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Okay...I just had a bad experience!
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Posted on Fri, Jul 01, 2005 09:22

If you can call it a "BAD" one.

I am IM'ing this guy I met on here. He seemed nice enough and lives and works close to me.

After messaging each other after a few days, we made a date to meet. I suggested a public place like Starbucks, but he wanted something "less public".

I asked why (I guess my "spidey" senses were kicking in) and he said..... "I don't want people from work to know I am out with someone from a dating service", they'll think I'm a loser". "I want to go out with cute girls but for now I'll SETTLE for a heavier girl".

THIS GUY IS 45!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Since then I let him know how hurtfull that was to hear that...he just dismissed what I said and asked ME what I am getting all "emotional" about.

After THAT, I told him what he can do with himsself and blocked all his IM's and emails.

I want to give up on this.

Any advice would be welcome! MY BULL HORNS ARE COMING OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  


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Posted on Sat, Sep 02, 2006 13:31

What an idiot!

and he he about beeing cut vs uncut, yes it's true its nor normal here undless ofcourse you are jewish or muslim. But it?s funny u mention it, cause I had a concersation with a friend about why American do that.. And after checking out, we found the answer.



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Posted on Tue, Aug 29, 2006 20:59

I laughed out loud at the sphincter muscle comment. LOL!!!!



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Posted on Sun, Aug 27, 2006 19:42

If the guy wants someone that looks better than you he has a long look ahead of him. there is some lovely ladies on this site, and I am glad to hear vthat you didn't settle for being the secert gf. He will pay, after all he has already lost out by losing someone as good looking as you. Hang in there.



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Posted on Sun, Aug 27, 2006 14:07

fifonfif write:
If you can call it a "BAD" one.

I am IM'ing this guy I met on here. He seemed nice enough and lives and works close to me.

After messaging each other after a few days, we made a date to meet. I suggested a public place like Starbucks, but he wanted something "less public".

I asked why (I guess my "spidey" senses were kicking in) and he said..... "I don't want people from work to know I am out with someone from a dating service", they'll think I'm a loser". "I want to go out with cute girls but for now I'll SETTLE for a heavier girl".

THIS GUY IS 45!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Since then I let him know how hurtfull that was to hear that...he just dismissed what I said and asked ME what I am getting all "emotional" about.

After THAT, I told him what he can do with himsself and blocked all his IM's and emails.

I want to give up on this.

Any advice would be welcome! MY BULL HORNS ARE COMING OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!


What an sphincter muscle!!! I had a guy tell me once if you were thinner you would be drop dead gorgeous!!!! I was floored and simply replied I am already gorgeous! Some men seem to think that size equates beauty when in fact it does not! I have seen some tore up thin things out there



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Posted on Sun, Jun 11, 2006 14:56

Swtldyiam write:
Met a man claimed to be a man of God even said he was a preacher at one time, corresponded with him for over 2 years before meeting him in person. Uncertain what came over him, he decides to flash me. I screamed, "What's that?" very loudly. In my entire 40 yrs on this earth I have never seen an uncircumcised and an ugly one, it really traumatized me, because of that I often have flashbacks. In the future how do I approach a potential prospect in asking if he's circumcised?

Fifonfif don't give up keep your head up girl, he knew he was a loser before meeting you; he spoke the words in existence.


I had the same thought when I moved to the UK....in USA, all Christians are circumsized, but over here, you only do when you are Jewish or have to have it done medically. Not so bad once you get used to it! I used to ask people if they were cut or uncut, if that helps? But I now know that anyone I meet over here will not be....

  


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Posted on Tue, Jun 06, 2006 10:53

You're quite lucky that you discovered that this guy was such a loser BEFORE you became more deeply involved. Personally, I don't see how anyone could possibly be as insensitive and ignorant as he was. Now, he's the type who was looking for only one thing; his own gratification. Maybe it might be a good idea to think about how your friendship progressed and see if there were any clues along the way. If there were then you could use them when you meet someone again; having a set of guidlines and "rules" might help prevent a similar occurance and it might ease your anxieties and make you seem more friendly and approachable.



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Posted on Mon, Jun 05, 2006 11:47

Just wanted to say hi, Fif. I see you're still getting the same old run arounds. /sigh I'm sorry to hear that darling.

It would seem no matter how old some are, they still have a juvenile streak in them. Not bashing all guys, cause there are some really great ones out there too. If only I lived in the same zip code. OYE VEH!

Girl, I've had some adventures! HAHAHA!

Hope this finds you well.

