i think it's one thing to say that u are attracted to the contrast of another color, it's a whole other ball game when u use the excuse of being mistreated by your own, WHAT?...so if u get mistreated, by different races u are then going to become gay....anyways it is your life and u an adult ...for the record i've dated interracially but i date MEN period ...and growing up in a mulitcultural society i've discoverd one thing, there are jerks in every race, colour does not dictate a person's personality or attitiude, theres good and bad in everyone...that's the truth..I'm all for people dating whoever the wish...it's just that i wish some will stop using an unfounded belief why a whole racial gender is better than another....you entitled to your preference and reason....just my two cents
I'm a black male looking for someone that i can click with and someone that will want to be friends...best friends and build on a relationship from that foundation. i'm meeting people on here but it just doesn't seem like they're interested in going to another level. look forward to talking to some people.
I think many women on this site are into finding the right person for them Not necessarily looking for a particular race- just the right person. i myself don't really have a racial preference- i think personality is far more important. But i have heard on good account that black men are great lovers...Good Luck!
linden write: lauralauras. You are quite true in your comments. But I'll venture to say this if you and others agree or disagree then so be it. I think people generally pay to much time and energy on the "myth" of race. What is race really??? When in fact we should get to know people from the way they think, etc.
While I totally agree that people should appreciate people for who they are I must say that to ignore the cultural differences the commonly occur within various ethnic/racial groups isn't productive either. I think that there are distinct commonalities that occur within racial/ethnic groups and it is not wrong to recognize that they are many times a trait to that particular group.
I also don't think that having a preference for a physical characteristic--i.e. skin of color, larger lips, etc. can be labled as anything other than a preference unless it is formed out of a stereotypical idea of what those characteristics may mean. However, as intelligent people we should also recognize that because you fall into a racial/ethnic group does not mean that you share the general characteristics nor the general cultural ideals of that group. Just my two cents.
Hey linden, it's not a myth; there are things out there that seem to affect folks of a certain heritage... sickle-cell anemia is something that tends to only affect blacks, I think it's Tay-Sachs that only affects Jewish people, etc. There are also racial differences in muscle structure (just do a web search.) That's been scientifically proven. So, no, "race" isn't a "myth."
Having said that, there are a lot of folks out there who are turned on by the contrasts in skin color.
And there are those who have been mistreated by folks of their own race, and found the opposite gender of another race to be more loving and accepting towards them.