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What was your best/worst dating experience?
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Posted on Thu, Jul 07, 2005 16:30

I just got stood up! I finally decided to go out on a date with this guy I met via the internet and I got stood up. This is the first time I've ever been stood up. It was very embarrassing! But not more so than that one time I was nervously fidgeting and accidently shot that spoonful of vanilla ice cream across the table and right between my dates eyeballs. >.< D'oh

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Posted on Sun, Jun 11, 2006 10:31

So, it has been a while since I posted in the forums. More than a few months actually. I returned about a week ago and this hottie messages me out of the blue. So, I'm finding myself involved in a long distance relationship. Something I never saw myself doing again, but I have a gut feeling that this one is worth it. (Regardless of him being a hottie!)

So, where have I been the last few months? Well, this site really wasn't working for me. So, I started dating locally. The horror stories I could produce in morbid detail! lol

On one date with a partcular gentleman, we made the mutual decision to go to a crab house. Needless to say while we feasted on the sweet, succulent meat, I happened to crack a shell and a small piece of it turned into a nearly blinding projectile. It was quite embarrassing. I'm not sure what it is with me and accidently turning food into projectiles. It's completely unintentional.

Another date, with a different individual turned out quite the eye opening adventure. His wife showed up. END STORY.

Of course there have been a few other dates, but not one so memorable as the fellow who picked the scabs off ofhis arms and ate them while we were having dinner. I had to excuse myself several times. When he noticed I wasn't eating, he inquired about my appetite and I explained that I had lost it earlier on in the evening. I excused myself a shortwhile later due to illness.

All in all I've been on quite the adventure. I hope that everything with this new fellow pans out. He seems very sincere, a girl can really appreciate that. I'll keep the forums posted on my progress.

Wishing all of you the best in all your endeavors.

~Aijin~



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Posted on Mon, Oct 03, 2005 11:32

*chuckle* gotta love those hasids. :) there's a standing joke that if men decided to colonize Mars, they'd go up and find a Chabad Lubavitch there already. :)

Great people. :)

Rei



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Posted on Sat, Oct 01, 2005 14:02

Freysh:

Heh! And I was worried you may or may not know what gefilte is. I love gefilte. Yum...



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Posted on Thu, Sep 29, 2005 12:19

Don't worry Freysh. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.... to be somewhat cliched... :) but on the bright side - we could always just make gefilte out of this guy. :)

You are a lovely lady, Freysh. What's not to like? You're intelligent, warm, and beautiful too. Don't let some man with baggage get to you because you don't have to hold on to his carry-on for him. Leave him at the terminal and go on your own vacation. :)

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Posted on Mon, Sep 26, 2005 04:57


DrunkMonkey write:

I don't so much think of it as being flattering, I ask so we can meet somewhere that both of us will enjoy. I'd hate to make the decision to meet at a great Chinese restaurant and have her hate Chinese food but for whatever reason never bothered to tell me that. It's also because she may know of some place that I'd really enjoy but never been to. I want us to meet in a place where she will be comfortable.



I understand that, but there's just something warm and fuzzy about a man spending time trying to make an evening special. Never had it happen, but I think it would be so nice.



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Posted on Mon, Sep 26, 2005 00:10

I've got a few worst date stories, but since I think we can all use some encouragement!!! I'm opting to tell one of the best "date" stories I've been on.

A friend, N, invited me and two of my roommates up to his ranch with a bunch of other friends. N knew very much how I wanted to go fishing (because I had been saying it for a week) but we got there really late (thus I thought rats no fishing) so we all hung out, danced, ate summer sausage and easy cheese on crackers and joked around. Well we went off-roading around the ranch in a beat up jeep and got back around 2 in the morning where everyone else decided to hit the hay when N asks if anyone wants to go fishing. Everyone else is like "Dude, we're tired. We have to get up early tomorrow to head back into town" and N looks at me and smiles. I'm like "it's 3 am..." he's like "so what? you wanted to go fishing". Well so we went fishing at 3 in the morning on a moonlit pond out in the middle of nowhere. He caught a grasshopper and made me bait my own hook (Ew!) but didn't make a big deal when cowardly me couldn't poke a hole through the poor grasshopper's head. He did it for me. :) So there we were sitting there fishing, talking, and him pointing out various constellations. It was honestly the most romantic "date" I had ever been on . He's still one of my best friends and is dating a friend of mine with my blessing. I can honestly say though I've been blessed with a lot of great experiences along with the bad, but things like that make me really look forward to meeting that man around the corner because I'm always faithful that the man G-d intends for me will be even greater than the men that He has already put in my life to merely be my friends. If my male friends are so fabulous it stands to reason that he (where are you?) must be pretty darn special and I want to be a woman who can fully appreciate him. :)

What about you guys? What's the most fabulous dates you have been on?



