How do you handle the loneliness? Message board

  • View author's info posted on May 15, 2005 12:39

    I wish I was in your neck of the woods - we could go to a movie and have LOTS of girl talk about the guy 'things' - haha
    Seriously, I think loneliness is what you make of it - if I want to be around people....I get out there....if not....then I think I'm my best company.
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  • View author's info posted on May 11, 2005 21:19

    I just wanted to make an observation about this topic and similar ones... when it comes to talk about deep or very special issues that (we all) may go through in our lives, such as loneliness, or sentimental rejection or stuff like that, 99% of the responses and support comes from other women to women ( that is great), but why is that?.. do other boys don't really care?, or consider it to be girl-talk?, or simply can't come out with something good, or supportive?...
    Boys get lonely too, and sad or need a girl (thats why we are here, isn't it?) - the majority of us, at least -
  • View author's info posted on May 10, 2005 22:32

    Like everything.. balance is a big part of our live. Its good to be alone some of the time. There are times when i find being alone the best thing, but there are times when i want to be with a buddy. There are people everywhere that are looking for friends.. you just gotta find them, try looking somewhere you wouldnt usually look... and who cares.. go to a movie, shopping by yourself.. its no big deal.
  • View author's info posted on May 10, 2005 17:14

    I agree w/ Rockchick-- try and not look at it as being "alone" but its YOU time. When I first became single years ago I just refused to become a hermit and learned to enjoy my own company ...after all no one to argue with about where to go, what to see, :)
  • View author's info posted on May 07, 2005 08:32

    Is there a college near you? At lots of the community colleges around here you can take classes on different making, cooking, pottery, candy making and stuff like that at night. They are usually cheap.. $40 or so for several classes. They have huge catalogs of neat classes like that, most of the people in their have plenty of free time so it might be a great place to meet people, men and woman. Plus it gives you a reason to get out and be there and more of a chance to meet someone cause you are in a class with them.
  • View author's info posted on May 06, 2005 16:27

    If you are uncomfortable being alone, thats actually a good thing. It will help to get out there and try new things (remember all those things you said you wanted to do.......well nows the time to do them).

    I am not making lite of your issues with lonelyness they are real but you are already taking the first steps to changing that your here on this site. the rest will follow in time... (not what you wanted to hear).

    Better your continued uncomfortability with being alone then becoming to used to it which is the real danger.
  • View author's info posted on May 06, 2005 14:19

    My suggestion would be if it's something that's bothering you a lot, find a club/evening class in something that you enjoy doing, or maybe have always wanted to learn.

    I belong to an amateur drama group, ok, there's not many single people in that either, but at least it gets me out the house for at least one night a week doing something I enjoy and have fun doing. We have a laugh, when we're not working on a production we'll organise ourselves to go out and see some productions going on in nearby theatres. We usually have at least one party a year as well (usually more though :)).

    When my father died my mum took up some evening classes, things like first aid and bridge (though obviously not both at the same time (not sure bridge is known for needing any first aiders is it? :))). I took up learning to make lace for a while as well as an evening class, we had some fun chats as I recall, sitting there in class with a load of bobbins sat in front of me, wondering if I'd ever get the hang of twisting them around each other so they made something with a recognisable pattern.

    It can be a bit daunting to go to these things on your own at first, but I've usually found it's really on the first time you go that's the problem, like a first day at a new job when you don't know anyone, by the time you go back again for the second time/day, someone's bound to come up and say hi to you.
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