I think that preferences are just that -preferences. They aren't deal breakers, just something that you would want if you could get your perfect match. Besides you never know, you might meet someone who makes you want something you never realize you wanted.
Thanks for your interest, MrGW, but I am taken. I met my man on this site in March and we have been together ever since. If you notice, the only physical preferences that I listed in my profile were that my potential mate be MALE, (of course!! LOL!!) and 5'7" tall. Well, my man is MALE and 5'6" tall. After chatting with him on IM and talking to him on the phone, I did not care what he looked like, how tall he was or how much money he made because I really liked him and hoped that he liked me too.
I guess that I posed the question because it seems that there are alot of people on this site who have not found a mate and I was wondering if part of the reason might be because of the preferences listed on their profiles. I know that we all have preferences, but does that mean that we won't be happy with someone unless they possess the physical characteristics that we prefer?
I don't know how this thread of conversation started, but speaking about getting what one wants, I have noticed that many of the female profiles list physical preferences that may exclude some male members. Preferences such as height, race, hair color or bald versus full head of hair. What I would like to know is how strong are your preferences? MUST your potential mate have the PHYSICAL attributes that you list on your profile? What are you willing to settle for in order to meet the person who may be your potential mate?
Not to sound like an old biddy, but I've always believed we always get the things we NEED to survive in life, but not always the things we WANT. People matter far more to me than material things, and I think I'm rich in the things that matter most: the love of my family and friends.
I mean..have you ever hugged a sports car? They are nice to have, fun to ride in, and get you places, but they don't hold you when you're having a bad day, make you laugh at a funny joke or tuck you in bed at night at the end of the day. I can replace anything..except for the people I hold dear in my life.
The rich get what they want materialistically speaking, but money can't buy you love and happiness.
Yes, we can all get what we want, if we really know what we want in the first place!
If it was easy to get what you wanted all the time, we would not appreciate things we have worked hard to get, like saving up for a new dress or going out for a meal in a "posh" restuarant. There would be no sense of achievement in getting the things you really wanted in the first place.
Just My Opinion.....full of them.....hehehe
Could it be that what we think we want is not what we truly want, but just what we have been conned into believing we need. For example do we really NEED lots of money, fast cars or big houses? Surely all we need are good friends. Sorry that?s it for my 'newage' ramble.. smile have fun.