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Posted on Fri, Sep 23, 2005 06:51

You know... I got to thinking about this topic. I absolutely couldn't not think of any date that really stood out in my mind... good or bad. Hence... this lead me to realize that my dating experiences have been very BORING!!!!

It led me to realize that I've never had anyone really go out of their way to plan something special for me. Normally, it's dinner and a movie. Nothing special. Most of the time they haven't even known where to eat or what movie to see.

Tell me... do guys think it's flattering to let the woman decide? I hate that... I just want them to select places they would like to take me and make me feel like I was worth the effort of preplanning. I hate making the decision.

By the way... I don't expect that everytime... or after we've dated awhile, but for a first date... definitely!

Ok... I'm done...

  


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Posted on Fri, Sep 23, 2005 06:45


musicnut46 write:
You know... I got to thinking about this topic. I absolutely couldn't not think of any date that really stood out in my mind... good or bad. Hence... this lead me to realize that my dating experiences have been very BORING!!!!

It led me to realize that I've never had anyone really go out of their way to plan something special for me. Normally, it's dinner and a movie. Nothing special. Most of the time they haven't even known where to eat or what movie to see.

Tell me... do guys think it's flattering to let the woman decide? I hate that... I just want them to select places they would like to take me and make me feel like I was worth the effort of preplanning. I hate making the decision.

Ok... I'm done...



I don't so much think of it as being flattering, I ask so we can meet somewhere that both of us will enjoy. I'd hate to make the decision to meet at a great Chinese restaurant and have her hate Chinese food but for whatever reason never bothered to tell me that. It's also because she may know of some place that I'd really enjoy but never been to. I want us to meet in a place where she will be comfortable.



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Posted on Mon, Aug 29, 2005 01:52

Rejection always hurts. But why settle for a person who disrespects you from the get go. Lose the loser. And network where the men hang out. Barbar shops, men hang outs. For me its 12 step meetings. Men who have same viewpoints on God or a spiritual relationship is a must for me. Selp heal and be ready for whenever it happens. I've had my share of being stood up and rejection. If it doesn't kill you it makes you a little wiser. Hopefully...Peace and Love. Deelilah90605.

  
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Posted on Fri, Aug 26, 2005 20:40

My worst experience was actually after a first date with someone i'd met off the net. We went out for lunch and had a great time and got pretty ok. I'd been let down in the past by the old "I'll give you a call" line so I'd asked this guy to tell me if I wasn't his type. We arranged to go out a few days later but hadn't heard anything from him by the morning of our 'second' date. I txt him to find out what was going on for him to reply that he didn't think I was attractive and that he'd made a mistake. Needless to say I don't ask people to tell me if they are not into me, i just get the hint :)



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Posted on Thu, Aug 25, 2005 19:34

I am so grateful for, and impressed by, everyone's openness and good humor in this forum. So here's my worst date story: I met him on this website (and he shall remain nameless!). He spent the entire date - the ENTIRE date, no kidding - talking about himself. Every time I tried to talk about myself, he interrupted me and kept on talking about his favorite subject (himself). He did not ask me a single question about myself, even when I managed to squeeze in the fact that I'd just had surgery - he didn't even ask me if I was okay! He spent a good deal of time talking about his ex-fiancee (what a turn-on for me!), and also informed me exhaustively about what a good lover he is. I didn't even bother to stop this line of conversation, because I already knew I'd NEVER want to find out about his bedroom skills. I made up an excuse to cut the date short, and when he walked me to the subway, he started rubbing my arm and touching my hair and getting that romantic look in his eye...at which point I decisively stuck my hand out for a handshake.

It gets worse. He didn't call for a few days, so I thought he'd gotten the message that I wasn't interested. But lo and behold, he did call one night - at 2am! When I attempted to let him down gently and tell him that I didn't think we should go out again, he grilled me endlessly about why I didn't like him. AAAAAGGGGGHHHHH!!!



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Posted on Tue, Aug 23, 2005 10:53

With all these dates makes me feel bad about the one I had. This was one of the nicest men I had ever went out with. But still ended in disaster. A friend had introduced me to him at her house a year before. I didn't feel any sparks for him so decided not to persue it. Well a year had passed and all he ever talked about was me to her. I thought I should at least give him a chance.

