xratd pictures of you.. well that of course unveails my real self righ off the bat, a jerk... But!.. if I send you an apology email... would you change your mind about the jerk inside? and still mingle with me (him)?....

  


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Posted on Mon, Aug 01, 2005 15:35

I had that happen to me just today! A guy sent me an email wanting pictures of my errrrrr, upper body parts. I emailed him back and told him if that was all he wanted to see, he was a jerk.



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Posted on Sat, Jul 23, 2005 09:45

Sweetie, they do it here because they can get away with it. Quite often you will find they are "pretend" people. A persona worn as an internet "mask" to make others believe they are something other than their real selves. It's really sad if you think about it.

Cat



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Posted on Sat, Jul 23, 2005 06:47

Hi everyone! Some good points here, and some men really are dumb! Not all men are the same, as i'm sure you all realise, but then again, there are some ladies who behave in this manner. Again, not all. It does go both ways. You don't have to be of a certain gender to be a jerk. There are good and bad ladies and men.

Bye for now



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Posted on Sat, Jul 23, 2005 05:14

I'm sick and tired of guys on here playing head games. If you don't want to meet with someone then don't say you will. I came here looking for a nice guy and have only found jerks.

  
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Posted on Fri, Jul 22, 2005 15:31

Peaceful I agree that everyone is looking for something different on the net, but you can pretty much tell what a person is seeking by what's in there profile. I state clearly in my profile that I'm not lookng for "a little fun and games" either cyber or real in my profile. I don't know how to say it more clearly or politely then that. lol My point is that people should be treated just as respectfully on here as they are in the real world.



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Posted on Fri, Jul 22, 2005 11:45

as i see it ppl dont like the truth and hide behind the net or anything else they cancause without a face they figure the other ppl arent real or afraid of what ther looking for them selves the truth dose hurt and ppldont want others to know if ya ask and dont get an answer for there behavior there hiding somthing so ask befor critosizing then be offended if they dont answer but only ask if your interested
just my thought s
as always jeanot



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Posted on Mon, Jul 18, 2005 10:39

Not making excuses for the real azzholez or j*rks cause I know theres many of them out there from experience, but, there is a whole world of different ppl on the net from many backgrounds situations and life experiences. We all cant agree on everythingy and thats part of what makes us all unique and special ~smiles~ But, its alot like going to a BIG HUGE party and you dont know anyone there. So you go sit in a corner and watch or you get up and socialize. And if you see someone you wanna know you go up and approach them. Personally I would rather a guy be up front with me about "Hi I think your cute. I'm h@rny and looking for some cyber s#x"....than to have some guy PM me pretend to be interested in me and play me for a while until he gets bored. Wasting my time and his. At least I can tell the one who was up front with what he wanted that I'm not interested and he'll go look somewhere else lol...the other kind of guy is more dangerous. Those are the ones who lead you on and hurt you. I can deal with the ones I have to block or put on ignore. They go away looking for their fun else where. Guess my main point is this: You never know about someone if they want the same thing you do until you ask. So if they just "ask" if your interested in that and you tell them "no"...no big deal. unless the continue after you..then there's the blocks and ignores. Most ppl dont put in their profiles they cyber even if they do, its like you dont wear your sexuality or your beliefs on your forehead. So one asks. Judging these guys i cant really..I ran into a man whose wife had become physically and mentally incompasitated in a rest home. He was a young man yet. S#xually frustrated and he didnt want to desert his wife. But he wanted someone to cyber with him...no real relationship. I found out because I asked him why he just didnt find someone off the net. We never cybered but to this day we are good friends. I would never put him down for trying to meet some kind of emotional and physical need.~Smiles~



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Posted on Mon, Jul 18, 2005 08:39

I'm appalled and disgusted too! I have read this last x-rated note 15 times and am still just horrified...



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Posted on Mon, Jul 18, 2005 05:11

OK, as I said in another posting you ladies are not the only ones who get offended by someone online, if it bothers you that much do what I do, block the user. when online sometimes you have to have thick skin, please do not deny the rest of us that are good people the chance to get to know you pic and all.



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Posted on Mon, Jul 18, 2005 05:00

I know just how you feel! It's really quite disgusting! Those guys think that, "Hey, it's not like we'll ever see each other on the street or anything so I can say whatever I want and not have to worry about the consequences." It happens to me alot because I work the night shift and when I'm on my break, I usually read the posts and there is always some pervert wondering if I'd 'be interested in a little late night cyber s*x experience. Someone spare me please! And by the way... you're right! It does feel good to vent about it!

  


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