Cathii write: I have a question... all these guys say they wouldnt care *being seen* with a big woman (i also wanna know how big is big), and they would lover her etc etc, yadda yadda, well what happens if and when that *big woman* decides to become a *smaller woman*, would you still love her and treat her like your queen, or do u discard her because she lost weight?
I'd stick with her. It'd be the woman I fell in love with, not the body. Well, ok so the body had something to do with it, but not so much that I'd base staying or going on that.
However, for me it did take some time to find the courage to actually pursue BBWs and to be comfortable in public with them. The reason for this is that showing the world that you prefer big woman is almost like coming out to be gay. I think this may be a big reason why many men are uncomfortable to be seen with a BBW.
My friends still laugh at me when we?re out and I?m approaching a big girl. They think I?m crazy, because I have no problems in getting skinny good looking girls, I just don?t want to.
I don't think I want to be the subject of a man deciding he's finally "Brave enough" to be seen in public with me. I guess I'll just be single forever before feeling like that.
I find the attitude of being ashamed to be seen with a big woman to be utterly hateful and anyone who feels that way deserves to be horse-whipped.
What kind of craven creature is so utterly in thrall to the opinions of others that he's willing to ignore his own tastes, his sense of right and wrong and the feelings of the woman he's with?
Such people deserve to be castrated and then have their face mutilated so that for the rest of the lives all they'll ever hear are the screams of children and the laughter of their parents as they shamble down the street.
I love BBWs. As long as I can remember, I've been attracted to everything about them. If I can help it, the woman who becomes my wife will be a BBW(almost married one, till I discoverd she cheated-but that's another story).
That said, I would not only be seen in public with a BBW, but I'd show how much I loved her whether anyone else likes it or not. And should anyone make any disparaging remarks about her...well, you can fill in the blanks.
If you don't believe what you've just read, I don't know what to tell you. It's how I honestly feel. :)
xciter ... interesting what you said about being seen with a big girl in public is like "coming out" when u are gay ... I wouldnt have thought of it in that way .... either way you look at it really, not saying you suk, saying that I didnt realise it was that DIFFICULT for some to be seen with a bigger gal ...
I wouldn't mind being seen in public with a large woman, it doesn't bother me. If you got it flaunt it ! With a "woman of size" there is more to love and to hold. I'd rather be out in public with a "woman of size" than a slender one, or skinny one.
JENN_RIDES_A_VTX write: Hi- I am fairly new to this site. I was pretty stoked to find site-came into it with an open mind and hopes of meeting some good people. After doing a search of men in and near my state I have found the following. There are approximately 80 personals from men near me. There are only about 10-12 photo's. The MAJORITY of the personals state they are married looking for sex...just sex. I also found that many of the screen names in my area use "69" in some way or another and/or put in their screen names how endowed they are. One asks for "a feeder"- what the heck is that? One asks to be dominated and there is one with a picture of a man in diapers with a Binky in his mouth asking to be treated like a baby! OMG! I have been out of the dating scene awhile. Is this how it really is?
Egads, and I always had an image of Idaho being such a quiet unassuming place. A "feeder" is someone that gets off on making someone larger by feeding them (yeah, weird huh?). Unfortunately I think you're just getting a look at the oddballs (for some reason there's a lot of them near you though), but there's plenty of us normal guys out there too.
It's no different here then on most dating sites. A gal gets hit on for sex more often then not. It's just part of the online dating thing. I belong to another site that also has a forum and the number one complaint from the gals, all shapes and sizes is that most of the guys are only looking for one thing, and it isn't love. lol Ya just got to sort through it all. There are some nice guys who are seeking more then just a sexual encounter.
Abigal, What a terrible thing for you to feel so bad. Maybe you might wish to put somthing in your profile which says you only wish to hear from real men (and not these ignorant.........) then when you get a letter from the bad ones just delete it. Another idea might be to stipulate, in your profile, that you'll only answer those letters coming from men who have a complete profile. I do feel bad that you've found some of the jerks here. Just try to ignore them
Had I known that you were thinking the exact same thing as I am/ was/ am... whatever- I would have saved my time not typing.
I can't help by be discouraged. My experience with guys have been that of, "I don't want a girlfriend Awesome.
And then I discovered this site and low and behold, those same assholes have found this site as well. No longer do they have to get drunk and approach me in secrecy, now they can do it online and be even more secretive.
This is frustrating! Especially when I come across a number of men in my region who are, according to their profiles, interested and attracted to BBW's and yet can't muster up the guts to show their faces. Why is that? Call me pessimistic (and I'm sure many of you will) but I'm discouraged.
No BBW's aren't just for sex. There are genuine guys out there looking for something real with a girl, be she average, athletic, bbw, or etc.
The problem is that some BBW's have ruined it for others. They are the type who is looking for societies approval and try to get that nice male trophy on their arm (yeah guys aren't the only ones whom do that). Hence they lend themselves to being some guy who won't acknowledge them in person's little secret s*x buddy in the hopes he'll really like her and make her his real girlfriend.
Guys aren't stupid and for these guys that are looking for a s*x buddy they know that there are lots of BBW's whom will give them what they want if they are average size and look anywhere decent looking. Thus, they get the notion that BBW's are their perfect type of girls to find for their occassional s*xual release.
Sorry to be a bit negative, but the truth is this goes on everyday. I've seen it far too often. I'll tell you what two skinny frat guys whom I just happen to be walking very close behind when I was an undergrad at Clemson: a guy they knew road by on a moped and they one of them said "I'd get a moped, but they are like fat ch*cks fun to ride until someone you know catches you." I'm a big guy myself and I thought to myself that's f'ed up, I only wish what these big girls knew some of these guys really thought of them.
I do think that BBW's are mistreated by men as are women of any size. One way to avoid this is to get to know someone first before having sex with them. You can judge a person's character by how they treat you in public when you go out on dates. I also pay attention to how they treat my friends and others in general.
On the other hand if you just want a sexual relationship those things will not matter.
PinkPenguins write: Guys see bbws as a easy score honestly.. Because we are more tend to have low self esteem problems.. Not that all do!! But I've actualy herd guys say.. "well fat girls give it up easy" So unless you are luckey.. And actualy can find one that really wantes a relashionship with a bbw.. I'de say most do just use bbws for fun yea..
Damn.. Well.. I'm looking for the BBW's who DONT have low self esteem problems..
I've found that Low self esteem problems tends to lead to other issues down the track (the hard way)..