We decided to go out to eat and drive in movie. Mind you his father is a minister. He walks in and says "Mommy asked if she should call the cops if I dont' come home tonight, I told her not to worry just to call your house". I was mortified. So I go on with my date trying to put that comment out of my mind. The whole entire time we were out, I heard "mommy said I should do this or my aunt said I should do that". I realized then he was 30 some years old and it was not looking good if he couldn't think for himself. During the movie I tried to distance myself. I sat way over on my side of the truck. He lead over and held my hand. Put my arm around him. Hugged me. I just sat there. While trying to watch Planet of the Apes (his choice). We get back to my place and he is polite as can be. And I am still not feeling anything. Then he did the kicker "My dad said I should at least try to kiss you goodnight or you would be mad". I looked at him and very nicely said "I think a hug would be better" and ended the date.

Yes he was very polite and did all the nice things. But I wasn't going to go out with someone that could not think for themselves. Or at least at his age without his parents permission.



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Posted on Tue, Aug 23, 2005 08:12

Anyone also had non-dates?

I arranged to meet someone about a year ago, we'd been chatting a while and everything seemed okay. I booked a rail ticket to go and see her and she calls me the night before I'm due to travel to say "sorry I can't meet you, got some stuff to sort out" and offered no explanation whatsoever. The same person then tried to say that it was ME who had bailed out!!!!!!

Some very weird people about......

  


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Posted on Sun, Aug 07, 2005 20:01

Was asked out on a date Saturday night and was stood up, this time by a different individual. D'oh! Do you guys realize the effort some women go to in order to make these dates? Hiring babysitters, getting our hair and/or nails done, digging in the closet to find something nice to wear and when nothing comes up, going shopping to find the right outfit with the matching shoes to wear? Not that I don't do these things for myself often enough...but still, man what a waste of my time and energy. Not that I'm giving up. But goodness sakes. I'm not a viper. I won't bite...(hard anyways.)

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Posted on Sun, Jul 31, 2005 19:48

Best dates I been getting at BiggerBeauties just thought I'd share:)



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Posted on Sun, Jul 31, 2005 19:46

By far, my worst date was one that my mother fixed me up on. We met and went out to dinner and he was so rude to the waitress (a huge turnoff). Then after dinner we went to leave and he had parked on a hill and I am only 5'1" and found it difficult to get into his truck. Being the "gentleman" that he was he decided to help me by grabbing my rear and pushing me into the truck. He pushed so hard that I went flying into the seat and hit my head really hard off the driver's side door.

I thought he was very forward to grab my rear without my permission and then to shove me so hard ... really put a damper on the date.

I never did go out with him again. I think he viewed the rear grabbing as fore play. :)



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Posted on Sun, Jul 31, 2005 11:11

Is it sad to say ive never actually *had* a date? ever? Can i just sum up the entire two years with my (one and only) ex as downright horrid?
just one word to make it all make sense: Oedipus
*shudder*



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Posted on Sat, Jul 30, 2005 07:08

You name it, it's happened to me. I've been stood up, went to see a movie on a first date with a guy who got up 10 minutes before the end and left - never to come back (which wouldn't have been so bad but it was HIS choice of movie)! I've been on dates with guys I WISH had stood me up. I'm still looking for that one guy that I know is out there and that will be the date I've been waiting for.

  


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Posted on Wed, Jul 27, 2005 19:15

Reading this now makes me feel alot better, feel "stupid" but better. I have just been stood up. We had e-mailed and talked on the phone. We were to meet at 7:15pm he phoned my cell around 7:25 and asked "were are you" I told him were I was standing my the resturant entrance. as I did this a "car" drove by and I still swear it was him, he had sent me a picture. He said he was only a few min. away stuck at a light. well at 9:15 and two messages to his cell, one stating that if this was all a big joke hope he had a good laugh at making the "fat girl" stand there. I had already left by 7:45 after calling and getting only an answering machine on his cell. At least there was a Wendys close by, and I had my own money on me. so now I have had one see my photo and not get back to me until I gave him the "out" by stating to email me and just say we don't have much in common. which he did after over 4 mo of e-mails and some phone calls and him stating that size did not matter and he really did want to meet me. Makes you wonder if there really is a "gentleman" out there that means what he says and says what he means. OK done with the pitty party now, feel better. pulling up my boot straps and forging on into the world. LOL LOL LOL



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