Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. Most men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they sometimes take the apples from the ground that aren't as good, but are easy. The apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they're amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the one who is brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.
Now Men.... Men are like a fine wine. They begin as grapes, and it's up to women to stomp the sh*t out of them until they turn into something acceptable to have dinner with!!
Everyone has made good points on here. Yes, Kazza, I sometimes agree. A few weeks ago, before I had discovered BBW dating sites, I was ready to throw in the towel. Not that my experiences could compare to yours! Just sick fed up with being told how much less of a woman I am because I'm not a size 10. I am an opptimist as well though, and keep hoping that THE ONE for me will appear someday (hopefully before the need for incontinence pads and false teeth come). As my friend says...what's for you won't go past you. And Sharpy makes a good point about love too...I have known it, and although the ending of it just about tore my heart out, I'm glad that I have known it. So head up! :) I'm sure that we'll all find what we're looking for...someday.
First ... I completely feel for you on the alcoholic that wet the bed. Been there, done that -and all I got was this lousey T-Shrit. LOL
Need a man? No... but it is in all of our nature to WANT a partner. We are here to be coupled and reproduce (and have a helluva good time doing it!). We have to wade through the "losers" to get to the good ones. Finally, after 10 years of searching, and wading I think I've found mine. :-)
now kazza, don't take this the wrong way but, men don't stay around if they are not wanted, so they question you should be asking yourself is why you keep choosing men who have potentially dangerous personalities....don't get me wrong i've been in a bad realtionship but in the end i choose to end it and i choose spend the time afterward for reflection....even with the best con artists there are flags that we are alerted to ...now i don't know where you met these gentlemen , but in my past experience after a couple of e-mails and in some cases calls the "bad apple" men tend to rare their ugly head...so it's so long ...i'm glad that in every situation you got out almost unscathed, especailly with the last individual, those types of men make me go into killing mode ....u ask how do you know ...by patience, by taking the time to get to know someone, by doing a background check (i know it's makes you squemish right, but u don't want to be the headline of the news, and i'm not suggesting doing a crimnal check on every guy who talks to you, but if things are getting serious and you met him online, i feel it should be done by both male and female- i've yet to do myself, usually the bad ones are too narcissistic that they don't realize what a$$es they are making of themselves), by getting to know that person ....yeah you might get fooled a couple of times, but there are great men out there and you just need to sort the apple barrel and find him...but it takes time...maybe it's my naviete, maybe because i come from family were my parents have been married 54 years...i believe there are good people out there, like everything it takes work and initative...some days it's discouraging but that's life right, u just get up and try again, i'm eternal optimistic (some days, today i am).... i never attribute the actions of one individual to all, there are good and bad in everything ...and that's what u got to remember, once again please don't be offended, it was not my intention, just don't give up hope.
Attributed to Gloria Steinem of the early and current feminist movement: a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. And the door swings both ways. (in grammar school we were told NEVER, never, never start a sentence with 'and', yet all the BIG periodicals do it, as do news papers....I digress) Sometimes I feel the same way. The lies, the cheating, luckily no pedophiles, yet, but it does become more discouraging.