I've found in my dating life, like some one previously stated that there seems to be an assumption that because I'm a bigger woman I'm easy because I'm desperate. This upsets me on one level because it's a sad and incorrect assumption, but on the other hands for the men who can't deal with or accept that I'm not easy at all, it weeds them out. I'm confident that I will find the person I am meant to be with and they will love me just as I am. Good luck to everyone.
It's really hard to find guys my age they like big girls. From what I read on this tread that my size 9/10 isn't big. But compared to the girls around me I'm big and what I see everyday with girls I went to school with and guys my age only want the skinny ***.
i think bigger girls a re sexy!!!! I admit in high school I was afraid to talk to or being seen with a bbw, but that's society's fault. They make it seem like there's something wrong with you. My last girlfriend was 5'8" 260 size 20/22 in the beginning yes I LOVED playing with her 44DD boobs, but then I started to focus on her sexxxxy soft belly, she could not to this day EVER understand why????? She never accepted the fact that a guy can actually find a bigger girl sexy???? And once we broke up, she hit the gym :-(. I've been with both sexy(big girls) and skinny (bleh) , and sticks figures are only good when plying hang man. I wish society would STOP putting in everybody's head that they have to be a size 6 or smaller to be sexy. Look it goes both ways, for if you're confident you'll feel good about yourself and attract more people, that goes for a guy or a girl.
I am a ssbbw and have had a hard time finding someone to love me for me. I'm a hard worker, honest,faithful and (I think) alot of fun to be with. I figure something must be wrong with me. :-(
I'm obviously looking in the wrong places, or perhaps they don't exist here in Southern illinois!! LOL I know my profile pic isn't the best in the world as I look mad at the world.. but I just hateeeee having my picture taken!
There are alot of men out there who love us big girls......Society tells us that to be accepted we have to be smaller then a size 12.....I dont think so!!!!! what gets me are the guys who say they are totally into bigger chicks but on the other side of the coin think we are so desperate for acceptance and love that we are willing to jump into bed with them immediately...... i am down for a good time and all but even that has limits.....
Of course there are. Im one of those men you seek. I was married for 8 1/2 yrs to a bbw, but she went looking outside our relationship even though I was giving her what she needed. Her self esteem went down hill from the guys with 6 pack abs, yet she never met one of them. Fluffy, Im still single and looking. I havent found a woman interested in me thats single/divorced, widowed or legally separated. I am divorced and have the papers to prove it. and Im 45 so to be 46. I been with a woman 13 yrs older and it was very nice. Just dont want the grown children to make decisions for we are the adults. Do you know of any single, available women wanting this guy. Let me know, even if its you, wink.
I just read the posts on this forum for the first time & felt that I had to comment on the two posts that said a size 14/16 isn't considered a large woman. (Is this why the users are no longer available? Were they afraid of too many people disagreeing with them?)
I get so sick & tired of BBW's who say that being a size 14 or 16 isn't considered a BBW. All of my teen & adult life I had been a size 14 & 16 and was constantly being made fun of for being "fat" & didn't get the guys like my thinner friends did. The junior & senior proms passed me by because I didn't have anyone to go with.
I am no longer those sizes and would be THRILLED if I could get back to where I once was since I now have a myriad of health problems due to my weight and poor eating habits.
I've attended BBW dances and overheard women commenting on other women who were at the smaller spectrum of the BBW scale(in other words, sizes 14, 16, 18), saying "What are THEY doing here? THEY don't belong here!" I mean, really, who the heck did these women think they were? Just because the women were smaller than the ones putting their respective feet in their mouths didn't mean that they weren't considered BBW's to the rest of society's eyes. The smaller women had every right to be at those dances & I believe that the larger BBW's were just jealous of them & felt that many of the guys who were at these dances would be attracted to the smaller BBW's which is why they made their nasty comments.
I guess it doesn't matter if you're thin or overweight, some women are just so critical of other women when they really should learn to be accepting & tolerant of one another since this is why they were attending these dances in the first place. They wanted to feel comfortable & accepted where at a regular bar or dance club they wouldn't be. I truly feel that jealously is such a waste of time!
Yes, it is absolutely possible to love a BBW. Let's look at the levels:
1) Large women don't break. Tall, short or in between, when you hug a BBW, by God, you know you're hugging a woman! You hug her, she hugs back and you feel closer.
2) Self-confidence. Big women know their big. A big woman that knows she is big and loves herself for who she is is someone to grab a hold of. She has a developed sense of self, and from my experience, doesn't play games. Flip side is a BBW that knows who she rarely takes crap from anyone. She probably has experience being on her own and isn't afraid, so she doesn't have to settle.
3) Sense of humor. Think about it: If you had to deal with anorexic stick figures and the media telling you how much you suck, you develop a thick skin and a sense of humor or a willingness to buy ammo by the case.
So yeah, a man can love a BBW. All he has to have is eyes, an IQ north of his shoe size and a desire to love someone.
i always wonder what a guys real idea is of a big girl. Cuz like i said ealier... 14/16 really isnt that big AT ALL. Thats maybe a few extra pounds and some curves but thats not big by any means! Unless you're 5'0"
They say they like a big but or big boobs or whatever... but not all fat chics have big boobs.. they're just fat! Seriously what attracts you to that?? Even on a site like this i'm still skeptical.