Tessdeerose, I like your reasoning. I guess there must be some really slimy, creepy people out there who would need "discretion" and stuff. I'm a Married man who is on this site BECAUSE I really think a larger woman is so much more sexy and attractive than any skinny, no shape (if you know what I mean) little drip.
my significant other and i had an understanding before we committed to each other, we both have friends of the opposite , it seems vital to a balanced individuals outlook on humans need for others.
I have several female friends, they're all different in character, but there is a certain good feeling you get from making your own personal friendship with a special individual.
It's the understanding of worth and that romance is a tool to be used as it expands the canvas of life you paint on.
Your significant other appreciates that you are still vital and working to be better.
I'm sorry, I know no perfect person.
I think you have to be open with your partner if you're going to have a platonic friend. I'm in an open relationship with my partner so being open and honest is a vital element for us.....but for most guys fibbing is the norm....sadly!
Hi, I'm new to the site and just catching up. I completely agree the married men can have female friends. But the spouse must be completely aware of the friendship and any extra-cirricular activites the two may engage in. And yes my wife knows exactly what I am doing and I know exactly what she is doing. Both parties must be in complete agreement and acceptance of the "OPEN" relationship. If not then resentment will foster and more then likely end the relatonship completely.
I must say that I personally see no reason why a married man cannot have female friends as long as his wife is aware of it. I have several male friends I have met online who are married. I have chatted with most of their wives as well.... I give them suggestions on what to do to keep their wives happy and they appreciate hearing the woman's perspective. Would I ever do anything to jeapordize his/their marriage? NEVER! I can distinguish between friendship and something more. As long as it is all above board, I see no problems with it. I personally find it easier to be friends with men rather than women.
Red said upon returning from a bit of time away, that there were to many changes that she did not care for. She gave the site "three strikes" and said she was leaving, but wished all well. So she is doing just fine, it was just her time to move on. Maybe she'll come back in the future. *smile*
The posts I have read from married men looking for female friends has been those that want a "discreet" female friend. We all know what that means. I think people can be friends married or not. You just have to be open and honest. Besides, If a married person really wants a friend of the opposite gender, then why come to the internet under a Fictitious name and ask to be discreet about it.
Besides, your spouse or partner should also be your best friend. Thats my opinion anyway.
I'm still confused as to where Red has disappeared to. Steve thinks you may have some ideas, and i'm sure he'd love to hear them....as would Doe_Bear, but if you could enlighten me, i'd be very grateful (I love a good mystery!!)
I have a feeling our dear friend Red, must have left the site for good. Maybe she and her hubby have found some other fun ways to spend their time. We shall miss her. Do you have any ideas Miss Southernhux???
I think that having a women friend when you are married can cause problems. Even though it is possible, there is a very fine line that you need to be aware of. You need to be open and honest with your spouse about your friend. Even let her meet your wife and get to know her also.