I always hated my body (came into this world weighing almost 10lbs; have been a BBW from birth!) until I went to West Africa as an undergrad. Men there love large women! I've since been back to several different countries several times for research (I'm a medical anthropologist) & have had the same wonderful response to my body. I can even go get clothes made to my size in the market; I'm not relegated to one store at the mall! It's sooooo liberating!
I am a BBW or at least thats what I consider myself to be..I"m 5'0 and 195 lbs..I can still shop in most regular stores.....well some at least lol I see that most bbws like bigger men too, I prefer lil bitty skinny guys lol My signifigant other is 130 lbs. I get really frustrated because for the most part I am either too big ( for the guys and girls that like toothepicks) or too small for most people that like bbws....what happened to liking women because they are confident and have good personalities? Why is everything about who is what size? And while I am saying this I am just as guilty as the next person...I like my guys rail thin...and Ilike my girls between a size 16 and a 22. LOL all in all I think that everyones definition of whats fat and whats a BBW will differ...I personally do not think it's about Size but about Your personality
wow, its amazing how many different definitions for BBW there are---but i can tell you that the BIG and BEAUTIFUL part are relative, and the WOMEN well hell that can be relative too nowadays--- JUST REMEMBER ONE MANS TRASH IS ANOTHER MANS TREASURE---i know that on both sides of the scale, there can be shallowness ---whether you ONLY like em slim, or you ONLY like em BIG, they are equally shallow---love eachother for the sustanance because weight gain and loss are BOUND to happen---
bbw are more then just into who and what they or other tell then who they are- like the stick girls. a man wants a woman he can man-handle her with out the fear that he is going to break her into little pieces. pluse bbw are a bit more advanturous in my opinion, we know how to live life to the fullest
Ahhhhh Women. I got to say, I work with a lot of women. Lot are skinny, some are curvy, and yes there are some good sized women. Very true, some of the women are all up into themselves. And there are the laid back type also. From all shapes of person. Its not the size of the person that makes up the attitude. But you can tell the bigger people who have been judged and hurt, and oh yeah u can see the attitude. But i definitly feel their pain, because i am a big man myself, and yeah, I have been dissed too. And I sometimes share the same attitude. Put keep shootin for your man or gal. Gimmie a holla if ya wanna chat
WELL (SOUTHERHUX) A BBW IS WHAT I SAY AND THINK A REAL WOMAN IS,YOU SEE BBW SHOW THER MEN WHAT HAVING A REAL AND TRUE LOVE IS ALL ABOUT,I MEAN YOU ARE STRONG,CARING,LOVEING,AND HONEST MOST MEN DON'T KNOW OR EVEN WANT TO KNOW WHAT THATS ALL ABOUT,YOU DON,T JUDGE A MAN FOR HIS FALTS,YOU HELP HIM THROUGH AND OVER COME ALL THAT AND WILL STAND BESIDE HIM TIL THE VERY END,YOU HAVE A WAY OF LETTING A MAN KNOW HE'S ALIVE,A SMALL WOMAN WILL HURT YOU CAUSE SHE DON'T CARE ETHER WAY THEY ARE ALL UP ON THEMSELFS AND CAN'T HOLD A HEART AS BIG AS A MAN LIKE ME WANTS TO HAVE AND SEE,ALL THIS YOU CAN'T GET ANYPLACE BUT WITH A BIG BEAUTIFUL WOMAN (BBW)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
There a a lot of interesting thoughts on why men like BBW. I think is simple, ladies you are some of the most genuine and honest people I have ever had the pleasure of talking to (Also very attractive). You wear your heart on your sleeve and I believe what you say when you speak. The Barbie dolls often care more about themselves more than anybody else and say things to please their intended audience. I think that some of the most attractive ladies are BBW and many can be found on this site. I will continue to enjoy chatting and making friends with as many as possible. BBW are best!
I just want to say thanks to all you guys who are so supportive of BBWs. It's not easy being the odd one out, but knowing that there are guys like you out there who appreciate us, makes it easier to think a compliment is really sincere. Grimlaw, you're a real keeper!
It's true that BBW means something different to everyone.I don't particularly like tags,but it helps to describe my body size,so there is no surprises later.
I think for some of the younger women in this thread,it's tough to find a man your own age.Some younger guys haven't gotten comfortable with their desires yet,and are still worried about what their friends may think or say if they date a larger woman.
It also depends on where you live.In Washington State, I believe there are more BBW's so it is accepted readily.I've spent the winter in Tucson Az. and I feel like I stand out in the crowd,LOL. Not very many tall, white BBW's here,but I look at it as a plus,I sure don't lack for attention.
Stay strong and true to yourself, the right one will come along.Have fun looking until then.
This is a first for me, but such musings and some fine answers deserve response and re-enforcement. BBW means a lovely woman that is happy with herself and comfortable. To my experiance, the most fun loving, pleasent people to spend time with and thus easy to love are happy pretty women with no petty concerns about figures or nonsense. A general attitude of enjoyment of life coupled with a pretty face and open mindedness are very attractive to me. And I know I'm not alone in that attitude. Be happy with who you are and live life - thats the best way to find an intimate companion. Smile!
I am a Tall..XL(xtra lovely):-) lady...I will admit there were times in my teens I hated my body..and would not allow a man to appreciate it. Now...I celebrate my fiqure...and I am sexy..and soft..and cuddly..and am glad there are Men out there who want to find out just how cuddly and warm I really am. Ladies...celebrate the Shape you are givin....hold your head up high...go purchase that lovely..lacey piece of lingerie...and enjoy it.
I am new to this! Boy I can relate about being told I was bigger than expected! I met a guy from yahoo personals a while back and I kept teliing him I was no way under a siz14
he said it was the inside that counted! Well we had met and I knew neither him nor I were attracted to each other(yes ladies he was a lil skinnier that I thought)!
He later he told me I was short and my weight was an issue! Um I was like you know its not my loss! IF a guy cant like me for what I look like inside and out then I could care less! So ladies, keep your chin up we are all beautiful in one way or another, weight is just a number!