~Aijin~



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Posted on Tue, May 30, 2006 02:15

You can be reassured you are way too pretty for him & he knows it, he couldnt handle it. By trying to make you feel bad made him feel superior probably because of his "short comings" heehee. I bet everything he has told you about himself was a lie. I am sure You lucked out big time.
You will find who deserves you when you least expect it. You are beautiful, don't ever forget it. ;o)

  


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Posted on Thu, May 18, 2006 22:11

He showed his true personality. It is
so easy to portray an image behind a
screen but can you pull it off in person? (sigh) I am starting to wonder
what exactly is in the water these days
LoL! I wish you the best and I am hoping
that there are still some decent people
out there...Since I have been on here, I
can honestly say that some are already
showing some BAD qualities discouraging,
yet very insightful! If you can't mantain a pattern online, imagine an
individual in person! Also...the words
or lack there of! Hmmm

  


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Posted on Tue, May 16, 2006 18:44

Why is he on this site if he wants 'cute' (im assuming slimmer) girls??? What a complete idiot - stay well away from, him and get yourself a decent guy - imsure there are some nice, decent guys on here....... somewhere

  


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Posted on Tue, May 09, 2006 20:48

That guy's a tool. You're better off. Basically, he told you if you have extra poundage then you're not really considered a person. You "embarrass" him. That's complete BS. I applaud you for kicking his sorry arse to the proverbial curb. You're a hottie. Keep your chin up :-) :-)



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Posted on Tue, May 09, 2006 09:47

I don't think that's peculiar just to LF .... it seems to happen all the time in the dating world.

People get stood up, sometimes intentionally sometimes a genuine problem. We get used to it, decide if the person warrants a second chance, and get on with it.

I don't know if men are any better or worse than women - I'm sure it happens to both. But there's no point beating yourself up about it ... just chalk it up to experience and get on with your life

Biirdy x



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Posted on Mon, May 08, 2006 14:44

I guess some guys are just jerks, just as some of us women are witches.

I was emailing a local guy here, we exchanged numbers, later on agreed to meet. Of course, he stood me up, then when I IM'ed him to tell him he was a jer and why had he done that, he said he had fallen alseep and didn't wake in time, please give another chance, yada yada yada.

Told me he would call the next day, it's been 3 weeks. I kinda knew by the next day he wasn't going to call.

I don't understand..why go to all that trouble and then act like that. It's just dishonest and mean, and I hope he sees this.

  


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Posted on Wed, Apr 05, 2006 08:34

Ok the guy is an complete IDIOT! Your hot... any guy would be lucky to git you. Hummm... I have some guy friends... No I promised myself that I would never match make. Matchmaking can ruin a friendship, but I could tell him about this site... he would probably be to shy to contact you though. Oh, well. Don't give up, for every bad one there is a dozen good ones, they just are married, gay, are relatives, or they are to shy because of a fear of rejection. So continue your hunt for the right man... Hes out their, hes just hiding.



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Posted on Sat, Apr 01, 2006 23:16

I don't mind that I may have to kiss a few frogs before I find a real prince. My gosh, for all I know, the frogs I kiss might be thinking that they've been kissing a bunch of female toads that they'd hoped would turn into lovely princesses.

Eh, sometimes dates go well, some go bad. Sometimes you stay in contact, sometimes you don't. Who cares. I'm still gonna ante up....

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Posted on Sat, Apr 01, 2006 20:42

Dont worry-I'm collecting idiots at the moment too.



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Posted on Fri, Mar 31, 2006 04:44

I too had a bad experience with a guy from here. We exchsnged 170+ emails in just a few days and he was so adamant about honesty and caring, he said he had some winks from other ladies closer to him and he told them he was in a relationshipt and wanted to see where it goes. Then BAM it stopped and he IM'd me on here and reinforced it well I had a friend wink him and he wainked back at her too so I give up I think all men that I have met so far have been real bad. Whats a lady to do?

  


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Posted on Thu, Mar 30, 2006 06:35

Smart move!! If someone wants to hide you from friends goes to show you what a low life, egotistical moron he is. And yes always meet in public no matter what...Safety. I have yet to meet anyone on here...Im so scared, lol. Dating again isnt so fun anymore..Well good luck to you and you are a beautiful person like all of us here..Keep the Faith..

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Posted on Fri, Jul 15, 2005 19:48

Or because maybe he has an agenda to hurt you in private -

Good judgement Fif, when someone can't meet you in public, doesn't matter what their agenda is, stay away.

Keep safe.

Skarlett



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